Are you jealous of the time your significant other spends with his gaming system

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United States
January 22, 2007 6:11am CST
I've found lately that nothing irritates me more than when my husband is playing his video games (playstation or pc games in our house). He will sit for 3 or more hours totally engulfed in the game. Nothing seems to be happening around him. I don't think it would bother me as much if he didn't play for so long, or if he would acknowledge the world around him. I also think that it affects brain functions, because if you ask him something, his mouth doesn't seem to be functioning anymore, and he can only emit grunts. I have noticed, that if you walk between him and the t.v. while he is gaming, he then snaps out of it, and is able to talk again. (Although, being yelled out for messing up his concentration, or game up wasn't exactly what I was looking for.) Does anyone else experience this?
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@toiletto (105)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
ma'am how old is your husband? my girlfriend and i are into gaming so maybe if we get married or something she will not get offended, try to talk to him what you feel mybe he listen, tell hin you need quality with and not with that gaming console...XD
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• United States
22 Jan 07
My husband is 39. I enjoy games also, but I guess I do not get as involved as he does. They are not so important to me that I can shut out everything else.
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
i think playing games is what your husband been doing since he was a child... it is a way how he spends his time even before he met you (this is just a guess of course). so, in my opinion, you should accept the fact that he is so into gaming, and changing that would mean you do not accept him as he is, knowing that this is his hobby... in my case, im into gaming too. and me and my girlfriend have already talked about it... she said it's ok with her coz she knows this is my only vice. she said it's better than to have a husband who's vices are drinking, smoking or womanizing hehe
• India
23 Jan 07
ya i agree with arthenium , what you said is really true, i grown up in the way just you mentioned above. hey i think you should change him just change the type of games he plays. look for sports games that he likes , because these games dont require more concentration. my english so bad i cant get it here what i feel. i was like your husband , i got out of it by just simply changing the types of games i play.
@quispy (572)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I have to tell you, it used to annoy me to no end. My husband, my brother and my brother in law played playstation 2 times a week together. Our house was playstation central! My brother was playstation south and my brother in law was playstation north. It didn't bother me in the beginning, but when they were doing this for over a year, I was getting extremely frustrated. I guess I was more frustrated because at the time I was at home with a child, so I felt like he was out and I was "babysitting". Well, in thinking about it and talking to my brother in lawas girlfriend, we both came to the conclusion that it was much better for them to be doing this than to be out at the bars! And yes, the get into a ZONE!
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• United States
23 Jan 07
That was life about 8 yrs. ago here. He would insist that we had to go to his Aunt's house almost everyday, He would start playing the playstation with his Uncle, nephew, friends, etc. And we would be there for hours. I would have nothing to do but sit on the couch and watch them play. Atleast we don't have to go thru that anymore.
@missybal (4490)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I don't have a problem with it, because it keeps my husband out of my hair. The only time I hate it is when he gets really into a game and he doesn't want to give up to television so I can watch something. Also the amount of money spent on it makes me sick. He bought a brand new Xbox 360 and then the games cost like $60 each and he is so good he beats them all the time. He had to have a subscription to X box magazine and he has X box live and man, it's a hobby that sure costs along. He doesn't get all stressed out though or blame me if he screws up while playing. If he did I would treat him like a child and take the toy away.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
The price of the games amaze me also. Now we have a place called Game Stop, that has used games, you can trade in old games also as credit toward other games. The don't give you much for trade-ins, but it is something. It is just talking your husband into trading one that is hard.
@stephcjh (32303)
• United States
22 Jan 07
Oh my yes I experience this but my husband doesn't really want to hear a thing I say anyway it seems. He says that it is not true but every time I say something and mention it again later or wait for a response, he never remembers me saying a thing, but he can remember hunting and all the video games and such. It makes you feel like you are the only adult in the house because they love their games and such more and they make time for their games but never time for actual finances, or just to be a good partner or friend or listener.
• United States
23 Jan 07
My husband doesn't do any of the finances, I have tried to get him interested so he would know what we have to pay and when. Then maybe he would understand when he wants an expensive game, why we don't have enough money for it that week, instead of saying I don't want him having any fun.
• Canada
22 Jan 07
Well, I don't really mind when he plays video games, it gives me internet time. Plus the computer in right beside where he sits to play his games, so we usually exchange some discussion. He knows though, when I say it's time to get off, it's time to get off.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
Our computer is near the t.v. also, and we are sitting near each other. But there is no discussion going on.
@uath13 (8204)
• United States
22 Jan 07
We get the same effect from women watching their soap opras , reality TV shows or talking on the phone. Men just don't let it bother them and go on.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
I don't do soap opera's, and I hate talking on the phone. I don't watch much t.v. either, but I will admit to watching Survivor on Thursdays night.
• United States
22 Jan 07
No I don't have a problem with it, because when my husband plays it's usually with our kids. He only lets them play for a little while. It can cause seizures if played for more than an hour. We know everything about seizures since my husband has epilepsy. It also is good for my husband to enjoy things with our children. I don't mind also because everything in the house is usually done before they ever play.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
I have a nephew who cannot play the gaming systems because it will cause him to have seizures. My husband is very good at letting the kids play also, and we limit there time.
@scitrus (131)
• United States
22 Jan 07
DH and I both game. I can pull some long stretches but he can be just like yours. I do feel for you. To get him to compromise, you should try a "Will you help me?" approach to get his attention and to get some time with him. You don't want to necessarily "break" him of his game. I think every person, male or female, plunges chunks of time into something unproductive. If he wasn't playing this video game, he would be spending hours and cash on...Poker night with the guys. Bowling. The Bar. TV. Rebuilding a car. You name it. Go out and do something by yourself, or for yourself. A few hours apart here and there is healthy. You might even miss the lovable lug. :)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I can't complain about bowling, because we are both members of leagues. We sit and watch Nascar together, that doesn't bother me, what bothers me is that when he is gaming nothing else exists around him.
@cheerldr (594)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
Yes, I used to get really mad at him because he was so addicted with Gunbound. Whenever he was in front of a computer, it seemed like he was from the other world. It was such a good thing that he got tired of the game an eventually, he hasn't played it again.
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@nhingneng (131)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
my husband can sit infront of his pc and play games 1 whole day. at first when we start to live together it always becomes the topic of our fight until i learn to live with it and he learn to organize his time. he can only play his games when he is done all his duties in the house. i just let him because he told me that its he's way of relaxation after 5 days of working.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
We all need our space once in a while. As long as it's not seriously affecting your relationship it's all good. I would rather have a husband who played playstation in my house than one who goes out with friends... you on the other hand can do myLot while he's playing.
@deedles88 (297)
• Australia
23 Jan 07
My fiance loves Battlefield2.. Its his addiction, I never really minded him playing because thats something that he enjoys doing when he isnt working his a$$ off to support his family. I got into the game aswell. We play together, alternate maps and we can chat about it for ages and talk about the next rank we need.. its a nice bonding thing..
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@angeliq (82)
• Romania
23 Jan 07
Yes i do experience this, but frome ur husband's place, meaning- i play with him, or against him, or sometimes more than him :)) so this way we'r all happy.Why don't u try to play along with him?I'm shure he'll enjoy watching u and u will enjoy playing.U must understandtht everybody needs a place of his own to relax and forghett abt other problems time to time.I think abt this all the time whend he's playing or doing something else and i can't join him or eaven when he's ignoring me cuz he's much too concentrated on what he's doing there.So don't be mad on him girl, try to understand him.For example i like to stay on the pc more than 4-5 hours/day,but he's ok with it.My point is tht if he like's it so much, try to understand and in the time he's playing u can relax urself in a bathtub or making whatever u like, so bouth of u will be happy.I hope i helped.Good luck !
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@7nicole1 (1634)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
Ya my girlfriend gets kind of mad when I play to because Im on it for like 5 hours at a time and I dont pay any attention to her.
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@hcromer (2710)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Despite the fact that I spend most of my time on the internet, I still get annoyed when my boyfriend plays a lot of games. I only get annoyed because I don't have anything to do while he is playing video games.
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@kawillow74 (1417)
• United States
23 Jan 07
My husband plays and it don't bother me it probley should since he is away all week is it the last week of being away but it doesn't i know he works hard and it relaxes him so I let him go most of the time sometimes I might say something and if I do he does shut it down right away. But no it doesn't really bother me if he was in the livingroom playing yes that would he will go to one of our sons rooms.
@cheenlly (3482)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
yes but not to as gaming particularly. its the basketball. I had a past relationship with a guy whom i love so much but when this basketball thing on tv (i know basketball games are best favorites of guys) but i dont used to feel jealous that way before but you know when is too much like all his attention is on that basketball and he forget all about me. I try hard to accept that and understand that and i did but unfortunatley we still not ended up with each other due to some other reason which is not tolerable.
• Australia
23 Jan 07
Yes, when I first started going out with my boyfriend, he spent sooo much time playing computer games. It irritates me, because come on, he is a grown up man, and in my opinion games are for kids. It is because he plays for soo long and all his days are spent on it instead of doing something useful. But later on, he learns that it is not really right for him to play games all the time. I understand that sometime he needs to relax and play.. I also have my own hobbies.. so we agree that as long as it is not too much time.. and not regularly.. then why not? He can play and I can do whatever I want to do. Of course, after games, he needs to show me alot of affection haehehehe
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@redxph (180)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
I tell you this, on our part whenever we tend to play, it doesn't mean we no longer love our spouses. It's just that the darn game is so addicting, it takes a lot of hours in accomplishing things within the game ^_^
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• China
23 Jan 07
why not join hime?it is easier to change yourself than make a crazy video gamer change.i suggest you buy a nintendo wii,which is a fantastic game platform.wii gives a totally different way of playing game from traditional gaming.i'm sure you will find it is fun to play.