Does anyone have the right to be rude?
By Xavier Bage
@franxav (14161)
India
May 21, 2025 9:41am CST
A colleague has been behaving rather very rudely with me and the persons of my family. In her words and actions she has been rude to my better half particularly .
Have we said anything or done anything against her? Nothing that I can think of. We have always been respectful and loving to her and her family . But whatever has come upon her to be so rude with us?
One thing that might have affected her is that she has been told to resign from her job and vacate the house she has lived in as an employee so far.
She has come to this sad predicament due to her own and her husband's actions.
Is it a jealous reaction to see us happily going on with our work and make us sad like her.
Whatever it may be but it's sad for us to see a person get so rude when she could be friendly .
Her husband has found a teacher's job in another school in the town. He has also taken his daughter to that school. Their house is nearly ready where they can go live any day. There are many things for her to be thankful for. And yet she doesn't skip a chance to be nasty to us.
Meanwhile, I have decided to let her be. I have also advised the people of my family not to react to her rudeness. Can rudeness ve the answer of rudeness?
What would you have done?
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6 responses
@grenery8 (17930)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
27 May
@franxav i agree with you, i'm the same. i can criticize myself but i can't change for who i am or how i act though something i am fighting against it. yesterday, i took one trousers in my hand in the stores and younger lady was looking them before but put them aside, like she wasn't going to take it. then, she turned around, i was there and i asked, maybe in a stupid way, is this hers and she said immediatelly yes. in reality, it wasn't hers, i feel, i felt irritated cause i didn't say something more but i didn't want to fight yet, i would have been more polite than her and perhaps said is it okay for me to take it. i felt foolish a little like she acted and treated me like this belonged to her from the beginning. yes, one day, they will all have to approach their strange behavoiour.
@psanasangma (7692)
• India
22 May
Sometimes I wonder what has gone wrong with a person...
It's very difficult to understand when you can't find a reason...
Her actions towards you and your family must have been bothersome but sometimes I think it is better not to react
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@vandana7 (101988)
• India
31 May
I have always wondered what should be the solution to it. I read Sai Satcharitra now. Sai says ignore.
Normally, I feel letting go of rudeness or any sorta misbehavior, encourages it. If I can get away with it, then I will progress one step higher and see if I can get away with it. Sorta high jump levels.
Its been my observation. God is my witness, I have tried to take a firm stand without being rude in return for quite some time. But eventually, when I do show my fangs, it is after intense provocation that is not tolerable. So yes, I do retaliate such that the person stands back.
I always thought this was the right thing to do, as it creates a feeling in the person that I should not be behaving like this else people can behave like this with me and I will be left shame faced.
But recently when reflecting upon it after reading Sai Satcharitra, I realized, nobody will think like that. Instead, they will feel resentment and find reasons to be more obnoxious and also influence others against us. How then, can it be peace generating?
If instead, I choose to ignore as you have told your family to do, the person may find somebody being rude to them someday, and will realize how bad they were with you. That situation for realization is in god's hand.
So ignoring is the solution, much as it seems unlikely. As to our hurt, god will find a way to sooth it, and make us forget the pain.
So you did do the right thing Xavier.
@RebeccasFarm (95232)
• Arvada, Colorado
21 May
Was it anything to do with you that she has lost this house or position? If not, then I can't imagine why she is so mean..yes jealous.
I do not interact with them and just let them shout and be snide.
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@RebeccasFarm (95232)
• Arvada, Colorado
21 May
@franxav Then she is reacting to the circumstance, not you, yourself. Still it is not an excuse for her behaviour toward you..maybe she was always jealous of you.
@RasmaSandra (86221)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
21 May
Sometimes people like that are best to be ignored. I hope she will leave you alone if you appear not to be bothered by her,
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