Is it true?

@ronaldinu (12439)
Malta
January 14, 2007 7:34am CST
Is it true that the more you treat women badly the more they'll come running after you? From my past experience the more you treat a woman nicely, the lesser chance that things go right with her. Than you'll see the same woman running after a man who is giving her a hard time. Does this has to do with psychology? The harder to achieve something, the greater the urge to succeed? What do you think about this?
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84 responses
15 Jan 07
I like a man that is going to treat me like a Queen but, I don't want a man that lets me walk all over him. If he can't stand up to me when I do or say something that he doesn't like, he's not worth my time. I will not put up with any kind of abuse, I was abused enough before, that as soon as it starts I walk out the door without a second thought. I would never want a man that is "whipped", nor would I want a man that thinks a woman is a slave... there's got to be some middle ground there.
@april444 (1341)
• United States
15 Jan 07
yep middle ground works best. I dont want a wimp but I do want a caring and compasionate guy.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
15 Jan 07
I also agree when two people are together everything should be a mutual thing . It should never have to be one sided it should all be fair!
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• Malta
14 Jan 07
I am a woman. Sometimes it's better to play "hard to get". If the woman you are after is meant to be yours, you will not loose her just because you play hard to get. You don't have to treat a woman badly as you say. Only be a little wise!
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
15 Jan 07
and this wisdom i suppose come from god.
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@VidBal (27)
• India
14 Jan 07
I must say that if U treat a woman badly, then she might initially try to put up with it, and if it goes beyond a certain level, she would put her foot down and try to make U see Ur flaws either by war/peace and if it's still not getting any better, then she'd turn her back on U. Now, you're at the receiving end and she's going all out to treat you 100 times as badly as U had treated her. What's more, U'd be happy to take it lying down.
@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
15 Jan 07
It has to do with mentality. I think treating a human being too nicely or too badely can cause the effect to be dumbed. So, try to be yourself and then someone will appreciate it. Women are not some weird creatures that need extra handling.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
15 Jan 07
We are definatley not weird creatures , i personally think that woman are beautiful no matter how they choose to be treated at times. I think its more of being scared of being rejected and we don't keep what makes us happy come first!
@manase79 (118)
• Romania
14 Jan 07
I don't think so. Depends on each woman...
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@marcky (77)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
What do you mean?
@juls2me2 (2151)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I don't believe any woman likes to be treated badly at all. What they may like is the stigma of a Bad Boy image...one that is rough, tough, fearless, a protector, adventurous, and mysterious, but also exciting, romantic, and caring person deep down inside. You can still be that way and be a great nice guy. I feel in love with my husband because of how good he did treat me, romantic, really listened to things I said, shared his lives details with me, showed that he cared about me in little special ways, just liked hanging out with me, was athletic, skilled, protective, etc. ....then we got married and where that guy went who knows....? Now we're married....we're stuck together and have to work through the bad and good on both of our parts. Most people either live torchered lives together, get divorced and move on, or....they're swingers lol :)...just kidding they work through things which build a new and unique kind of relationship that truly bonds you. I know each person has their own boundaries....meaning they can only put up with certain things before they have to let go and move on from a relationship. When you say women run after a man that gives her a hard time....maybe to her its not a hard time or it hasn't stepped over that final boundary line for her yet so she goes on playing the game. Relationships are complicated thats for sure. Another thought....Sometimes I feel the nice people(men & women) seem to end up with people that give them a hard time. Is it that opposites attract or nice people are so optimistic that they feel anything can work?
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• India
15 Jan 07
Hey this discussion seems interesting... I feel so . The more you treat them harshly they will come after you. I dont know whether it has any connection with pshyology , I consider it to be Human true... I have experinced it.. My friend used to keep scolding a girl on mobile , but i noticed that the girl call only that guy on the mobile and she never attemps to call other. See how funny it is , a guy scolding that girl and the girl taking to that guy... I cant realy understand why women behave like this ....
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• United States
15 Jan 07
Why do women do that, I think most women have gone through one horrible guy at some point in their life. The guy that treated them like crap, but they always stuck with him. I had my own experience, stayed with him for four years. Was I crazy, going through some sort of mental lapse? No, I don't think so... But I suppose it was just me being a moron in my case. I'd get mad, I'd break up with him, and then he'd show me his sweet side. He'd come back apologizing, promising to change, etc. etc. And I'd always be the dumb softy that said, Awe, it's okay of course I'll come back to you darling. Then as soon as we started dating, he'd turn into Mister Terrible again . I guess I thought that I was good for him, that I could help him through his rough patches, I felt that he was worth the difficulties because I knew deep within him, there really was a wonderful person that wanted to get out. HAH HAH HAH! Oh MAN, how many times have you heard a woman say that?! Too many to count, you're darn right there! My bestfriend Carter, who is a female by the by. Told me that I always went back to him because I was a glutton for punishment. Well, when we broke up the last time, we'd been apart for a few months, and he started dating this other girl. One night he comes to me, because we were trying to be friends. He told me that he was so sorry for everything he'd done to me in the past, because now this girl was treating him like he used to treat me, and he couldn't stand it. We spent twenty long hours having our deepest heart to heart conversation we had in those four years. The very next day, he was back with that other girl again, and doing things with her that he'd never do with, or for me. And she actually had the nerve to tell me, and a group of friends that were with us, that he'd do anything she wanted, because he was her little B*tch boy. And then, he actually did it! He actually did something for her I'd been trying to get him to do for me, as a friend, and a boyfriend for over a year. That was the last straw I could take on that one, so I cut him completely out of my life, and haven't spoken to him since. Now I'm with a really great guy, he's so sweet, so kind. We've had a few little fights, but nothing serious and we both end up laughing halfway through the fight and forgetting what even started them off to begin with! So I think that while all girls go through that period of a bad boyfriend once in their life, in the end the bad guys always end up alone, and the sweet guys get what they have coming to them.
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• Philippines
15 Jan 07
Im sorry i dont agree with that reverse psychology thing, yes sometimes it works. It always depend upon the person you are dealing with. Note: not all women like challenges, same as men. dont get mad its only my opinion.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
it depends on the women but for me if i was treated bad which i once was i would not come running after you.some women just play hard to get because they do not want it to seem like they are easy.but every women wants for a man to treat her nice and not to be mistreated.
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@onlyme123 (124)
• United States
15 Jan 07
"The grass is always greener"... that's the old saying. Happens to everyone, not just women. I don't think women want to be treated badly! It's probably a psychological thing. It's like they're not content with what they have and always looking for others. And again, it's NOT just women. It depends on the individual person so you can't generalize that about women or men. You just probably met more of these women than you'd bargained for. Don't worry, the right woman will come along who will appreciate you for who you are!
@sigma77 (5384)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I think it depends strictly on the type of woman. I don't know how you can go wrong treating a woman nicely. Some women crave adventure and don't care how they get it. If your woman doesn't like nice treatment, find one who does. I think this is largely a misconception. Most women want to be treated good. For some of them, they have been treated so poorly over many relationships, that they don't trust anyone to treat them nice. Decide on the kind of woman you want to be with and find ways to attract her into your life. In the long run, I cannot see any good coming out of treating a woman poorly. Maybe they get off on that kind of treatment. If so, they lack self respect and self-esteem. Don't concern yourself with what others say. Go out and find a woman who will appreciate being treated well and pampered.
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@kotad6 (209)
• Pakistan
15 Jan 07
Of course not. Every female want their boyfriend or husband treat them the more the better . If you said were all true, i think the man may very rich or attractive.
@seewhy (231)
• Australia
15 Jan 07
I think that that's a bit of a generalisation. I certainly wouldn't stay with a guy that would treat me badly. I also don't like game playing so a guy 'playing hard to get' would lose my interest straight away.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
15 Jan 07
Sometimes people want what they can't have I guess. I don't like a guy who is passive but really don't want that doesn't treat me right. It's hard to really understand why someone women see in jerks that treat them badly.
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@gynbel (52)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
Yah it is true in my case. I used to run after a guy who treat me badly emotionally. Until now I can't forget him though I have a caring boyfriend which is much better than him. I can't forget him maybe because he's the only guy whom I cannot manipulate. He is firm with his decision and cannot be swayed by my tantrums. He has this maturity towards me that my other boyfriends doesn't possess and he showed me that his life will go on without me. And that just too painful to accept. I can't forget him maybe because he is the only guy who could order me around and he thinks he could get away with it. And I want to get even badly.
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@sweetee (420)
• Australia
15 Jan 07
I would never date someone who treated me badly. Period.
@marcky (77)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
I agree with you. Hahahaha!
• India
15 Jan 07
agreed self respect is above everything. true na
@cuddiluk (1523)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
I am like that woman. I like to play hard to get. Not that I enjoy seeing a man having difficulty courting on me, but I wanna make sure that his really serious and true to his word. I wanna make sure also to myself that I do really like this guy in behalf of his mistakes if so he does.
@cuddiluk (1523)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
if a guy play hard to get, I enjoyed playing hard to get too or vice-versa.
@djmarion (4900)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
nope, absolutely a contrary...because how can a woman run after you if she know that you will treat him badly, believe me im a woman too and i hate a man treating any woman improperly.
@Aloeli (398)
• Portugal
15 Jan 07
that depends of the person because if my bf treats me well i will be good to him not mad... but sometimes there is persons that they maybe like be treated badly lol