Don't promise me anything...
By Toni
@toniganzon (76928)
Philippines
March 16, 2026 6:35pm CST
Who doesn't get disappointed when promises aren't kept? Who doesn't get hurt?
That's why I don't like it when people promise me something coz I tend to always believe them. Only to end up getting disappointed or hurt.
So I always tell them don't promise me anything. Just do it.
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@Ineeddentures (32374)
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17 Mar
Actions speak louder than words Toni
I grew up getting disappointed at every turn so I used to expect to be let down
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@toniganzon (76928)
• Philippines
17 Mar
These days, I have become like that. I expect people to let me down.
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@Ineeddentures (32374)
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17 Mar
@toniganzon
Yes
It becomes a state of mind
I don't have expectations of anyone anymore
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@toniganzon (76928)
• Philippines
17 Mar
@Ineeddentures Right, last night my sister asked me if I wanted to watch a concert of a famous local band and I said yes. But it will on the 15th of May. She already has the VIP tickets but she didn't hand it to me. So I'm not expecting anything until then. Coz things could change. Many things could happen till May 15th.
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@LindaOHio (221487)
• United States
17 Mar
Exactly. I was told I was a "priority"; but when push comes to shove, this person is not available to help me.
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@toniganzon (76928)
• Philippines
17 Mar
And that's what happened to me too. And until now that person still keeps insisting that I am a priority. But I couldn't see how am I when I'm being pushed aside each and every single time!
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@toniganzon (76928)
• Philippines
17 Mar
Same here. And when I promise, it's something I know for certain I can keep.
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@celticeagle (189213)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Mar
I think we tend to learn who we can trust and who we can't. I have learned it gets easier to tell as you get older.
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@celticeagle (189213)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Mar
@toniganzon ........that is what they say.
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@toniganzon (76928)
• Philippines
17 Mar
We don't like getting disappointed at all.
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@Deepizzaguy (121492)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
17 Mar
I know what you mean since if a person does not do what is best for you, the person who does not deliver their promises will lose.
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@toniganzon (76928)
• Philippines
17 Mar
Better not make promises you can't keep. That's always my rule.
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@Deepizzaguy (121492)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
17 Mar
@toniganzon Excellent words to live by.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
17 Mar
Lolz Dad used to do that all the time but rarely happened. I have believed some of those lies before.
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@toniganzon (76928)
• Philippines
17 Mar
Right, it's th only way not to get disappointed.
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@Traceyjayne (10973)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar
I don’t make promises that I’m not sure I can keep. It’s better just to say ‘I will try to do that or get that ‘ then if you can’t , people will understand.
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@pitsipeahie (5724)
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17 Mar
"Better not make promises you can’t keep” sounds nice in theory, but real life isn’t that black and white. People can have good intentions and still fall short.
If everything is taken that literally, it just turns into constant disappointment and that’s more about the mindset than anything else.
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@toniganzon (76928)
• Philippines
17 Mar
Yep, so I change my mindset not to expect. And I tell the person right away.
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@toniganzon (76928)
• Philippines
17 Mar
As it should be. We should act on it. I don't make promises unless I can absolutely fulfill it.
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