Goodness Gracious!
By Mary Ellen
@Ciclis (252)
May 18, 2026 10:34am CST
So, last week I was an absolute basket case. Generally I don't have depression but goodness asI said, last week I was definitely having depression.
Let me give you a little bit of information.
Husband and I have 5 kids, 4 boys and a girl. They're all grown, with the youngest being 32.
So, the 32 year old and his brother, who is 34, refuse to move out. We had discussed it with them until we are blue in the face but they refuse to leave.
There's so much more that I could say but for this post I will just give some of the basics.
The 32 year old annoys my husband to no end. It doesn't bother me, I can usually handle annoyances quite a bit better. But, when husband gets annoyed or irritated he yells. Heck, you may say he screams. Literally when things are like that I get, I guess what you would call, shell shocked. Also, I try to keep my sanity by going to my room and just shutting the door.
Last week was one of those days that my mentality just broke. On Thursday I pretty much cried for 80 percent of the day. Friday was better and the weekend was fine though.
So, thank you for reading my crybaby post.
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7 responses
@MarieCoyle (59779)
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25 May
It's time for them to go, to move on and be responsible for themselves. You and your husband need to set a deadline for them to find a place and be on their own, and if not, their belongings will be in a pile in the yard. You are doing them no favors by them being there and not being responsible. We raise them to be strong and to take care of themselves...yes, we miss them, but we can't support them when they are irresponsible like this.
It will hurt. They are our children. I had a close friend go through this and it was very hard for her, but in the end it worked out very well. I hope you can figure out a solution.
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@MarieCoyle (59779)
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26 May
@Ciclis
It does sound as if the youngest could use some help or counseling--does he have access to that? Does he take any medications for his disorder? It sounds like you have been worrying for a very long time about your boy...how sad. I'm very sorry.
@Ciclis (252)
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25 May
We have been talking to them about that. i think our youngest would do ok out on his own but for the one that is our 4th, he had become violent and we made him leave. He was homeless. Completely homeless, not living with friends or couch jumping. He went to our local thrift store and they gave him a tent. He livied in that tent for 2 years.
Even on days where the temperature didn't rise over the teens temperature, he was in that tent. I was in a complete shock that he would live like that.
He had a complete psychotic break and went to jail for around 15 month. When he came out of jail we allowed him back into our home. He has done well but he has a lot of paranoia. He does well for awhile and then he becomes paanoid. It has been difficult to say the least.
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@luisadannointed (11885)
• Philippines
19 May
I still live with my parents and my sister too.
I think if they don't want to move out, they should respect their parents well.
I always believed that family should stick together, lovingly, and respecting one another. But don't get me wrong we figth a lot at home, but at the end of the day we just have to say sorry and keep living hamoniously and lovingly.
I just want to stay same with my sister to make sure that our parents are okay.
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@Ciclis (252)
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20 May
I have no issue with the boys (men) moving out. I would be deliriously happy if all of our kids lived at home, I just wish they were more harmonious.
@snowy22315 (209687)
• United States
18 May
Give them both a deadline and kick them out before it gets violent. They are grown and you have no obligation to take care of them.
@wolfgirl569 (136516)
• Marion, Ohio
18 May
It's time to move them out. At that age they should be on their own
@Ineeddentures (36658)
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18 May
They would have been out of my house before they were 22 , never mind 32!!
I would go nuts in your shoes.
These years are for spending quality time with our spouse, and have kids visit or a phone call once a week
You say that they "refuse to move out"
You need to assert yourself, unless you want them still on your house when they is like 45
@valherma00 (4258)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
20 May
your photo convinced me you have little babies or very small children but 32 and not leaving, they better leave, where is their conscience. here, children stay only if they can't afford to move cause, things are getting expensive and paychecks are the same and if parents are okay with them staying. i also tend to yell when i'm really mad; not a good quality but i can't help it. i am deeply sorry. how are you today?
@valherma00 (4258)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
21 May
@Ciclis wow. it's okay, you don't have to change it;it's up to you. i am glad the things are better. it's hard to have so many peopel under one roof.
