Friends vs family dilemma

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Everyone whether dead or living has traceable roots or simply family. These could be as close as parents, siblings, spouses and offspring and as far as cousins, nephews and nieces as well as step-relatives. All these have a direct impact on somebody’s life – directly or indirectly. Then come in friend, from childhood ones, schooldays friends, workplace friends, neighbourhood peers and religious ones. It comes a time when I find most relatives very toxic and many friends very supportive. For instance, during my drinking days, many of my relatives avoided me, discussed me negatively, despised me and couldn’t support me even when my request for financial support was genuine. All they believed was I was an embarrassment to them. On the other hand, I had friends who could come and talk to me, some called me to know how I was doing. At some point I drank too much that my tummy became poisoned. When I explained to my close relatives all they could say was “quick recovery”. When one of my primary school classmates heard about me, he personally called me and sent me some money to go to hospital. I was tested, and pylori was positive. I was given medication and recovered quickly. I love my family, but I think some friends can be more helpful and supportive compared to family members. What is your take on this?