My dad's family took advantage of him

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My dad has always told me the story about how his parents moved in with him without notice. My dad always struggled to get along with his family because they were a rough group that always expected things from him. My dad worked hard and eventually was able to buy his own home. He was happy to finally be able to be out on his own and be away from his family. He loved/loves his family but it was difficult for him as one of the oldest children. It was always on him to babysit and take care of things around the house. My grandparents had 10 surviving children together and my grandma had 3 older ones from a previous relationship. My dad and his twin brother were the oldest of my grandma's kids with my grandpa. My dad's twin got away with a lot and was more liked and my dad sadly took the brunt of everything. He moved out as soon as he was able. He got married young to a woman who used him for his money and treated him terribly and his marriage lasted less than three years. When he finally had her out of his life and was happy again he came home one day to his parents and his younger siblings all moved into his house. They didn't ask, they just moved in while he was gone. He didn't kick them out because they were his parents and siblings. His parents paid a few bills and he paid the mortgage. They took over his house and they even continued to live with him for a while after he married his second wife, a wife that continued to be around even after their divorce. His ex wife was at all of our reunions even though she was no longer married to my dad. One of my aunts even lived with her for a while. It was just an odd situation. My dad got along with her but I still thought it was disrespectful that they treated her better than they ever did my dad. She did say she was happy my dad finally got to have kids because he always wanted them and didn't have any until my mom. My dad's family really mistreats him sometimes. They complain about him, and don't get me wrong my dad can be annoying sometimes but no more so than the rest of them. My dad never asked anything of them but they were always asking him for stuff and expected him to help them. He did stuff for them and their kids. He stopped helping as much after he had my brother and me because his life was busier and he had more responsibilities. Once my dad stopped doing as much for them, they stopped coming around. Two of his brothers refused to give him their phone number and said they didn't want him coming around. Now one is pretty much homeless and living with some relatives. My dad did a lot for them, and they don't seem to appreciate it. It always irked me how they treated him. My dad would still drop everything to help them if they really needed help, but they wouldn't do the same for him. My dad always tells my brother and me that we need to take care of each other because one day we are all we will have. He says you always help your family, which has always confused me because of the way his family treats him. They honestly don't deserve the help he has given them. They all just go on and on about him and talk bad about him. I know my dad can be a lot sometimes but honestly, they are no better. My dad's family is such a rough bunch. They are nice enough to me, but I've never liked how they treated my dad. I don't say anything because my dad doesn't want me to. He wants to keep the peace because he loves his siblings. My dad has a lot of trauma from his childhood because of all of the expectations that were put on him and the way he was the first one they expected things from but the last one chosen to do anything fun with. He was never told he was loved. My grandma did tell him she loved him at the end of her life. My grandma told him he was always the strong one and she didn't think he needed to hear it and he told her it didn't matter how strong he was that it would have been nice to hear it. It always hits me when I think about the way he was treated. I loved my grandma, she was always kind to me when I was there but she never treated my dad the way he deserved. I always kind of laugh at the idea of coming home and seeing your whole family there without any notice but ultimately, I know how disrespectful and rude that was. It always reminded me of a sitcom or an old comedy movie. Coming home and seeing your entire family all moved in. In that way I found it funny but I didn't find it funny that he had to live with it and how he was treated in his own home. My dad put up with way more than he should have.