Friendship over lover or vice versa?

@annavi23 (6631)
Philippines
October 8, 2025 9:59pm CST
Lover over friendship Friendship over lover Sometimes it is hard to weigh things You feel scared to admit your feelings because you value your friendship. The feeling of weighing and thinking things through... Would you admit that you have feelings for your friend or not?
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3 responses
10 Oct
No.. Because if the friend has someone else in mind, the feeling, if I have, might suffer. Better to remain as friends and not allow any feeling to come-in-between.
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@annavi23 (6631)
• Philippines
10 Oct
It's like respecting their feelings. Also trying to stay friends with someone you have feelings with. But given a chance, maybe only time will tell if they will stay as friends.
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• Kenya
11 Oct
Depends with each and every person and the circumstance you're in
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11 Oct
@annavi23 they do...with time the whirlwinds of life helps them settle with the peace to reflect...though not often but they connect...in some way or the other, the connection was always there. That's how I feel.
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@Laurakemunto (13251)
• Kenya
9 Oct
Love is a strong emotion. True love never fails and with such you can balance any person either friend or lover putting pressure on you to bring some sort of pressure, just quit
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@annavi23 (6631)
• Philippines
9 Oct
Just quit, what do you mean? Quit being friends, or what?
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• Kenya
9 Oct
@annavi23 if a relationship is not fit for you and you've tried but seems never to work you just leave it. Life is too short to get all our expectations fulfilled
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@annavi23 (6631)
• Philippines
10 Oct
@Laurakemunto Yes, of course, it's best to leave than stay in a relationship if it doesn't bring any good to you. Whether friends or lover, some things or relationship may come to an end. Everything will just be a good memory. Just accept the fact that people you have now maybe gone one day.
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@rakski (149182)
• Philippines
9 Oct
this is tricky. Is the friend and lover one person? Am I understanding it right?
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@annavi23 (6631)
• Philippines
10 Oct
I apologize for the confusion. Maybe something is wrong with my wordings at times haha. It's a question of whether to confess your feelings to your friend and escalate (if my wording is right :D) it to being lovers.
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@annavi23 (6631)
• Philippines
14 Oct
@rakski What if it is one sided, I can't even imagine how bad it hurts. It's like torturing yourself somehow specially when you see that person everyday.
@rakski (149182)
• Philippines
14 Oct
@annavi23 well, if you are really friends, I guess it will be okay to talk about it and still remain friends. If both have feelings or would want to try a relationship, then you can push further
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