The Beloved Terrible Son of Ours

@franxav (14108)
India
May 2, 2025 3:04am CST
As I help him get ready for school I speak to Aakash, " Child, behave well in the school. Don't give anyone a chance to complaint against you. Don't fight with anyone. If anyone irritates you tell your teacher. Don't take others' tiffin. If any complaint about you comes from the teachers, I feel sad. Do you understand?" The boy listens quietly. But almost every other day I have to hear a complaint against him from the school. The content of the accusations may differ. They say he pushed somebody so that the fallen one had a bleeding nose. Or , he ate someone's tiffin. Or he used a bad word for someone. And so on and so forth. Today, what the complaint will be I don't know but most probably there will be one thing or other. Inspite of all that our vocation is to love the child and care for him. A lovely boy he is , an innocent victim of life's cruelties. Every morning as he comes from the boys' house he wishes happily , Good morning mummy, good morning papa. Before he goes to bed he says Good night to us . I hope the school authorities and the teachers understand the predicament , the psychological pains of the child who had lost both his parents before he was even five. I also strongly hope and pray that he will grow out of these invisible cages and be a normal human being. I have seen many boys here who were equally " notorious" if not more. They have grown into responsible men leading good life in the society.
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@JudyEv (353196)
• Rockingham, Australia
2 May
It sounds like he is hurting inside from past experiences. All you can do is continue to love and support him as best you can - which I know you are doing.
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@JudyEv (353196)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 May
@franxav It would be such a hard job. Aakash is only one of several who need your patience and love.
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@franxav (14108)
• India
3 May
I also believe he is hurting inside from past experiences. I wish I could heal him from all his hurts. I understand it is not a quick fix thing. It will take years . I need loads of patience and love of which I confess I have a limited reserve.
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@franxav (14108)
• India
5 May
@JudyEv This morning I embraced him again and told him that he is my dear child. I asked him to be a good child. I need a lot of patience and love. It takes a lot of time and energy to help out such children. I do as much as I can. Rest I leave to the Merciful God.
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@DaddyEvil (147933)
• United States
2 May
All we can ever do is teach them right from wrong and hope they apply it in their own lives and be the best person they can be. Their life is up to them to live as they see fit. We are the bedrock they see/feel as they grow. I hope he turns out to be the kind of man you can be proud of when you look at him in the years to come.
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@franxav (14108)
• India
3 May
He is good in sprints. He is intelligent. I hope and pray he realises his strength and move forward to be a good person.
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@DaddyEvil (147933)
• United States
3 May
@franxav With your guidance, I'm sure he will.
@allknowing (145507)
• India
2 May
As long as you are his father he will be well groomed and emerge as a succesful human being just as others have.
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@franxav (14108)
• India
3 May
I'm doing all I can but I too have limitations. I only hope in two or three years he will grow up to be a responsible boy.
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@psanasangma (7441)
• India
2 May
I can't imagine how much pain he must be carrying, feeling alone and not being supported and protected by their parents... I feel sad for him. eating tiffin from others; it could be because he misses the tiffin prepared by his mothers. or he just want to taste it but doesn't know how to ask or .... perhaps teaching how to socialize will work pushing, punching ; it could be both side... unless they say something to him that makes him to do ... however it can't be said or take his side unless both sides of their action are witness
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@franxav (14108)
• India
3 May
I too think that the Principal ma'am and teachers should be careful and not blame him in all cases. For, we know children coming of outside families are not all blameless.
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