Former students who want to follow my social media

@NJChicaa (128000)
United States
September 24, 2026 10:14am CST
Teachers are not allowed to have students on their personal social media accounts. Some sports teams and clubs have Instagram accounts but they are usually run by students. In any case they are about school-related things. I have some former students on my FB. I'm pretty selective about who I approve though. We *can* have them on our accounts after they graduate but I think that is just too soon for comfort. They are all still in contact with each other so I wouldn't put it past them to be sharing things that I post. I usually will approve them after a few years. . . but to a select group. My very good friend's son graduated from our school in June. He would come visit me on bathroom duty every day. He is a good kid inside but he has been quite a challenge for his mother and he doesn't always make the best decisions. I wouldn't put it past him to start copying pictures of me from my account and Photoshopping stupid $hit onto them to then go on and share them with his former classmates. He requested to follow my Insta earlier this week. Nope. He can try again in a couple of years. Another former student just friend requested me on FB. He was "me" for Freaky Friday his senior year--when students take over your classes for the day. I know he likes me but he also is immature so he goes in the same category as my friend's son. Maybe later. There are teachers in the building who have active students on their social media. They are just dumb.
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@FourWalls (87930)
• United States
22h
Yeah, that’s a disaster waiting to happen, legally. It’s a great thing to have students who think that much of you, but it can also be a slippery slope, especially in this day and age. I remember an episode of Lou Grant from the late 1970s where a man falsely accused a teacher of inappropriate behavior with the man’s son (because the kid had incontinence, wet himself, then threw his underwear away while at school), and if that kind of stuff went on in the 70s you know any “hello” can turn into an accusation these days.
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@NJChicaa (128000)
• United States
7h
You're on my FB. It is boring as hell--recipes and cats with the occasional mention of missing my dad or politics. There isn't anything crazy on there.
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@FourWalls (87930)
• United States
33m
@NJChicaa — doesn’t matter, especially with all this AI stuff. Someone can take something you say about Charlie the cat and manipulate it to be about them.
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@nawala123 (23689)
• Indonesia
15h
In Indonesia actually students are not allowed to have social media. But who care. It is going to be more complicated due to the raising crimes associated with social media
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@AmbiePam (127936)
• United States
22h
That is quite foolish of them, and I would have hoped they would have exercised more caution. Honestly, guys are so immature it might take me ten years to get to where I’d trust them enough to let them follow me.
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@JudyEv (389000)
• Rockingham, Australia
11h
I think you're right to make them wait awhile. Too much could go wrong - or at least wonky.
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@Traceyjayne (14059)
• United Kingdom
20m
It’s the same here …. It was strange not having Daughter on my fb friends list but I couldn’t when the Grandkids were at my school. I do think it’s the right decision though. I have several of my former pupils on fb now. I love that they want to stay in touch ……I guess it shows I was doing something right ….and I love following how their lives are developing. One of my former pupils has just joined the cast of our UK version of Strictly Come Dancing. I’m so proud of her. She has a talent and worked so hard ….
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@Wrexxo (8152)
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23h
I feel this so much, better safe than sorry with these kids honestly. Some students just aint ready for that kind of access yet even if they mean well. Waiting a couple years is smart, you know your students better than anyone.
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