My child has everything he needs

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Something I've noticed along the way when it comes to raising my son is how small his audience is whenever he has anything going on. He has had soccer and t-ball games, once we realized he isn't a sports kid, he had school plays and concerts, and now, as a teenager, he has high school choir concerts. The only people who usually show up are my husband and me. Sometimes it's just me if my husband has to work. I used to cheer on my son alone in the crowd of his t-ball games. I have a huge family, but it's only on rare occasions that any of them show up. My husband's family lives 4 hours away, so we rarely see them. We haven't seen them since just before the pandemic. It has been over 6 years since they've seen us. The way I have always chosen to see it is that my son has the people who matter the most. I understand why a lot of them can't come. My parents are older, and them sitting that long is a lot for them. My siblings all have lives, and I'm sure a few might try to make it if I invited them, but I feel like it would be asking a lot, knowing their schedules, so I've always just accepted this for what it is. I can't say it doesn't sometimes hurt seeing the way some families show up for the kids in their family, while my son only has us, but I figure he's fortunate enough to have anyone. Some kids have no one. I constantly remind myself that my son has parents who love him, while there are children out there who have no one and feel unloved and alone. I look at some of the kids at my work and see how they seek out attention that they don't receive at home. My son has parents who love him, and he has a lot of people who love him; just because they don't make it to his concerts doesn't mean they love him less. I know kids who have parents who told them they don't want them. My son is wanted and loved. I remind myself of this whenever I feel like he is lacking somewhere. He is wanted and loved and has everything he needs. He once told me he would rather have me as his mom than be rich. The fact that he knows he is loved is everything. I think we place too much emphasis on things and everything our kids should physically have, and not enough on how much a kid is loved. If my kid had as much money as he is loved, he would be wealthy, but he already is, because he has an abundance of love.