When you are forced to choose sides in a breakup between friends?
By Anish Asokan
@RevivedWarrior (3853)
India
February 3, 2025 12:11pm CST
Yesterday, I get a call from a good friend of mine and we had a common friend. These two were almost buddies and closer to each other than they were to me. Now, in last two weeks they had trivial arguments on few things and those got blown over and they had a breakup.
Today, I get a call from other person who is stating the other person has less ambition and is excess baggage for friendship. Although he did not explicitly state, he gave hints of choosing sides between these two.
It is awkward and very uncomfortable situation. Friendships are built on trust. I do not want to lose a friend neither I want to blindly choose a side without understanding both perspectives. For now, I am looking to stay neutral and if a time come I need to choose one, I will stay true to my principles and make the decision.
Have you encountered such scenarios?
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
4 Feb 25
I was also thinking of school days when I was hearing my other friend. Well for now I will be neutral and friends with both.
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@kareng (80243)
• United States
5 Feb 25
@RevivedWarrior Good luck with that. It should work unless one wants to force you to decide between the two. It's a sad situation to be in.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
3 Feb 25
I have been in the position of being in between such friends . . . but I never chose a side. I remain friends with anyone unless they have wronged me personally. That being said, I may have the opinion that one is more correct than the other.
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
4 Feb 25
Thats is a good policy. We should be looking at their attitude towards us and not bother outside of that.
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@RebeccasFarm (91297)
• United States
3 Feb 25
Oh dear this sounds a very difficult place to be in..between two fallen out friends.
I had never had this experience.
Thank goodness.
I wish you luck.
Your two friends should not expect you to choose.
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
4 Feb 25
I also do not want to choose a side. I am playing neutral and hopefully time will help them heal.
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@rakski (156651)
• Philippines
4 Feb 25
@RevivedWarrior I hope they will find it in their hearts to make peace.
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@dgobucks226 (37621)
•
8 Feb 25
I think staying neutral is the best course than choosing sides. Taking sides rarely benefits anyone and puts you in the middle, a lose-lose situation. There are times when an injustice requires us to speak up for someone's reputation, if you feel the criticism is unfair, but one need not pick a side. The issue should be your focus not severing a relationship when the argument or dispute is not yours.
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
9 Feb 25
Well said- it is not my dispute neither it has anything to do with me. So being neutral to both parties would be the best course of action for now.
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@luisadannointed (11881)
• Philippines
3 Feb 25
I don't think you need to choose just stay friends with them, unless one of them are really bad and cannot be trusted... I guess that is the only time -- not to side to other party but for your good and safety. friends are good but if they are not honest and can be harmful I don't think it is safe to be with them. But to your question no need to side to any of them just stay friends with them.
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
4 Feb 25
You are right - I am not going to choose sides until a time comes and when charcter and ethics will come to play a part in decision. Plus , who knows , they may patch up in future!
