Do you speak differently around men v. women?
By The Horse
@TheHorse (227594)
Walnut Creek, California
June 14, 2025 10:04am CST
When a bunch of men get together, there is sometimes a bit of vulgarity added to the conversation, just for fun.
When women are around (for example, my band mates' wives, female coworkers), I tend to be a bit more civilized. Until they curse like a sailor, giving me permission to do the same.
My friend Tereese, whom I have known since she was a kid, was exposed to adults who swear a lot at family gatherings. I do not have to hold back with her.
The stereotype is that men speak more about "instrumental" things like gear ratios, the stock market, sports, and politics, while women talk more about emotions, and offer more support and less "advice" in their conversations. I think there is truth to some those things.
Do you speak differently around men v. woman?
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@Ineeddentures (4292)
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16h
Yes
I try not to swear around women.
I never ever swear around Yvonne
Oh wait, sometimes I do.
When watching a football match and the referees make bad decisions
Or my team loses
And other things to but not much
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@TheHorse (227594)
• Walnut Creek, California
16h
@Ineeddentures For shame! Have you taught her even harsher words? 
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@Ineeddentures (4292)
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16h
@TheHorse
Oh my wife is a fan of the same football team I am
And I have heard her swear at the referee a few times
She even questioned whether he knew his father, or rather implied with a single word that he did not
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@RasmaSandra (85949)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11h
Back in Latvia when my hubby and I had friends over everyone just spoke how they wanted to not giving consideration to any gender, We had fun with drinks and even dancing.
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@RasmaSandra (85949)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11h
@TheHorse that is why it all was so hard when it all changed, Now at least there are memories
@JudyEv (355901)
• Rockingham, Australia
7h
I agree with you. I don't much like going to women's groups. They seem to be more judgemental about what others are wearing; they gossip about others and generally I avoid such groups. They have a couple of handicraft groups here and a 'chick flick' just for the ladies once a month. I go to one group sometimes. I swear more if I'm with Vince and male friends. I think they temper their language a bit if I'm there. One is certainly much more circumspect if he is with his wife!
@LindaOHio (191204)
• United States
13h
Yes. I had a tendency to flirt around men when I was younger. Got me in trouble at least once. I laugh more when I'm with women. I've always preferred male company to female.
@cabuyogty (3768)
• Philippines
15h
I don't usually speak personally to men. I use to speak with women with respect and formal where I am in charity organizations.
