Heartache Leaves Its Imprint
By RasmaSandra
@RasmaSandra (77643)
Daytona Beach, Florida
June 16, 2024 4:39pm CST
After I had posted that photo of my mom and her friends, A year later after my dad had died this is what mom and I looked like. You can see that the sorrow has done much and we were visiting at a neighbor’s apartment when they took the photo. The smiles were all gone.
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@Juliaacv (50069)
• Canada
16 Jun
A broken heart looks different to different people.
One thing that I think about with quite seriousness, is my wedding rings.
Should my husband pass before me, I cannot even begin to think about removing those rings.
That is the most visible tie that I have to him, when I am out in public they are visible, I wonder how one feels when they take off their rings.
I have my mother's wedding and engagement rings here. I cannot bring myself to wear them, although I am wearing a ring today that my Dad bought her for Christmas one year. I remember as I was shopping with him for it.
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@RasmaSandra (77643)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Jun
@Juliaacv let's talk wedding rings. My mom took my dad's ring and resized it and for the rest of her life she wore both rings on her right hand ring finger. I have both these rings where I can also still see what was partly engraved in my jewelry box, After I go c'est la vie,,,
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@Juliaacv (50069)
• Canada
17 Jun
@RasmaSandra Rings have so much symbolism and traditionally tell us so much about the giver and the receiver.
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@RasmaSandra (77643)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Jun
@Juliaacv you know it is amazing my parents could find gold wedding rings and afford them They were married in a DP Camp in Augustdorf Germany during WW II,
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@RasmaSandra (77643)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Jun
@LindaOHio this was the first year she was practically useless and only started coming back to life in the second year
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@RasmaSandra (77643)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
18 Jun
@LindaOHio I feel the same as you do but I was faced with that situation and realized I could not afford to shut down. I had the house to consider and I had my cat Sid, So in the end as they say I made it through the rain. But after 7 years it still seems like yesterday,
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@LindaOHio (170816)
• United States
19 Jun
@RasmaSandra I can't imagine how hard it is for you. My husband will be 83 in August; and I think about him dying every day. It's very stressful.
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@kaylachan (65411)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Jun
I know it's painful. But tough times don't last.
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@RasmaSandra (77643)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Jun
@kaylachan I know what you're saying but in my life every summer that comes with memories is tough and now after 7 years it still feels like everything just happened yesterday. For my mom because she was already 55 when dad passed it was scary to face raising me alone plus the first year she was useless and only started revving in the second year,
@RasmaSandra (77643)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Jun
@JudyEv let's just say I was 10 going on 11 and for a year I did not have a mom, She was useless and her friends tried to help, The second year she stepped back into life and then poor mom has to go through my crazy teens
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@aninditasen (16140)
• Raurkela, India
17 Jun
Widow hood is very painful and so is losing one's parents. We can't smile for long. It takes time to become normal.
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@RasmaSandra (77643)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Jun
@aninditasen it was hard for my mom since I had been a late in life baby and now she was already 55 and all along to raise me
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@RasmaSandra (77643)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Jun
@nela13 I had been very much a daddy's girl and didn't really know much about my mom
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@nela13 (56724)
• Portugal
28 Jun
@RasmaSandra I am so sorry, losing a father at such a young age wasn't easy for sure.
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@zhangxueying (3329)
• China
17 Jun
Yes, I see that your mother doesn't have a smile on her face. She is very sad
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