An Unexpected Message
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (140463)
Philippines
April 26, 2025 6:29pm CST
Four days ago, I received an unexpected message from my ex-partner. To cut it short, she sent an annual anniversary message through SMS. The odd thing is, she added the three years of not being together. It sounds like she wanted to reconcile and rekindle what was left behind. Do not get me wrong. I did not reply because there is nothing between us anymore.
If you were in my shoes, what would be your reaction?
13 people like this
16 responses
@Ineeddentures (4361)
•
27 Apr
Well let's see.
She added the three years of not being together.
I would want to know why, just out of morbid curiousity.
But I am not you
4 people like this
@Shavkat (140463)
• Philippines
1 May
@Ineeddentures I do not think I need to do that. I had moved on and brought my new life without her presence. If I entertain her, it would open a new chapter of being cheated by her.
1 person likes this
@Ineeddentures (4361)
•
27 Apr
@Shavkat
You do not have to continue or rekindle the relationship. But you could just phone her up and ask outright why the communication with you now.
2 people like this
@kareng (75283)
• United States
28 Apr
@Ineeddentures Reverse it; would you want someone that you had no interest in anymore trying to get back into your life?
@Ineeddentures (4361)
•
27 Apr
I seem to be in the minority lol by saying go find out what she wants haha
1 person likes this
@Ineeddentures (4361)
•
27 Apr
Oh Judy I couldn't lol.
I'd have to know what the card was all about.
My curiosity would have to be satisfied.
2 people like this
@DaddyEvil (150546)
• United States
27 Apr
I would ignore her and the message. Good luck with this!
2 people like this
@Shavkat (140463)
• Philippines
27 Apr
@DaddyEvil I am glad that the intervention of the judge made you free from her. In the first place, I do not like a toxic relationship. It will make me in hell every day.
2 people like this
@DaddyEvil (150546)
• United States
27 Apr
@Shavkat I hope she leaves you alone.
My first ex-wife used to message me all the time trying to get me to go back to her... I'd had enough, though. So she started making trouble and taking me to court. It took several years before a judge ordered her to leave me alone.
2 people like this
@abhi_bangal (5973)
• Ahmednagar, India
3 May
What I would have done is a bit difficult to answer to me because I am not aware of the reason of your breakup. I mean what the situation was when the two of you broke up is also important. Who was at fault and why did things go wrong can better help analyse what went wrong and what you should have done.
Also I am not sure if her messaging you translates to reconciliation. It can be any other thing because you thinking that she wants to reconcile is like jumping to a certain conclusion.
In short when someone apart from you doesn't know anything - like the history between you two, whatever we are replying here, are pure guesses.
1 person likes this
@abhi_bangal (5973)
• Ahmednagar, India
6 May
@Shavkat Ok then it's good to know that the relationship was brought to an end with mutual concent. That's the better part. Otherwise, what happens is that one blames the other and the other one keeps blaming the first one.
In such a situation, there's no end to such conflicts.
But still, I feel there's no harm to talk to her once. It's like jumping to a conclusion that she only wants a certain thing (because she has approached you again.)
@adnileb (5287)
• Philippines
1 May
It depends.
First, do you still have feelings for her?
If you do, are both of you not in a relationship with other person?
Next, think about the reasons of your break-up.
Will it happen again? Did you fall out of love?
Some third party involved? Or maybe you just need space. There are a lot of things to consider. Think about it carefully before reconciling. Some things are better that way. It's safe that you didn't reply.
1 person likes this
@LeaPea2417 (37955)
• Toccoa, Georgia
27 Apr
That's odd. I have never heard of anyone doing that. I would ignore it since you don't want to get back together.
1 person likes this
@arunima25 (90556)
• Bangalore, India
27 Apr
It seems like she is celebrating this three years of being separated. That's why this anniversary message. That's weird and strange! If I was in your shoes, I would have ignored it. I am not sure what makes you think that she is willing to reconcile.
1 person likes this
@Shavkat (140463)
• Philippines
1 May
@arunima25 I am not sure what makes her messaged me. I just hope it was not being intoxicated, which I think it is not reliable type of motive. Regardless, I do not want to know the reason why she did such an act of trying to keep in touch.
1 person likes this
@grenery8 (17612)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
27 Apr
i mean, what is already in the past should stay in the past. maybe she wanted to say between lines that she doesn't care for these 3 years and still cares for you but if you don't feel the same, better not respond anything. i'm sorry she shocked you like this.
1 person likes this
@allknowing (147361)
• India
27 Apr
I have never seen you talking about you having even an ex-partner. That shows you have absolutely no interest in rekindling the relationship
1 person likes this
@cacay1 (84914)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
7 May
It's better to ignore that message. The hurt was healed so there's no reason to connect back, unless you decide.
