Thought of losing your lover is scary

United States
January 19, 2007 7:42pm CST
The thought of losing my lover/my partner/ my soulmate/ my best friend scares the daylights out of me. Sometimes i just feel like calling it quits because it would save me the pain of ever losing the most important thing in my life. Sometimes i think of how my life would be without him and it really scares me, like i wouldn't even be able to start a new relationship with anyone, i wouldn't even know what to do. I know i shouldn't think of these things but i can't help it. I don't know how anyone could go through anything like this or experience losing someone so dear to them other than their mate.
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19 responses
@missinghim (1339)
• United States
21 Jan 07
i don't even want to think about what my life would be like without him. too depressing and scary!
@44244N (98)
• India
21 Jan 07
I definitely is. After all what else is there in life other than you loved ones. I cannot even think of loosing my wife. She is the most beautiful thing I have ever had.
• United States
21 Jan 07
i know how you feel i go thou it.i feel like i will lose him in the long run i dont want to its hard but i guess will get thou it or we will drive them away
• India
20 Jan 07
yeah i agree..it indeed is very scary thought!!!!!!!!!!!
@vityota (878)
• India
20 Jan 07
yes it is very scarywhen u loose a person some one very dear to u... its very difficult to go thru that phase in life and till you come out of it you feel you die many times and come back alive and the torture is severe
@UcoksBaBa (801)
• Indonesia
20 Jan 07
If that happened to me i will felt scary to lossing some person who was we love ist so sad and really cant hurt the heart, and in my day iam also thing how i lost my brother and my mother and this is make me to cry really sad to think this, but it is so natural for me people come and leave but them always in heart.
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
20 Jan 07
i lost my lover, the love of my life, back in march...and ive been dying every single day since. it's hard to understand for people who haven't experienced the same thing, but i can tell you that it is the most painful thing in the world. there is not one day that goes by that i dont think of him. i love him so much still after all this time, and i will always love him. ive had guys after him, but none of them compared to him at all. even when i was with them, all i could think about was him. i dont think i will ever fall in love again because i dont think i will ever stop loving him. i am nothing without him. i can understand exactly how you feel, and i hope you never lose your lover because i know how much that can hurt. i dont wish that on anyone. and as im writing this, im crying...it hurts so much every moment of the day. i wish you luck!
@pendragon (3352)
• United States
20 Jan 07
I heard that it's one of the hardest things in the world to do,and i believe it.But if you called it quits, they'd still be one one day, and you'd have missed the time inbetween with them.You have to believe you'd be together again one day.Truly, I wouldnt know what to do either.
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
20 Jan 07
Yes it is scary but try not to think that way as it can make you Ill and that would be no good also without knowing and realising you might start driving him away as you will start getting suspicious I know it is scary as there is times I get scared like that but just enjoy the time you have with him
@grayangel (274)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Just thought of losing my soon to be wife sends tear into my eyes. She is my everything, my life was nothing till she came along. We have done so much together, I don't know what I would do with out her! I love her so much! It fell like I have known her all my life, to lose her would like be losing my soul.
@sunita64 (6470)
• India
20 Jan 07
Calling it quits is same as losing a dear one. Be positive in approach. See what you think so you get, this is the power of thought, so better write on a peice of paper that you will always remain with your loved one and read it 10 times a day. Then you will never lose your partner.As thoughts are very powerful.
• United States
20 Jan 07
I agree. This is probably the reason why a lot of people decide not to have relationships. I'm attempted to imagine how life would be if my significant other had passed away and it is a difficult reality to accept. I think it's a even more difficult when you are of old age when the possibility of finding somebody else is slim to none. You are simply left to fend for yourself for the rest of your life. It's a tough one to swallow.
@shywolf (4520)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Just because you are afraid of how you would feel if you lost that person is not a reason to leave them. I really worry that you would think about leaving your love because of how scared your are of losing them. Isn't that the same as losing them? I realize that it would be on your own terms, but it is still the same in that they would not be in your life anymore I really do understand how you feel, if only because all that I have ever dreamed about is love. Ever since I was young, it is the one thing that I have longed for and needed. I do not think that I will ever feel totally complete until I can find the love of my life. So when and if I ever find that person, I know that I too will be scared to lose them. But if they love me as much as I love them, I know that I will never lose them to another person. Because I love intensely, with all of my heart, and I will do everything that I can every single day to make the love of my life happy. I really intend to always do that, because I _love_ making other people happy, and it brings so much joy to me to do it.
• United States
20 Jan 07
If the person you are with is really the love of your life, wouldn't it be worth the slim-to-none chance of that happening to make you happy for the rest of your life? You can't go through life thinking "What if." Trust me, I know. I worry about everything you could ever imagine. If you 100% are in love with that person, you won't worry about that. And if they feel the same way about you, then you have nothing to worry about.
• Mexico
20 Jan 07
Yea, it is scary, but sometimes when the problems are more that the happy moments its the best choice.
• Indonesia
20 Jan 07
My mom used to say to me, don't think too much. The more I think of things that are not happing yet, the more I make myself in a very bad predicament. It is quite true too that sometimes our minds playing trick on us, whenever we said to ourselves that we don't wanna think about this scary thing. Let's just wish when it happens, we still can say life goes on. *speechless.
• United States
20 Jan 07
Yes losing someone you love is definately a tough thing to deal with. It is something that everyone has to go thru at some point in their life. But to say that you want to cut it off with someone for that reason is a little extreme. Because then you are depriving yourself of the things they have to offer while you are both here. At least you will have those memories with that person when the time comes god forbid that one of you passes.
@KrauseHome (36746)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Well, I can relate with where you are coming from. I have lost many things in my lifetime due to things beyond my Control, and for Stupid things that could have been avoided if the situation would have been different. But there is Nothing on this Earth that I would do to trade my husband. He is my Everything, and I know thru the Grace of God he will be with my always. I feel it is not the time to worry about the what ifs. I just take life one day at a time enjoying it, and go on as if today is the first day of the rest of my life, and why worry about tomorrow.
@jhoanee (598)
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
i agree on you. it really felt scary to loose your special someone, even the thought of loosing him scares you already. i had the share of that before, he was my everything. the worst part of it is i never or didnt even thought he would leave me. but past is past and everythings happened for a reason i believe in that. if we loose someone for sure in the future we someone that is much better than someone you lost.