If your kids are away from home and feel lonely, what do you tell them ?

@marlyse (1056)
Switzerland
February 7, 2007 10:52am CST
i used to tell my kids to look at the brightest star at a certain time and to think on us, we did the same for them. it helped and still helps them alot. we have discussions about this many times and its funny to hear what they fell in these moments.
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@crazy1 (479)
• New Zealand
9 Feb 07
A great idea, I'm sure in most kids cases it works. I'm sure yours found some happiness from this.
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@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
10 Feb 07
yes they did, it worked every time. ;-)
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@crazy1 (479)
• New Zealand
13 Feb 07
Being away from home when you're young can be a hard thing when you don't know anyone, yours is a great idea to give them comfort.
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@Augustta (1850)
• Poland
15 Apr 07
My daugther is right now away with her father... She will come back tonight,but already i miss her face and her silly questions..lol I tell her often i adore her,she know without any doubt she is my flower,my life,and we are very good friends... I just see it at me the maxim i can live without her is 2 weeks...more than this is named"torture" and i promiced myself in past i will never let it go more than 2 week ever!! augusta
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@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
15 Apr 07
ohhh i understand you completely. i always say i wish they would go for a time and as soon as they are out of the house, i miss them. the girls and me are like friends, and manuel, well hes a boy and 1 years old. a funny silly lazy long lovely son lol.
@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
16 Apr 07
hehehehehe yes i agree
@Augustta (1850)
• Poland
16 Apr 07
You don't want to know how many time i just said to her:i can't wait to go in vacation,or to go somewhere for let me breath!!...but after a while i realised i live without any reason...i cook for nothing i waste all my time..lol!! They can be a big pain in our(nice)a$$ BUT i learned that is hard with bad but is more hard wihtout any bad..lol(if this have a sense....)
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• Netherlands
24 Jun 07
I have 4 years old daughter and being away from her just for couple of hours when she needs to go to school arealdy makes me feel terrible. I'd pick her up from school 1 hour earlier so I can see her while she's playing at school playground. Well, I know that time will fly so fast and I have to deal with that in one way of the other...but I do agree with looking at the brightest star when we miss someone. Because when my daughter miss her beloved grandmas in heaven she alway pointed to brightest star and start talking to it as if that's her gramdmas. And I did the same when I miss my beloved mom....
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@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
25 Jun 07
i understand how you feel for your daughter. time flies and they are teenagers. :-) i think the star helps us to go through sad times
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@creematee (2810)
• United States
30 May 07
I'm jumping in quite late in this discussion, but wanted to share my experience with my kids. They seem to NEVER miss me when they are gone. They are 8, 6 and 2 years old. They've had experience staying away from mom and dad since they were at least 3 months old. When I pack their suitcases for their sleepovers I include a photo of us or a simple note saying "I love you." I never know if they miss me or not, but they do tell me they liked the little surprise they found in their bags.
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@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
31 May 07
thats a nice way to show them your love.i am sure they mss you, but maybe its "uncool" to tell you that ;-)
• Baguio, Philippines
25 Jun 07
i used to tell with my kids to make their self busy like having activities at home, painting and drawing, incourage them to be more creative and artistic. I usually give price with the activities they have made,to recognize thier work and i found out its work.
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@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
25 Jun 07
another good idea i like too. :-)
@hotbiatch (276)
• Philippines
30 May 07
Luckily, video call are now available, so whenever I am out for a day or two I video call my kid often so I don't miss out much
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@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
30 May 07
yes thats a good thing :-)
@petspets (476)
• Antarctica
9 Feb 07
The first time my son had to leave home was when he was posted to the US for two years. He was 20 years old. It helped him to know that we were praying and thinking of him all the time. He could call home any time he wanted and reversed the call charges. There was also the computer to send emails. He got so lonely that I went over there to stay with him for several weeks. That helped him a lot. A few years later I did the same thing for my daughter when she went to California with her husband.
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@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
9 Feb 07
that is important i feel, they have to know, we are always there for our kids no matter how old they are. you sure had and still have a good time with your kids, dont you? unfortunately, i had not enough money for the calls and we did not have a computer at this time. thats why we had this system
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@FrancyDafne (2047)
• Italy
30 May 07
My son is 7 years old and till now I've always been with him. I can't image to stay without him too many days.... but I know that sooner or later he'll be away from home and I'll have to face this problem.... I like your advise, it's a good idea looking at the brightest star and thinking on us, I'll remember this when I'll need it. Thank you :)
@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
30 May 07
you are welcome francydafne
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