Thoughts I Never Got Answers To
By Curlann
@annierose (21823)
United States
January 6, 2026 11:37am CST
There was a time in my life when a relationship ended without any explanation. No closure, no clear goodbye. Just silence..
It took me almost a year to truly move on. The hardest part was wondering what I did wrong and why I was left with unanswered questions.
With time, I realized that not everything gets explained, and healing sometimes means accepting that. Letting go wasn’t easy, but it taught me a lot about patience, self-worth, and emotional strength.
Have you ever had a relationship end without closure? How long did it take you to move on, and what helped you the most?
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@DaddyEvil (165096)
• United States
6 Jan
Oh, yes... And, often not getting an explanation was preferable to angry words screamed at you and still not understanding what they were talking about.
I accepted they were angry about something and decided that was their problem, not mine.
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@annierose (21823)
• United States
6 Jan
That’s a really good point. Sometimes explanations don’t actually bring peace, especially when they’re said in anger. I like how you reframed it and chose not to carry someone else’s anger.
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@DaddyEvil (165096)
• United States
6 Jan
@annierose Believe me, it's preferable to being called "fat" when meeting someone for the first time and you don't even get to say anything and she walks away.
I'd been working out hard and was looking very good, if I do say so myself. I was set up on a blind date by a friend but when I got to the woman's house, she met me in the yard and told me she didn't date fat people. I was stunned and stood there with my mouth open while she walked back in her house. I finally stumbled to my car and drove home in a daze.
My friend saw my car at my house and called, yelling at me for standing the woman up... When I could get a word in edgewise, I told him what had happened... He apologized and I never found out anything else about her, the situation or why she'd called ME fat! (I definitely wasn't even overweight. I worked out six days a week, an hour and a half every day. I was thin, muscled and happy about myself at 163 lbs/74 kg and 5 feet 11 inches/180 cm tall.)
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@annierose (21823)
• United States
6 Jan
I get that. It really can take a long time, especially when there’s no clear ending. Everyone heals at their own pace.
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@TheHorse (233547)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Jan
@annierose That they do. When I was young (in my20s) I always marveled at how quickly girls/women found a new love after a break-up, compared to guys,who pined away. But my observations were probably biased. If I think it through "statistically," it has to be about even.
@AmbiePam (109580)
• United States
6 Jan
You are a wise woman. And, I think when people end relationships in that manner, it shows the fault mainly lies with the other person. Because the right thing to do is to discuss it, and their answer, is instead, silence, it shows their lack of maturity. (Obviously, abusive relationships are different, but we’re not talking about that.)
I got over it by realizing God knew what was best for me, and there must be a very good reason that person is no longer in my life. I began to realize afterwards, that my life actually got better without them. I hadn’t realized they had been dragging me down.
@Laurakemunto (13475)
• Kenya
6 Jan
Yes several and I learned that silence is the loudest answer which needs no further explanation
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@annierose (21823)
• United States
6 Jan
That’s so true. Silence really can say everything, even when we wish it wouldn’t. It took me a while to understand that too.
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@valherma00 (187)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
6 Jan
i did and would take me years. i barely found her work email and emailed her how i feel. i felt better but not when i dream about that fake friend at night.
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