When You Have Your Doubts

@RasmaSandra (102228)
Daytona Beach, Florida
September 25, 2026 3:58pm CST
In the film "Dracula" (1931), the quote goes: "They're all crazy except you and me. Sometimes I have my doubts about you.” An asylum employee says this to a nurse who works there. It fondly reminded me of some of the best friends I have ever had in my life and how sometimes we did such crazy things you would have to wonder. A very dear friend of mine from high school days was my good buddy hanging around NYC, particularly in the summertime, and often we went wandering, winding up in some bar for a cold beer. One time we entered a small, dark bar and saw that no one was there. It being late afternoon, we wondered where everyone was. We got our beer and then we noticed some strange things. They put a chair in front of the open door as if to not let anyone else in. It was odd. I looked at him and he at me and we decided whatever strange things might or might not happen, we did not want to get involved, So we paid up and walked around the chair and were happy to be back in the sunshine. With sadness I have to say this buddy of mine always kept in touch even when I was in Latvia. He said we would laugh about all those crazy times when we were old and gray. Unfortunately, he went through some tough times and took his own life. I sure miss that guy.
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@wolfgirl569 (142499)
• Marion, Ohio
25 Sep
He sounds like he was a wonderful friend
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@RasmaSandra (102228)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
25 Sep
@wolfgirl569 He was, but I did get a bit miffed at him leaving me in this world like that. Then I realized I knew the reason he did what he did and just hoped he would be forgiven in the next life
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@celticeagle (195841)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Sep
I love every bit of the 1932 Dracula. Old friends are the best. I just hooked up with one I hadn't spoken to in a couple of years. So very sad that your friend did that.
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@RasmaSandra (102228)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
25 Sep
@celticeagle It was devastating and I think if I had been there in the US and in NYC before he did that i might have been able to stop him,
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@celticeagle (195841)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Sep
@RasmaSandra .........It sounds like he needed a good friend.
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@AmbiePam (132886)
• United States
26 Sep
I’m so sorry you lost your friend. We do our best to be there for our friends, but we just don’t know what goes on in their minds. My best friend is crazy, but hey, people think I am too.
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@RasmaSandra (102228)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Sep
@AmbiePam it still bothers me but time marches on. As you know another one of my friends has her problems with health and her husband and i also knwo I could help her if I only were in Canada, So time and places are too vast,
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@JudyEv (391230)
• Rockingham, Australia
26 Sep
We have that saying here and use it often between ourselves and with our friends.
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@RasmaSandra (102228)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Sep
@JudyEv at least it kind of lightens the mood on a heavy day,
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@Shiva49 (28897)
• Singapore
26 Sep
A sad end to a nice friend. Times change before we know it; so I just enjoy the moments I have a lot to chew on in the evening of my life.
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@RasmaSandra (102228)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Sep
@Shiva49 I indulge in memories for some time and then move on,
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@Ronrybs (21511)
• London, England
26 Sep
I have been in some strange bars and pubs, but not seen a chair in the doorway! Sad to hear of your friend, terrible when life gets so overwhelming
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@RasmaSandra (102228)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Sep
@Ronrybs yes, and when you cannot be there to perhaps stop them from doing something like that,
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@shaggin (75482)
• United States
27 Sep
Yikes that sounded like you got out of what could have been a scary situation in that bar. I am so sorry to hear he took his life. How sad.
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@RasmaSandra (102228)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
27 Sep
@shaggin if anybody could help me bear the grief of losing my husband he could but by the time I lost my husband in 2017 he had been gone already for 3 years.
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@LeaPea2417 (40055)
• Toccoa, Georgia
25 Sep
Oh my goodness. I am so sorry your long time friend took his own life. So sad. There was this guy from High School and College who was a pal of mine. We honestly were just friends, no romantic notions. I kept in touch with him until my first child was born. He even met my first child when he was a baby. The last time I heard from him was 32 years ago. Then, nothing. I have tried finding him on Facebook and never found him. I am hoping he is still alive somewhere.
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@sol_cee (39092)
• Philippines
26 Sep
That’s a beautiful memory. I’m so sorry you lost your friend. It sounds like you shared some truly special times together
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@RasmaSandra (102228)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Sep
@sol_cee we certainly did and also shared in all our joys and sorrows,
@Wrexxo (10985)
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25 Sep
This one hit me kinda hard, honestly. Sounds like you two had that rare kind of friendship where you just get each other without saying much. Sorry for your loss, he sounds like he was a good one.
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