~Degraded Me and My Feelings~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85931)
Valdosta, Georgia
January 28, 2026 10:26am CST
I want to go back to these posts because if I can just help ONE person in this world-that is enough for me!
I want to talk a little more about narcissists...
Johnny had stomach issues, nothing the doctors could ever figure out or put a name to. However, his symptoms would always "flare" up when someone else was getting more attention than him-even from another state!
For example, I had a miscarriage when I was 17 weeks along 10 years ago. Went to the hospital, saw my babies tiny limbs coming out, was dizzy from the meds they gave me...I was a mess. Heart broken and I felt destroyed.
Two days after that Johnny goes to the hospital with "stomach pains". He hated any attention being on someone other than himself.
When I complained or cried about my pain-he would say you don't know what it's like to have the pain I have. And then he'd say you can always have another kid...
Every time he put me down and my feelings down, he made me feel as though what I felt didn't matter or I was out of control for what I felt.
This year, from FL on his daughter's BIRTHDAY he went to the hospital for these "stomach issues". 
If you have experienced this type of abuse or are right now--you are NOT alone!
If you have experienced this type of abuse or are right now--you are NOT alone!15 people like this
14 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85931)
• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Jan
@LadyDuck Thank you, it was a lot of hard years. However, I have learned so much about myself, lack of boundaries I used to have, lack of self worth I used to have and I am SO much better of a person now than I used to be.
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@LadyDuck (495943)
• Italy
28 Jan
@LovingMyBabies - You have found a way to be happy and independent, You have your children and grandchildren to make you happy.
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@LovingMyBabies (85931)
• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Jan
@LadyDuck Absolutely!! And I will never ever rush into a relationship again in the future. If that's Gods plan for me someday I will wait for the one who doesn't make me feel less than for any reason.
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@moffittjc (127830)
• Gainesville, Florida
29 Jan
Is Johnny no longer a part of your life? I'm sorry you had to experience this with him.
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@LovingMyBabies (85931)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jan
@moffittjc He is not. He left to go back to FL last month and we have been separated for the last 2 years. I felt led to write about narcissism for those that are still going through this type of abuse.
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@LovingMyBabies (85931)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jan
@sol_cee You're welcome, I pray it will help someone and let them know they are not alone. 
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@DianneN (251633)
• United States
20 Feb
The date of this post caught my eye, because it’s my younger son’s birthday, but so did your title.
He sounds very, very disturbed and more!
I am glad he is out of your house and state.
Do you have contact with him because of the kids? Will you divorce? Do you have a restraining order against him?
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@LovingMyBabies (85931)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Feb
@DianneN Truly he is! I feel sorry for him and pray for him every day. He's clearly so miserable and that is so sad to me. I think he will one day die alone because others won't want to put up with what I have been through. =(
He contacts the children directly and when we talk I do remind him it needs to only be about the kids, nothing else. I am planning to divorce him when I am in the financial stability to do so. Right now I am living day to day, putting food on the table and paying bills. He sends almost nothing to help out, which doesn't surprise me at all.
We are just so grateful he isn't here anymore-even the kids. They say life is SO much more peaceful now.
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@DianneN (251633)
• United States
20 Feb
@LovingMyBabies What a shame for anyone to be like that. I doubt that he would ever consider therapy.
I am happy for you and the kids that he is out of the house and that it’s so much more peaceful. Now it’s time for you all to get on with your lives and keep the demons away as hard as it is to do.
@LovingMyBabies (85931)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jan
@Shiva49 Yes exactly, he was always the taker and he ran me dry for many years. I am grateful the Lord took care of the situation for me!
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@arunima25 (93097)
• Bangalore, India
28 Jan
I know of few such cases in my circle. And it is tough to stay in such relationship. Fortunately, I have not faced it. But have seen people suffering. Good that you took a stand for yourself and walked out.
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@shaggin (74931)
• United States
31 Jan
That is disgusting what he said to you! How absolutely heartless. I am so sorry you had a miscarriage so far along I can’t imagine having to go through that 
. Was that your first baby?
. Was that your first baby?
@snowy22315 (204726)
• United States
28 Jan
I guess it's good you only have to put up with him from a distance.
@celticeagle (186909)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Jan
I'm so sorry you had this person in your life.
Johnny could have been suffering from depression. I have had it all my life and have just recently (over the last few years) learned that some of the other symptoms of it are stomach trouble, headaches, body aches and pains. Things that doctors may often misdiagnose.
Narcissists live in a world all their own. They see things only from their prospective. It's almost funny looking back at how pathetic these types really are.
It took me a while before I realized that it takes all kinds to make up this world and we don't have to stay where we aren't being treated well.
@just4him (322493)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Jan
Yes. My mother was like that.
I'm sorry your son is like that.
@aninditasen (18135)
• Raurkela, India
29 Jan
I had a similar husband who I had brick bat to stop his groaning.
