Should I Be Depressed?

Philippines
January 15, 2007 7:41pm CST
I have been single and boyfriend-less for almost 2 years. I have some suitors and admirers but it's either I don't like them or they are not yet ready for commitment. I am now 25 years old. Should I be depressed?
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• Philippines
16 Jan 07
You really dont have to be depressed just because you dont have a boyfriend. i do have a cousin who is now 27 years old and but never had any boyfriend, though she sometimes talk about wanting to have someone, she never really put to much attention to it. shes very happy being single and according to her the right person for you usually comes unexpectedly. the more you wait and time spent on thinking about that problem the more depress you will become. just cheer up and try to enjoy meeting new people, who knows that right person is just there without you knowing it.
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
thanks for yout inspiring response. it helps a lot! muah!
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@msqtech (15074)
• United States
16 Jan 07
Just live the best life you want to live and enjoy your life the happiness you have will attract many to you
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
thanks, msqtech, for your comment.
@072006 (1276)
• India
20 Jan 07
No No Not at all!! why shud u throw urself in depression?? Beleive in urself, love urself....think always positive. Try to be happy all the while Best luck :)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
i just realized, happiness doesn't depend on having a boyfriend. it's all about loving yourself and being able to appreciate the things the you have at the moment.
• Singapore
16 Jan 07
At 25 there is nothing to worry about. However, you need to ask yourself why you don't like some of them? could it be that your standard is too high. Don't forget, time and tide wait for no men thus you need to be realistic.
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• Philippines
18 Jan 07
perhaps you are right, my standards is too high. and maybe, the one I love has high standards, too. Lolz. Thanks for your response, girl.
@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
16 Jan 07
No you shouldn't be depressed. Being single is nothing to be depressed about. If something is to happen for you worrying about it won't make it happen any sooner. Just enjoy life as it comes to you. That's the real thing you need to concentrate on.
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
i understand... not all things we want in life come, maybe god has a better suprise in store for me. hep hep hurray!
@Liezel (47)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
hey girl you dont have to be depressed because still there's a person who have not yet experience to have a bf ever since birth and i think she have the right to depressed but still she dont depressed...you know her? its me its true since birth i dont have but still im not afraid to be alone for life even though im ugly there's a man who made for each other...right? same as you im 25 yrs.old your more lucky than me because you expiernce to have a bf only for 2 years, me have nothing...boy freinds i have a lot.... So girl cheer up dont depress your still young just enjoy the life and your admirer and suitors...
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
really? you are a member of the NBSB Club? As in, No Boyfriend Since Birth. Hehehe! Well, thanks for your advice. It helped me a lot. I am not depressed now. Gracias!
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
You could feel sad or depressed from time to time not having a boyfriend but I guess you're not the only one feeling that way. I think it's normal. I also have been boyfriend-less for 2 years (or was it 3?!) before I met my hubby. During those 2 years, I was busy at work (call center), I admit I also felt sad once in a while for not having a boyfriend. But my family & friends kept me happy and smiling and gave me reasons why I should be happy being single. I think keeping yourself busy and pre-occupied with other things like work or a hobby would help to keep you feel from being depressed.
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
thank God he gave us family and friends to make us happy. thanks for your response.
@tigrashadow (1086)
• Australia
28 Jan 07
depression is not something that people decide to feel nor can they switch it on and off. yes everyone can have down days but they are not the same as being depressed. women are more independent nowadays and are often working hard for a good career and not worrying about boyfriends. if you are quite happy where you are in life at the moment then dont worry about it. when the time is right you will find the right guy, until then, have fun and dont dwell on things like this....it doesnt mean there is something wrong with you, its usually the guys who have relationship issues. but never think you SHOULD be depressed for anything, its a debilitating mental illness that none of us who suffer from it really wish for.
• Australia
29 Jan 07
hey Shadow, U following me ??? LOL Ya keep commenting on my posts instead of responding on yer own post to get the extra posts
• United States
29 Jan 07
If you have you have to ask if you're depressed then you're not. Which is good. It's something you really don't want to be. You're probably just having blue days where you're feeling down about your situation. You have no reason to be blue. Do you need a boyfriend to make your life whole? I doon't think so. Pick yourself up and put on your best dress and go out on the town tonight! Good luck, my friend!
@sindai (204)
• Canada
27 Jan 07
Helloooo!!! I'm 35 and have been single most of my life! yes it's sad..but it's not depressing. I've got a great famiy and amazing friends. Sure it can be very lonely and I do wish that I could share my life with someone special, but I guess for me....it's gonna take a while before that happens. I have a job, a house, loving friends and family, a dog...I'm healthy and doing things that I want to do. You're only 25. That's still young. I have gone through depression and still feel a few hits sometimes...but because of the support I have and what I have, compared to some people that don't have a home or support....I realize that I'm going to be okay! Go out and enjoy life! Date around! Have fun!
@sindai (204)
• Canada
27 Jan 07
thanks! :)
• India
27 Jan 07
Sindai, I appreciate your positive outlook towards life, all the best for your good future
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
Nope. Not at all. You're 25, young and have all the time to spend. Lucky are people like you who can do whatever they wanted to do, or go wherever and whenever they feel going because no one would ever hold them back. Enjoy life. As for now, enjoy being single. Someone good will come along sooner or later. Its just waiting for the perfect timing. Appreciate yourself more and love yourself most.
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
right! thanks for your response.
@Ariana17 (92)
• United States
16 Jan 07
No and you can't be depressed on a whim. There's no reason you should be asking if you should be depressed. You either are or your not. You make it sound like you can't choose between one shirt or another. People who are depressed dont need to ask if they're depressed. Just because you haven't found the right guy is no reason to be depressed. Especially since you're so young.
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• Philippines
16 Jan 07
uhmmnn... thanks for your comment.
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@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
You have nothing to depressed!You better enjoy being single!Maybe, he is not yet arrived.What i mean is your right man!Be patient and let the journey go on and on.Appreciate everything that comes your way!Dont force yourself to anything which is not in the right time and in the right place!Wish, im still single right now plus my kids!Lol!!!
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
good thing you have kids. sometimes, i prefer to have kids and no hubby than to get married. hehehe.
@angelco (345)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
hey sis, you don't need or feel to be depressed because you're too young to suffer from depression...Maybe your special someone will come in Gods time or he will come to your life unexpectedly...Just make yourself busy on your career or make things that will helps you to be a better person :)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
thanks for your advice. i hope you, too, will find your match. thanks!
@dino1984 (30)
• Sri Lanka
23 Jan 07
I think if you go looking for a relationship you might end up been used and as a result get more depressed. If you have a hobby or a talent look to improve and get interested in it so that eventually you will not seek for a relationship and it will be more healthy for you. Just make friends and serve them with all you've got and that one special person will one day knock at your hearts' door....
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
uhmm... now im into mylot. at least im forgetting about being depressed. thanks for your advice.
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
no, you should not. it pays to wait..you should be proud to have lots of admirers. not all girls can have a lot.
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
thanks for your response. love is indeed waiting...
@den85730 (51)
• United States
22 Jan 07
Firs off, stop the "commitment" "dream". That should come as a surprise to both of you. No, you should not be depressed. It looks as if you may be an attractive gal. One you place that feeling of "commitment" into a fresh relationship, you may have just "jinxed it". Slow down.
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
yes, im too young @ 25... maybe... lolz. mr. right will come my way. maybe not now, but he will come.
@FATRIX (982)
• India
19 Jan 07
No never be depressed
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
thanks for your comment in this post.
• India
20 Jan 07
hey i dont think u should be depressed that is nothing wrong its common and i think u can wait insted be in hurry and land up in some trouble
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
thanks for your comment. of course, love is waiting...
@Raj119 (225)
• United States
22 Jan 07
You should treasure time you have for yourself. Eventually, you will find someone but until then, I suggest you utilize the free time that you have for yourself in the best way possible instead of being depressed about it.
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
thanks for your comment.
@mikey67 (155)
18 Jan 07
You're cute and literate, that puts you in the top 2% :)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
is that supposed to be an insult to my person 'cause honestly, i didn't get your point.
@usnavys (297)
• Poland
19 Jan 07
No, you shouldn't be depressed. But it could be difficult. I can say that because I'm in a similar situation. I'm 23, I don't have a boyfriend. I'd like to fall in love.. but there is no suitable man around me.. I try to spend a lot of my free time with my friends in order not to feel alone..
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
yeah, i think we, singles, should divert our attention to other things like hobbies, studies, work, friends, family, etc., so that we won't be worried and sad about our having no boyfriend.
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