How do you handle people like this?

@Wrexxo (1718)
June 10, 2026 2:54pm CST
Just got to work this morning and something funny happened...Two ladies were talking loudly about someone behind my office, then suddenly switched to hushed tones. .. surprising right?..One of them came over to check if I was around (she didn't know I saw her checking). The moment she confirmed I was there, they quickly went somewhere else and continued their conversation in whispers...hmm Here’s what surprised me the most. I have never reported anything to that person before. Not even once...yet they automatically assume I’ll go and report everything because I'm close to the person they are talking about. The way they did it got me thinking.. so they don’t even trust me not to go and tell the person How do you people even deal with this kind of situation? When people automatically assume you’ll report them just because you’re close to someone they are talking about. What’s the best way to handle people like this?
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@RasmaSandra (97991)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9h
Most likely they were discussing something they should not have done or been doing,
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@Wrexxo (1718)
9h
Maybe
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@LeaPea2417 (40029)
• Toccoa, Georgia
9h
I would ignore it.
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@Wrexxo (1718)
9h
Yeah..I ignored them
@AmbiePam (120692)
• United States
9h
I think it’s more like they feel guilty about what they are doing, and don’t want anyone to think anything negative about them. They also might assume you’re like them; outwardly nice, but gossipy behind “closed doors”. Which obviously is incorrect.
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@Wrexxo (1718)
9h
I really feel sad they think I'm a gossip like them
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@snowy22315 (208846)
• United States
9h
I would probably mind my business and do my work unless it is something that happens repeatedly, then I might say something.
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@Wrexxo (1718)
9h
Thanks a lot
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@porwest (112812)
• United States
9h
It's hard to say. I was in management a lot and so, I always made sure to tell people, if you don't want things taken "up," don't communicate those things to me, because I have liability to consider as well as obligations to report matters that may be of concern. Granted, those situations were mostly applied to things beyond mere gossip, unless it was somehow "pertinent." That being said, ALSO in management, I did not like what I called tattletales. UNLESS it was important, as in detrimental to another coworker or our production demands. I was never a tattletale inside or outside of management. But I did participate in gossip, of course. Don't we all to some degree? Were there people I KNEW were people to avoid with certain things? Certainly. Was I always right about their need to spread things around? No. Still, most people act in a manner where there is reason to suspect something. Who knows why or where they come up with the idea. Right or wrong, I guess it doesn't matter at the end of the day. I rarely paid much attention to my coworkers. I just did my job and did it the best I could, and whatever else happened just happened. It wasn't all in my control, nor did it matter to me if it was or wasn't.
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@Wrexxo (1718)
8h
Thanks for you response..I don't really care about what they were talking about..I just felt bad they think of me as a snitch because my sixth sense told me they were talking about my friend.. Anyway, I keep my circle small because I have discovered that so many people are fake. They smile at you but talk behind your back.. Those two ladies, I don't care about them. Its just clear to me that they are people you keep at a distance. I ignored everything that happened this morning cos it didn't matter to me. How they feel about me is their problem
• United States
9h
I ignore it
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@Wrexxo (1718)
9h
Okay
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@kaylachan (84760)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
6h
Ignore it. It's not worth the energy. XChances are it's not about you, but their own personal insecurities. I highly doubt they think you'll report them, more they felt like they were caught with their hands in the cookie jar, and decided the conversation should've been kept behind closed doors. It's easy to think it's all about you, but you don't know that and shouldn't assume the worst. Pick your battles.
@DaddyEvil (174366)
• United States
23m
I ignore things like that.
@garymarsh6 (24006)
• United Kingdom
6h
If they were saying something malicious & untrue l would confront them about it. Gossiping is grossly unfair but l take the view that while they were gossiping about your friend they were giving others a rest! Ignore them they will be gossiping about someone else in a few minutes!