Is 20 years age difference too big for a married couple?

United States
February 23, 2007 9:44am CST
What's your opinion on this? Or can it work? If not, why not?
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8 responses
@limalimon (638)
• Mexico
16 Mar 07
I think that will be very difficult, 20 years difference is too big. You should think when he will 50 years and you 30, you will have another interesting. in a relationship like boyfriend or girlfriend the age difference is not problem but the marriage is a big deal
@pizzoli (3366)
• Italy
12 Mar 07
i think 20 years is not such a big difference in a couple, more years would be a big difference but till 20 years a couple can live easily. It needs perhaps some patience, but inteligent people can sort it out
@mariner68 (1276)
• India
23 Feb 07
it is too big difference. the vast age difference will create rift between them. they will not be comfortable with each other. they will have quarrels and arguements even on trivial matters. their married life will not at all be peaceful.
@ami789 (33)
24 Feb 07
No. 20 yrs is not a big difference to marry.
• India
24 Feb 07
no not too big.
@cybergwen (158)
• United States
8 Mar 07
My BF and I have a 23 year difference and we don't notice it. Actually we did the other day, LOL. A store that we were shopping at has a discount on Tuesdays for 55 and over. I made him checkout so that we got the discount! That same day, at a restaurant, someone that he knew casually from work said, this must be your lovely wife. So other people don't notice the difference either, because we are so happy together. Now if I had met him 10 years ago, that would have been a little weird, we were at different points in our lives. I think that it depends on the people involved and what their motives are if any.
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Commonality can bring you together Differences can keep it interesting Commonality can give you a long term relationship. Age is measured as in experience. Care needs to taken that a father or mother role in not achieved in a union. Can't say it won't work, however, care needs to be taken to increase the chance for success.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I don't think age really matters any more. I don't think it is too big of a difference either. There is 15 years age difference between me and my husband. We get along like two peas in a pod. I have dated many guys my age and none of them worked out. They were to immature for me. After a while, I wanted to settle down but none of the younger guys wanted to. A big age difference can work out. My husband and I are living proof of that.