Do you say 'thank you' when you get a Best response?

@greengal (4286)
United States
March 6, 2007 1:11pm CST
I checked my Best responses section after a long time now and was in for a surprise as always, since I had a lot more since the last time I checked. I am extremely pleased (I'm sure everybody feels that way) and I usually check those discussions for my responses. I was wondering if it is necessary to say "thank you" when a best response is marked. I mean we all are supposed to mark a best response on the discussions we start and it is understood the best one gets a "best response". I used to thank the one who started the discussion before and I think I've done it only several times. Later I stopped thanking them for the best response, because I think my response deserved it(atleast in the eyes of the one who started the discussion) so it was marked and secondly I don't respond to discussions only for the sake of getting a best response. Now don't get me wrong, I know most people think the same too but when my intention is not that I don't see a reason to thank the person. And by thanking the person I mean going back into the discussion and saying "Thank you for marking mine as the best response". I feel its a little too cliche and it may sound like as though I had been waiting only for that. Just my perception. Also I have the guilt of not checking back comments on all discussions and I don't want to respond only because I've been marked. But all said and done, I take this chance to thank all the myLotters who considered my responses worthy of the title and marked it as the "Best response". Though I don't express it I want to say it is greatly appreciated. :) So now the question, do you thank the one who gives you a best response? If yes why, and if no, why?
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@Thomas73 (1467)
• Switzerland
6 Mar 07
Whenever I realise that I've been marked 'best response', I always go back and thank whoever did it. It's not much, it's free, and it's always nice to be nice. Isn't it? ;)
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
6 Mar 07
That's right....now I'm feeling guilty..LOL!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
6 Mar 07
Greengal I do sometimes but not that often I have to admit but I agree with what you say and it is nice to have the best response but I think it is not necessary to thank I know my Friends appreciate the best response I don't need them to thank me for it they got it because they deserved not because I want a thank you of them.
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Exactly Gabs, I know my friends or other users appreciate it too and I don't expect them to thank me either. I hope others don't expect me to thank them.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
6 Mar 07
First off, is there a way to check if I recieved "best response" other than that pencil below the starters post? Secondly I also give best response when I deem there is a response that stands out from the others at that time. Sometimes the 1st response could be the best right away. Thirdly, I don't even know if I've been given the best response. But if I had noticed it I'm sure I said thanks as I thank members a lot in posts, comments, or responses. Fourtly I think if I see or know that I was given "best" I'd send the individual a PM to thank them maybe. Lastly THANK YOU for a wonderful discussion. HAHAHA. As usual Happy postings from Grandpa Bob
@sj_chaudhry (1537)
• Canada
6 Mar 07
i think it didnt get you money for putting comment on responses and secondly it is not necessary.
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
6 Mar 07
It's much more than just earning money for comments.
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Most of the time I go back and check out my responses to peoples discussions.. I like to do this to see if they responded.. If I was chosen as best response and I see it- I will thank them. I don't feel like I have to by any means.. And I know it doesn't get me any more money-- I do it to be friendly. I don't expect the people I chose as best responses to thank me- And if they do I don't say you're welcome... I just drop it. So sometimes I do if I happen to be in the response and sometimes I don't.
@yanjiaren (9031)
6 Mar 07
I am terrible i want to back and say thankyou but with all the falling behind of answering posts and so much on my plate i haven't always the time so i have to have mylotting priorities and the time is limited but the work is too much.
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
6 Mar 07
That's ok yanji, I'm sure people understand, it isn't always necessary to thank them.
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7 Mar 07
I try to say thank you when I have a best response, I think it's only polite. It's quite a compliment really.
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@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
7 Mar 07
oops, no i don't think I've ever done that, i just always assumed that if i got a best response, it's because it was worthy of it, and also because when i choose a best response i don't expect any thanks for it myself, i guess it would be a good thing to do, but i don't really see the necessity, i do always go back and add something if there is something i can add, cuz usually the person who starts the discussion comments on your response if they've marked it as best, and i just answer to that, if they've complimented me on something in the comment then of course i thank them but that's not for marking me as best response, although of course i do appreciate it and instead i show my appreciation by ranking them positively.
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
Defintely, we should give thanks everytime we get an appreciation, best respeonse and even recognizing us by otehr people. Especially if we receive anything from them, saying praises to us and even just giving a short favor. We should always appreciate little things that other people did to us. It's one way of appreciating their good deeds to us.
@FrancyDafne (2047)
• Italy
7 Mar 07
ALWAYS, ALWAYS It doesn't cost much to me because I received only a few "Best responses" till now, but even if many persons marked my response as the best response I'd always thank him/her. Why? It's a question of respect and kindness, I never expect that a person could consider my words the best ones, but when this happens, I always thank. It doesn't matter if a person may think that "may sound like as though I had been waiting only for that. ", a person can think what he/she wants, I think kindness is more important than what personal perceptions of people.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
7 Mar 07
Of course I thank the person who has selected my answer as best. That is a courtesy. After all he has taken the pains of seeing the good points in my answer and selected out of all answers,as best.
@mywords18 (645)
• United States
7 Mar 07
well nobuddy has given me this prevlieage till date but yes whn i have choosen some one as best response she has actually sent me a thanks you message, and i felt very gud a thanks is always gud no matter where or whn its been said .
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@bluewings (3857)
7 Mar 07
Yes, I always make it a point to thank the person who has given me the best response.Well, at least till this point I have thanked them.It's because I feel the person has to go through a lot of responses before he or she could decide a best response .It is time taking and often difficult.Even while choosing the best response in my discussions I go through them several times before I select one.So,I like to show my acknowledgement and appreciation towards the person who marks my response as the best.
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
haven't receive best response.. but for sure if given chance, i will say thank you.
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@deeeky (3667)
• Edinburgh, Scotland
7 Mar 07
I think I am as guilty as quite a few are, in not giving a mark for best response. MyLot guidelines state the it is best to wait a few days before giving a mark for best response due to there being so many coming on the site at different times and days thereby giving everyone thier chance in putting in thier pennies worth. Going back and looking at the many posts that we do is very time consuming and we tend to miss some due to time restrictions and reading through so many in deciding which is the best response.
@greengal (4286)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Oh deeeky I was talking about thanking others when they give you a best response, not whether you've marked best response..lol!
@pix_trix (447)
• India
7 Mar 07
well, even though i dont expect someone to thank me if i mark them a best response in my discussions, but after reading your post, deep down insde me i m feeling guilty of the fact that i myself havnt gone back and thanked the person who marked me the best response. though it doesnt matter much, but it can be a really humble gesture. i feel one should do it always! i am on my way to do it!! this is a great topic, a really nice thought! keep it up!
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
7 Mar 07
There is nothing to feel guilty about, maybe the one who marked the best response doesn't expect a 'thank you' either..so not to worry:)
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I was under the impression that saying thank oyu was discouraged. I read that somewhere. So though I would like to, I don't.
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Well I think the thank you, you read about was the one about thanking every one who responds to your discussion. Mylot also discourages us from doing this. you can add a useful comment on a response you've received on your discussion rather than just saying "Thank you for your response" It is allowed to thank users for anything else.
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
7 Mar 07
i find your discussions very interesting because they usually point out a matter I have never considered before,,this one for examples...I have never had a look at my best responses...and now I think I have because I think it fair to say at least thank to people who were so kind to award me with a best response...thank you for helping me think about this other little thing that is better do!
@greengal (4286)
• United States
7 Mar 07
My pleasure mari:)
• Singapore
7 Mar 07
I usually check my best responses section everyday - or more often than that - since it is a form of motivation for me. I used to say thank you, and in fact still do. But recently I got irritated when someone thanked me when I gave him the best response. Why? Reason is that by "activating" that discussion, he has bumped it to the top of my list on my profile page. On the profile page, only 5 (or 3 if you have more) latest discussions are shown. He has bumped up an old post that I don't want to see again - because I have newer discussions that I would rather get responses to. So it just set me thinking whether I should be saying thanks after all. I still can't decide to be honest. :P
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Hehe, we are never satisfied are we..we have problems if discussions don't get enough responses and now annoyed since we don't we want a particular one bumped up...lol! Why don't you add a few comments on your other discussions, they will be in the displayed 3 in no time!:)You do your own 'bumping'
• India
7 Mar 07
Yes, I Think Thanking Encourages Them To Post Good Comments. If we Dont Thank Them, they will feel like " this guy sucks, he never thanked me for doing such a thing" THANK YOU FOR STARTING A THANKYOU DISCSSION
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Hehe, you are welcome!:)