I got an invite for something from someone I haven't talked to in over ten years
By Sissy15
@sissy15 (13369)
United States
July 17, 2026 2:50am CST
Something I've never understood is people who invite people they haven't spoken with in over a decade to their kid's birthday or graduation party. I recently got an invite for a former classmate's kid's graduation party. I am baffled as to why they would invite me. If I were closer to them, it would make sense; if they were family, it would make sense, but I don't know them anymore. People who do that are obviously wanting people to come and give their kid money, but I won't be attending.
I never invite people I barely talk to to anything unless it's family, in which case I almost feel obligated to invite them. I won't be inviting anyone I don't talk to anymore to anything. It would be different if we at least talked from time to time, even if we weren't close, but I can't remember the last time I talked to this person. I know she struggles with money and doesn't have a job, so I imagine it has something to do with wanting money for her kid. I know she has had a difficult life. She has lost a lot of people in her life and has made some pretty bad decisions. I know this based on what she posts on FB, but for the most part, I really don't know her anymore. I wish her and her kid the best, but I'm not attending something for someone I no longer know.
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@celticeagle (191889)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Jul
I feel the same way. Some people are obviously not thinking like us. More presents I suspect.
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@celticeagle (191889)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Jul
@sissy15 ........same here. I don't think I would go.
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@sissy15 (13369)
• United States
19 Jul
@celticeagle I feel like the vast majority of people aren't going to go out of their way to go to the party of someone they haven't talked to in years.
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@AmbiePam (123875)
• United States
19 Jul
Yep, money. And it’s sad. She must not have a lot of legitimate chances for her child to get the usual graduation money people hand out for this occasion. How awkward.I certainly hope people show up, but expecting you to come just isn’t right. Not for you, or her kid.
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@sissy15 (13369)
• United States
19 Jul
I know, I know she is going through some stuff, and she wants her kid to get money, but I find it tacky to invite people you don't talk to to a party for the sake of getting your kid extra money. I would think by now she'd realize I'm not showing up. She has invited me at random to stuff before, and I didn't go to those parties either. There has only been one person whom I haven't talked to in years who had invited me to something that I knew wasn't for money purposes, I still didn't go, but I knew her heart was in the right place. I had a childhood friend that I ran into in the store, and she said they were getting ready to have their dad's birthday party and that I should come, that everyone would love to see me again. It felt different because it was in person and because it was someone I used to be super close to, even though I hadn't talked to her in years. That was just because we didn't see each other; if we ran into one another, we would talk for a few minutes.
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