Whom do you typically speak with regarding personal matters?

@Shavkat (140443)

Philippines

September 29, 2023 5:13pm CST

I am sure that most of you do share some personal matters here, but not all. For me, I used to tell my mom about some of them. Since she is not here anymore, I just kept it to myself or told some of my close friends if there was a chance. Of course, I am cautious when doing it. There are times that friends can be a backfighter if the relationship turns sour. If they do, they are not real friends in the end. Do you frequently discuss private topics with others? Did someone backstab you?

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@RasmaSandra (84651)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

29 Sep 23

I have no one to discuss anything with. I do the best I can on my own,

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

30 Sep 23

I also do the same thing. I cannot share some personal problems to my siblings.

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@ShyBear88 (59347)

• Sterling, Virginia

30 Sep 23

It depends on what you consider a personal matter might not be the same to someone else. What I choice to tell someone is based on my comfort and trust in them or the fact that it doesn't require test to state if something is bother me even if it isn't personal. I talk a lot about my family but I pick and what it is I want to tell, same with my book topics that I'm working on what might happen inside of the book.

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@ShyBear88 (59347)

• Sterling, Virginia

30 Sep 23

@Shavkat A lot of things is a life lesson how else do you learn then from experiences.

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

30 Sep 23

During my younger years, my life was an open book. But then, it changed when I experienced many bad things for those whom I thought could be trusted. Now, I have learned to choose what topics or secrets to share. Recently, I just kept them to myself and dealt with them solely.

@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

1 Oct 23

@ShyBear88 I agree with you.

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@crossbones27 (50488)

• Mojave, California

29 Sep 23

Honestly, I do not tell anyone much anymore other than Mylot. People to stressed out these days and just best to keep it to myself. I try to tell my sister things and she has enough on her plate being retired. Its just not fair she should be enjoying her life at this point in her life. I really am upset at the way the world is going making people so stressed even retired. If I tell her something it stresses me out more how she is going to react, so now I have a rule, never tell your sister that.

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

1 Oct 23

@crossbones27 They should not know that I am gossiping about them here. Just kidding. It is a good thing that the person who referred me here is not active anymore. It was a blessing in disguise to find a discussion site and earn at the same time, which I considered a bonus.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (318816)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

30 Sep 23

It's rare when I trust someone with personal matters. I was back-stabbed a lot growing up.

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

30 Sep 23

At present, I am quite choosy when it comes to trusting and making friends. The reason is what you had mentioned. I do not want to feel being betrayed.

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

1 Oct 23

@just4him I agree. If this person did this to me, he or she will be out of my life asap.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (318816)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

30 Sep 23

@Shavkat It's bad when someone you trust betrays you.

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@RubyHawk (99397)

• Atlanta, Georgia

30 Sep 23

I don’t. I take care of my own business.

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

1 Oct 23

@RubyHawk I can feel you about this concern. I also shared my sentiments about the passing of my mom and dad here. It was a great help for me.

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

30 Sep 23

I also do the same thing. At random, I shared some of my sentiments here. In some way, I am better than keeping the troubles in my life here.

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@RubyHawk (99397)

• Atlanta, Georgia

1 Oct 23

@Shavkat I share more here too. My lot was a great help for me when my son and a year later my spouse passed away.

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Anindita Sengupta

@aninditasen (17032)

• Raurkela, India

30 Sep 23

Yes, my own sister back stabbed me. So I don't share my personal matters with her. My elder son is a good listener but I don't have anything that personal now. Mylot is a good place to open out your heart.

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

30 Sep 23

I am sorry that your own sister betrayed you. I am glad that my siblings will not do this. I hope they will not change. However, I only share with them a few pieces of my personal business.

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

1 Oct 23

@aninditasen We are on the same page about this concern. In fact, it is better to be vigilant when it comes to personal matters. There are times when these people will not be loyal forever.

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Anindita Sengupta

@aninditasen (17032)

• Raurkela, India

1 Oct 23

@Shavkat It has taught me a lesson. I have become more cautious while talking about my personal matters.

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@pumpkinjam (8857)

• United Kingdom

1 Oct 23

I have just been thinking about this topic due to recent events that I won't go into. I only really discuss private matters with my husband. I am lucky to have him. It does depend on what the topics are. I'm not close enough with anyone else to talk about truly personal things, but I might discuss some health things with my big sister. I sometimes talk about things here, depending what they are.

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

1 Oct 23

Honestly, I do not usually blurt out my personal concerns to others. I can share bits of pieces, but not in details. It is nice that you have your hubby to share your sentiments in life.

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@RebeccasFarm (94538)

• Arvada, Colorado

30 Sep 23

I call the prayer line.

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

30 Sep 23

It cannot be denied that our God is my best friend for life.

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@wolfgirl569 (115601)

• Marion, Ohio

30 Sep 23

I have my hubby

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

30 Sep 23

If I have a partner, I am sure she will be my confidant, too.

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@cacay1 (84650)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

2 Oct 23

I share my personal problem to my elder sister sometimes to a trusted friend.

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

5 Oct 23

I am glad that you can do this with them. I do not have trusted friends now.

@porwest (99528)

• United States

5 Oct 23

For me it really comes down to what the issue is. Many times I keep things to myself. I prefer it that way. My business is my business when it comes to certain things.

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

6 Oct 23

I think it is a part of growth to handle our own business. Sometimes we can ask some advice. But still, we are still the ones who will have the final decision.

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@porwest (99528)

• United States

6 Oct 23

@Shavkat Yep. Exactly true.

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@Beestring (15324)

• Hong Kong

30 Sep 23

I share some with family members and close friends. I do keep some to myself.

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

30 Sep 23

I am glad that you can share with them some of your sentiments in life. As for me, I probably share some of them here.

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@Gilljane (2902)

• Sutton, England

30 Sep 23

This is what I like about mylot. It is a place to vent at times

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@Shavkat (140443)

• Philippines

1 Oct 23

I agree. It is a good outlet to make us feel better and carry on our lives day by day.

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@Gilljane (2902)

• Sutton, England

1 Oct 23