I'm Avoiding Someone

United States
December 22, 2025 6:25am CST
Someone said something really horrible to me the other day. Very cruel. So I'm avoiding this person. This person called me yesterday and asked if we were getting together for Christmas and I hemmed and hawed and put it off. I don't want to throw this person out of my life completely but I must stand up for myself and tell this person that what they said was crossing the line and unacceptable and that I won't continue the relationship if it happens again. It's already happened several times before. This person says horrible things then says they're "just joking" and that I'm "too sensitive." But I'm done. I won't take it anymore. Have you ever had to make a decision about avoiding someone or letting them go from your life?
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Amber
@AmbiePam (108449)
• United States
5h
It must have been pretty darn bad. Yes, but I ultimately kept them in my life because they were family. I did, however, quit putting such effort into the relationship. It was a relief not to put in a lot of effort. And if they are continuously hurting you, I hope it won’t bother you too much to drop them. No one needs hatefulness in their life. And think what crap must be in their heart to be that cruel.
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LooeyVille
@LooeyVille (67)
• United States
5h
Yes, it's family, which makes the decision harder than it would be for a friend or random person
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Amber
@AmbiePam (108449)
• United States
5h
@LooeyVille I was afraid of that.
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Anne Marie Guyer
@LeaPea2417 (39301)
• Toccoa, Georgia
1h
Yes, I can think of 4 people right off that I had to cut off.
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Jim Bauer
@porwest (111572)
• United States
5h
Many times. I have very little time for pettiness and people in my life that make me miserable. Sometimes you just have to remove toxic things from your life, and unfortunately, that includes people.
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Marie Coyle
@MarieCoyle (52480)
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3h
Yes, I have. It's been awhile...but sometimes you discover that someone you thought was good and kind is just not. I had one such so-called friend some years ago. I discovered how cruel she truly was...and I get it go and cut her off. You said ''But I'm done. I won't take it anymore.'' The person isn't going to change. The only way to avoid this type of behavior is to cut the person off. You have tried, they crossed the line and you are not comfortable with this person. Life is short, let the person go. It's OK to do that. Your feelings matter.
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