Depression. Do you ever feel the need to end your life?

@pix_trix (447)
India
January 22, 2007 11:36am CST
Life is a roller-coaster ride. we all experience the ups and downs. the ups are generally handled very sportingly, but when we face the downs-- thats where the problem starts. it starts off with being irritated with everything.. moves on to finding faults and blaming onself... and then many of us slip into depression... and some move one step further and plan to end this roller coaster ride. We all know the bad days are gonna end soon... but some of us want to wrap it up sooner! Have you ever felt so desperate? ever wanted to kill yourself? ever seen someone in such a state? how does one come out of this maze? how do we cure ourself?
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84 responses
@smartx (319)
• India
22 Jan 07
Many a times ..i had this thought..but my strong attachment to life has given me the hope to live..
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@pix_trix (447)
• India
22 Jan 07
it is indeed "hope" that keeps us going! never lose hope! thanks for your response. keep posting!
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• Italy
22 Jan 07
every day..
• United States
22 Jan 07
Nope never did get that low. Depression is purely a state of mind and no matter how depressing things get you can bet there is worse. Many of fail to see that at times but its true. Look at hopeless folks with terminal illness or just lost an arm or leg. Or for that matter caught up in the conflicts going on, they certainly feel hopeless. Most don't give up that easy and continue to go on living.
@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
23 Jan 07
When I hear people say that things could be worse I always quote something I heard when I was much younger. It always helped me: I cried because I had no shoes, until I saw a man with no feet. No matter how bad we think things may be at the moment there is always something that is worse. This manner of thinking, in my mind, only makes things get worse. Sooooooo. Smile things could be worse...so I smiled and sure enought things got worse.
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@pix_trix (447)
• India
23 Jan 07
Hehehe.. i like that.. smile.. things could have been worse.. i smiled.. and things ebcame worse! cool! well the only way to fight depression is to kill it with laughter. trust me.. depression is really scared of jokes!! ;) thanks for your response..
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• United States
22 Jan 07
There have been times where I *said* I wanted to kill myself. Whether or not I really meant it, probably not. I realized that I had too much to live for, and that that one situation that was bothering me at the time wasn't worth dying for.
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@pix_trix (447)
• India
22 Jan 07
to add one more thing to this... i would like to say--- nothing, is worth dying for, in this world.. except life! cheers to your decision to live! thanks for your response. keep posting! :)
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@wasim989 (2298)
• India
23 Jan 07
There are ups and downs in every life but that does not mean that we should end this beautiful life instead we should be optimist in nature because every dark cloud has a silver lining in the same way there is a light at the other end of the tunnel therefore instead of getting tensed up which will further lead us to depression I think we should be patience and try to live each and every moment of the life.
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• India
23 Jan 07
I feel so bad when I read this.... I had a friend who ended her Life...I guess due to depression... I guess a state comes in ones life when there remains no reason for a person to live any longer But I feel that such states r temporary and so called depressive states of mind....Ironically her name was Hope.. I would call such a state a state when "hope loses hope"
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@pix_trix (447)
• India
24 Jan 07
i am sorry to hear about your friend, i wish that everyone reads this and learns from it that taking your life is not the solution to get rid of your problems. depression can be cured, but only if you have the will for it! thanks for your response buddy!
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
22 Jan 07
oh i truly wish i knew the answer to this question.. i suffer from depression daily and have dones so since a child. i dont have medical insurance to go get help and at least once a day, i think about ending my life but something makes me just go on about life... it is sooo hard to explain your feelings to someone because they truly just dont understand why you do not want to live in this world.
@sj_chaudhry (1537)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
depress - lonely and depressing
when i was in college due to load of studies and constant stress i used to pray and think like loosers. i always think to kill myslef so that eevry worry would be finished. But with constant support of my parents and siblings and friends i comeover my that problem and i finished my Masters with flying colors. And now i am happily married. In depressing times all you need is support... and will power to come over your weeknesses.
@pix_trix (447)
• India
23 Jan 07
i am glad you have recovered from your problem. stress can be killing at times, but we have to learn to deal with it. holding even a glass of water can be a pain in the arm, if we hold it for too long! so its best to let go of it as soon as possible! thanks for your response!
@shedii (1486)
• India
23 Jan 07
I thought of ending life manytimes & once I was even ready with poison, but I didn't do it. I am really happy that I didn't do it because now I know life is really precious & we can't end it like that. All problems have solutions & ending life is never a right choice or solution.
@pix_trix (447)
• India
23 Jan 07
life is too precious to be wastee like this. i m glad you dint take any such step. and am even more happy that you have realised the value of life and respect it even more! thanks for your response. keep posting!
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@baweja (197)
• India
23 Jan 07
I am also suffering with depression and sometimes think about killing myself but i can not do that because everytime my parents comes in my mind, that time i think only about them. How will they gonna be take it, only their concern does not let me take this step. I do not have any close friend now, with whom i can share my feelings. Actually, i think this is the root cause of my depression. I am alone now.. I really need relief. I just read the best response marked by you. That made me a little positive but i do not know what to do with myself...I think i need a doctor but i can not tell my parents also.
• Indonesia
23 Jan 07
Once upon the time when i was a young adult, i felt so lonely and alienated from my surrounding. I don't know what's going on that time. All my friends seems don't like me very much. And I felt I should stay away from them. No, I didn't think to end my life. Not the extreme... I just felt really depressed with no end. Then I forced myself to improve. I read so many self-help book, I discussed with some friends, and I looked into myself, "What's wrong with me?" After so many intents discussion and introspection then I found that I had an Inferiority complex. Since I found the cause of my loneliness, then now I could deal with this issue more easier.
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@pix_trix (447)
• India
23 Jan 07
realisation is the key buddy! good you stopped for a moment and looked inside yourself... thats when you get the answer. its all inside us.. we just have to look harder. i am glad you have made your life easier. thanks for your response.
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@Evacuee (1147)
22 Jan 07
Wow! This is heavy stuff. No I have never been in this position but I do have a friend who has had a lot of trouble with a son with many complexes over 30 years or so. Recently he assaulted a woman by going up behind her and touching her in places he should not have.I must add that this is the worst thing he has ever done. Other things were stealing and burglary. She went into a downward slide and did look very ill. We as friends were very worried but she found a very good person to talk to and is slowly coming round to her old self. But I must say to have this problem, depression, is something which I would never want to face.
@pix_trix (447)
• India
22 Jan 07
the only problem with depression, my friend, is that it does not come by choice. i am very sorry to hear about your friend, but i m glad she is coming out of this state. and i sincerely pray that god keeps you away from this silent killer! thanks a lot for your response. keep posting!
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• India
23 Jan 07
haiii a wonderful topic dear....i think quite a lot of people would have tried this , when they are into depression...my kind advice is no one should ever try this in their life....when you are into such state, keep your worries aside for 10 mins. , and just meditate for those presious minutes.....then u will understand the meaning of you being present in this world
@cerena (21)
• India
22 Jan 07
ya evry1 hve dere own tensions in lyf,so do i.....idnt thnk dat 1 cud get over wid it to easily bt d bst way is to keep urslf busy in sum kinda wrk...nd nthng else nd even endng lyf is also nt dat easy as v thnk bsides hvng d guts 2 end up ur lyf,u need 2 thnk of mny other thngs tooooo.ask urslf can u jst end up ur lyf widout thnkng of d ppl who care 4 u?i think no nd dats nt at all possible....thnk of it 4 a while
@pix_trix (447)
• India
22 Jan 07
yes, thinking of ending ones life and actually doing it are two seperate issues. you really need guts! but the point is that the thought of ending one's life is itself wrong. the person can go mad becoz of it! anyways. thanks for your response. keep posting!
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@angelco (345)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
yes i felt this before... its too hard to accept when you're rejected especially when you're looking for a job but i did not lose hope...what i did that time was to pray, pray and pray... and i always think that God has good plans for me :)
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@aksagi (413)
• India
23 Jan 07
Life is full of all bads n good ones but one's attitude towards handling situation is the main fighting force towards the end of sorrows n so webbed circumstances around us. be a fighter not a timid to wait for somebody to help u out
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• United States
23 Jan 07
I have felt it many many times and then when i think about it i feel really stupid i think this happens with many of us!
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• Philippines
23 Jan 07
Depression..i felt that too i think most of the people will go that situation and how u handle that kind of situation is up to you and the so called "attitude," your outlook in your life and yes the hope that keep you on going..just think of some positive way on that kind of situation
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@saswat_13 (127)
• India
23 Jan 07
i have been in very depressing mood.. but never felt like killing myself.. it all depends how u take things..and how u react to situations... i am very positive..come what may..im not afraid
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@dbeast (1495)
• India
23 Jan 07
each one of us go into such a state at times.i have gone into such situations many a times when i have felt there is no use of living.but trying to put an end to ones life is one of the most cowardly thing to do.i rather face my difficulties than trying to put and end to my life.we surely can overcome whatever depression we go through.all we need is time.we need some time to heal our wounds.thats it.live life guys.it is fun.
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@katweena (84)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
Yes. I have felt the urge to put a bullet in my head many many times already. Sometimes, I just feel like I am all alone and I have a ton of things to deal with. It's just too stress for me to handle. Crying helps me to release whatever it is that I am feeling. I also scream. It really helps. Also, I try mediating. I sit on a quiet place and think about nothing. I put away all my thoughts. I forget that I am a daughter, a girlfriend, etc. I am just myself. Then, later, I will realize that killing myself is a stupid thing to do. Talking to people, or having someone to listen to your problems really helps me get rid of depression.