Could you be friends with your ex?

By Toni
@toniganzon (82330)
Philippines
October 25, 2026 5:54pm CST
I don't think so. I could say hi and hello, I could have a decent conversation with an ex. But friends? Nope. Back when I was in Law School, I dated a classmate whom I found out later on got another girlfriend who was pregnant! Big red flag alert. He told me he broke up with her and the girl knew about me. But he had to be there for her pregnancy. Eventually, we broke up. A year later, my friends and I were at a bar, drinking after a major exam. He came, said hello. Sat next to me, held my hand and whispered, I missed you. When he went to the toilet, I told my friends I had to go home. Never saw him after that. So, nope I could never be friends with an ex.
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@shaggin (75440)
• United States
18h
Wait so he cheated on you and got her pregnant or she was already pregnant before you guys got together?
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@shaggin (75440)
• United States
4h
@toniganzon oh okay well that is better then I was thinking though. Had you known you probably wouldn’t have dated him at all.
@toniganzon (82330)
• Philippines
16h
She was already pregnant before he pursued me. And I was in freshmen law school, she was in her senior years and I didn't know at all.
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@Traceyjayne (14821)
• United Kingdom
20h
Yes, I stayed friends with a couple of ex’s. One sadly passed away three years ago , the other actually lives round the corner from us . We see him often round and about, in the local pubs….etc …and we message too….i helped him through his recent break up and am supporting him in his new life. We have known each other since we were teenagers …im 60 now and he is slightly younger.
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@toniganzon (82330)
• Philippines
16h
That's nice that stayed friends. The breakup must have been not bad at all.
@Traceyjayne (14821)
• United Kingdom
8h
@toniganzon no, the break up was really we were young I guess and our lives were taking different paths. We decided we were better as friends. We are still friends 40 years later so we made the right choice.
@celticeagle (195218)
• Boise, Idaho
19h
I asked that same question when my ex called me out of the blue after ten years. Ikes!
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@toniganzon (82330)
• Philippines
16h
Did you have a good conversation with him?
• United States
6h
When my husband and I got divorced I tried to stay civil for the sake of the kids but never considered him a friend.
@teamfreak16 (48498)
• Denver, Colorado
21h
No No No No No No No. No.
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@toniganzon (82330)
• Philippines
16h
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@Wrexxo (10123)
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15h
I can... nothing bad in it for me