Have You Ever Been Touched Unappropriately?
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (159301)
Boise, Idaho
March 14, 2024 4:34pm CST
I was watching one of my favorite SPtv channels on YouTube yesterday. Relateable Reese was talking about different things with another SPtv contributor when the other person said that his friend may not go on this cruise the group is planning because of something he read in a chat that sort of made him feel weird. Reese came unglued and stood tall on her soapbox for about an hour. She went on about how it wasn't fair how some women would pinch a guy on the rear end or say gross things and think it's okay because they are women and can get away with it. What man is going to stand up to a woman, right? They have to keep up that macho veneer. Reese went on to say that she had been inappropriately touched many times in the past and she had always cowered away and thought somehow that she was bad. Now, since some changes she has made in herself, she would no longer react that way but would let the guy have it verbally. On the curb, she said there would be none of it on her watch. It was not right either for men or women to act that way and she wouldn't put up with it.
So, I went away from her soap box rant wondering if others I knew had probably had a situation or two like this in their lives. I remember a group of us girls when I worked at the telephone company. At different times in private conversations about 8 different women had told me of instances where they had been unappropriately touched. Some even had worse things happen. I'm sure you can figure out what I mean without my using awful words to explain such advances. I realized I was the only one out of all of my friends who had never had this happen. Did I carry myself differently? Was unapproachable? Unattractive? What was it about me that made men shy away from such things? I wondered about it for quite a while. Even when I worked as a cocktail waitress I never had that happen. If a guy made an advance in any way I would turn a funny phrase and usually end up with a tip.
I wonder if any of you ever had such a thing happen to you. At a party or when you went out?
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6 responses
@LindaOHio (156717)
• United States
15 Mar
No. I've never been touched inappropriately. Thank goodness. Have a good weekend.
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@RasmaSandra (73603)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
14 Mar
Nope one experience in my dating life I was spared.
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@celticeagle (159301)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Mar
That is great to hear. I think I carried myself a certain way or something.
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@RebeccasFarm (86787)
• United States
15 Mar
Many times yes, but I dealt with it and lived.
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@celticeagle (159301)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Mar
I have done that before too. And have always been lucky enough to get myself out of such situations.
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@celticeagle (159301)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Mar
@LadyDuck ......Yes, and I make it known to them too.
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@LadyDuck (458648)
• Switzerland
16 Mar
@celticeagle - Same as you, men can be very rude sometimes.
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@celticeagle (159301)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Mar
So nice to see you today. Glad you haven't.
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@BearArtistLady (5388)
• United States
14 Mar
I have had it happen to me, and I have had men who would start to make that kind of advance and I would look them in the eye and simply state to the person, I really don't recommend that you follow through with what you have on your mind to do. While I am a peaceful person and prefer a non-violent lifestyle, I am not afraid to deal with unwelcome advances with a bit of violence in response." The person would stop their intentioned action and apologize for thinking about doing it. We often would have a conversation about the incident and very often develop a friendship.
While I lived in Thailand, I did have an American G.I. come out of the bushes and grabbed me and touched me in ways that were inappropriate. The military police had to get him out of the bushes and take him to the ER. (I had left the area after I finished giving the man a few well placed kicks and also gave him a couple of black eyes. Nothing serious, but from what I heard from friends who were MP's, the man decided that he wasn't about to make anymore inappropriate advances towards women. I also don't normally grab a man's hind end without permission, but the morphine removed all my self control about playing a bit with the men's hind end. I was told at the hospital that I apparently asked permission before "I tested the melons for freshness." The men all got a kick out of the question and my asking permission.
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@celticeagle (159301)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Mar
I had that happen when I was a cocktail waitress and I usually ended up getting a tip. Knowing the correct area in which to land a blow makes all the difference. The time you were on morphine must have been memorable for the hospital staff.
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