Sometimes I Feel Bad...

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because I don't feel like I contribute much to the household. My daughter does the cleaning, washing, cooking, etc. and my grandson does the heavy lifting and a lot of the cooking. They continually tell me I do a lot but still.... Then I sat down one day and listed all the things I do, and it was a bit of stuff. I schedule their transportation to and from about 5 appointments each month. Sometimes more. I set up appointments as I have the planner and can see which is good when. I set an alarm to remind them of upcoming things. (My grandson has memory issues, and I don't recall if my daughter ever had a memory. Kidding!.) As well as myself. I do all of the grocery shopping. Schedule it to be delivered. I do all of the financials each month. How much to put in which account, what to transfer where. I remind my daughter of chores that need to be done. She's just lazy and her back hurts a lot of the time. I remind my grandson of chores he needs to do. Procrastination is an art form. I order the cats items each year like their flea collars and such. I help my grandson with his mind work. He has different issues. I remind them of health issues and try to get them to do their walks and such. I know I should make them do a lot of these things themselves. My daughter has a learning disability and so I help her to remember things that need done. My grandson has good and bad days. I have the only phone and I enjoy phone work. I did customer service for 25+ years. so I am quick on the phone. And if I do these things I know they have been done. I get anxious, and my stress level goes up if I have to wait on others to get things done. We get along better and the ship runs more smoothly this way. When I'm gone, they will have to do it. Bit by bit I am having them do more of it. It is a slow process when you have an old woman trying to get two people with mental and learning issues to do what needs to be done. When I'm gone, they will have to deal with it or get help from an outside source. I have also written a compilation of stuff to help them when I am gone. Like how many death certificates to get from the coroner's office, what to do about any bills that I may still have a balance on, which banks we use for what, and etc. Periodically I get with my grandson (who is the lucid one of these two) to run him through what needs to be done and how to do it. It's just easier right now to live in a calm setting and if I left some of this up to them, I would be tearing my hair out and we would all be fighting. I learned that for me to do these things and make sure my grandson knows about it all when I am gone that life is much calmer. They work well together and I am just the push that's needed on occasion to keep the ball rolling.