How does it make you feel when people can not remember your name?

@kgwat70 (13388)
United States
March 21, 2007 6:29am CST
Does it upset you when people can not remember your name, especially if the person is a friend? What if they purposely call you a different name? Do people misspell your name frequently or at all? In the past my students kept calling me Kevin, though I look nothing like my ex coworker. We do not even resemble each other in any way. Even with my name plate on my desk, I kept getting called Kevin or Steve or some other name. Would you feel insulted? I have had friends in the past that called me a different name too. It would probably be worse if a family member could not remember your name.
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@dickkell (403)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I don't mind so much. I try to remind them of my name - if they insisted on calling me someone elses name that might upset me a bit, but I an REALLY bad with name, so I give people a lot of grace on this!
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@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
21 Mar 07
For the most part, I can remember peoples names but I am also guilty of not remembering all the time and have to ask them for it again. That is nice that you are very graceful about the name mix ups.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
21 Mar 07
I feel ok if someone cannot remember my name because I am open minded,I do not care about this, I may think that they may have too many friends or just be forgettable mind people. But for those who are working on some clinet based work, it is very importnt for you to remember your clients' names or they may feel you do not respect to them.
@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
21 Mar 07
It is important to remember clients names and I am pretty good at that while they are here. I do have trouble remembering their names after they have left and I run into them again after so many months. I know some people here that it bothers them when people do not remember or call them by their proper name. I laugh sometimes with the names that they call me. LOL
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• United States
21 Mar 07
Ha..I am awful guilty on not getting the name correct but I when my name is not guessed and someone doesnt get it right, ken, I simply smile and tell the person my name.. Most times it could be they have your face there before the mind and never intend to insult you. Actually in your case, ken, I hope I got it right..I had a very good friend named Kevin who grew up near me and you resemble here. So if I call you Kevin..take it as a compliment ..You even look alot like him. Course it doesnt change how you feel inside about your own name..but realizing you remind someone of someone nice..should make you happy. I know I stumble each time I go to write your response..you remind me very much of my old friend Kevin from Wisconsin.
@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Don't worry my dear friend as I was not pointing this at you. When you called me Kevin, it reminded me of how my students kept calling me that name. :-) Thank you for the compliment that I resemble your friend. I know you do not intentionally call me Kevin. :-) I am not even the same race or color as the guy I used to work with and that is why I wonder how they would get me mixed up with him. We had completely different personalities as well. LOL
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
21 Mar 07
LOL honestly I think its funny really...MIND YOU I am also very aware that ppl get confused with my name situation because I actually go by 4 different names (not including Raven which ppl OFFLINE who know me from ONLINE do call me).....so ya I dont get bothered by it at all...
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@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Sometimes it can be funny with the names a person can call you. I just find it odd for students to call me by a name of another person that I do not resemble in any way, shape or form. LOL Some of them I think just like to joke around and some may just not be able to remember names well.
@joanna08 (394)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
if people can't remember my name i felt that i haven't done enough to make an impact to the person, impact in such way that she/he will remember me. It happened to be before. and sometimes i also forgot the name of the person.. but i try to keep my cool and ask a person about the name of the other. in secret of course. a family member can't forget your name, except ofcourse whan it comes to your extented family.
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@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I think that we all forget peoples names from time to time, except for family and close friends. It is odd that people can not call a person by their name, even though they have a name plate in front of them or name tag on their shirt. LOL I guess I need to make more of an impact. :-)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I don't really get offended if someone can't remember my name. I am bad at remembering names myself. If I can't remember someone's name, though, I just don't try to guess and call them "Bob" or whatever... haha. I'd rather be called nothing than the wrong name, I think.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
21 Mar 07
i get insulted when someone can't remember my name especially if they are someone really close to me or used to be close to me. it would be a deeper insult if they call me by another name. that would be really upsetting. when it comes to spelling my name, i am used to it. people usually mispell my name. i am mary anne but usually, they spell it without an E. maybe because most ann's are spelled without a letter E. and so, i don't feel so bad about it.
• United States
21 Mar 07
Well, I do expect friends to remember my name but casual acquaintances, it doesn't bother me. I forget names all the time so I guesss I'm pretty forgiving when it comes to others not remembering mine.
@blueskies (1186)
• United States
21 Mar 07
It doesn't upset me at all. The reason? I have a terrible memory for names. I can seldom remember a person's name after being introduced once. I usually need to see that person at least 3 or 4 times before the name and the face become connected in my brain. To make things worse, my brain will sometimes decide that someone I've known for a long time reminds me of someone else. In cases like that, I'll start to call the person by the other person's name without even being aware of it. It can be very embarrassing.
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@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
21 Mar 07
I have a very unusual name (Genesis) so I am used to people forgetting it. They either remember because it is so different, or they forget because it isn´t a normal name! And many, many people have called me Jennifer or Genevieve. :) It just comes with the territory. It doesn´t bother me because I am not that good with names either.
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@catcai (1056)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
Well, it kinda depends on the person, if it was just an acquaintance from some party then i really wouldn't mind at all, but if its a friend especially someone that i have spent some time with- i would be slightly offended... When i was in highschool some of my schoolmates always kept calling me by my classmates name because we looked alike- and sometimes, it does annoy me... im not even close to this person but they kept on interchanging our names. I dont feel insulted, i just get irritated. I know my classmate feels the same way too... =)
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• United States
21 Mar 07
Yes, i feel so bad and i dissappointed alot when the people who likes me lot did not remember my name, but at that time, i will make them to get idea about my name, and love on me how much they have. then it will beocme easy, and it gives me happy , saitsfaction. bcos we don't get serious if the perrsons who close to us forgets our names, bcos they are good friends to us, A FRIEND IN DEED IS A FRIEND INDEED.
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@Noel47 (28)
• India
21 Mar 07
Most often poeple do such mistakes.often many forget the names.personally i feel that i havent done enough to impress such persons so that they remember me.and we should never expect anyone to remember us as soon as we meet them.people often tend to forget many as everyday we meet new people.and if its the case with your coleegues itself who work with you since months then it must be for fun or it must be your pet name they have christinesd
@Leonette (58)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
honestly, i feel really bad when someone mispell my name or forget my name. But i learned to accept that forgetting someones name is unavoidable. Infact, I also forget names at times and when I did i felt so embarassed.
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@lauczi (962)
• Poland
21 Mar 07
well that's funny. anyway i am the person who doesn't remember names, but i feel shamed not to remember someone's name so i just ask someone else to remnd me the other name. and so when people dont remeber my name i dont feel ofended, but i dont get man of the situations, usualy im suprised that people acctualy remember my name, but well maybe it's becoz i have unusual name, they just often consider it as my nickname. and even if they call me other name on purpose i have nothing against it, i just dont response when i dont hear my name so they are forced eventually to call me correct name.
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Ohhhh I simply hate that!! I have a very good friend who would misspell my name and that drove me crazy. I got so mad that I fought with him one day..lol Of course he corrected it later. I haven't had people calling me by other names, but misspelling has happened more than a couple of times. I know people tend to forget names, I do that too, but when I do I refrain from calling them something else, instead I politely ask them for their name again.
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@lifeiseasy (2292)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Well if you "friend " can't remember your name then maybe they have a problem...they might have that problem with everyones name ..I myself am terrible at remembering names ...i can't imagine if you have a name plate on your desk that they can't remeber your name uts right in front of theym ...could be they are teasing you ?? I never feel insulted when people can't rremember my name as I said I have a hard time doing it myself so I can't expect someone to when I can't ...lol If your Mother couldn't remember your name then yes you definetly are in trouble ...lol but I am sure its just some people have a rough time with names ..hope you don't feel bad ...take in stride and make a joke with the next person who had=s forgottten your name and maybe that will help them to remember you ... :D
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I feel upset about that alot. I am surprised if anyone even knows that I exist. I think people look through me like I am invisible or something. I don't think anyone has ever purposely called me by another name. I'm lucky if I get greeted with any name. People misspell my name all of the time. Most people spell their name with one " n " in it and mine has two. I would definitely feel insulted if someone knew my name and did not call me by it, but insteadpurposely called me a name they knew wasn't mine. It wouldn't surprise me these days if my family called me by another name because it has been a long time since I seen some of them and they may not even know who I am now.
@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Some people like to joke around and call me different names on purpose but others seem to get me mixed up with other people. It can be disturbing if they do it even after you tell them your name and they just keep on doing it. My last name gets misspelled all the time which I understand.
• Singapore
21 Mar 07
Maybe just a little. I used to meet so many people a day that it is hard for me to remember their names too. :P I do try pretty hard and my effort usually pays off in that it is more common to see them forgetting my name then me forgetting theirs. It's easier for people to be remembered when you are an active participant (instead of passive) at any event. I remember people coming up to me and saying they enjoyed my xxx at xxx, I was smiling at them and pretending I know what they were talking about. (Just being polite you see..) Especially if you have not seen each other for a long time, it makes it even more likely that you have forgotten their names. I know remembering names is tough for practically everyone so I am not that offended if they forget mine. I sure hope they are not offended too if I forget theirs! :P
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• United States
21 Mar 07
So long as the person isn't my best friend, or a member of my nuclear family I don't have a problem with it. I have a hard time with peoples names sometimes too, especially right after meeting someone for the first time.
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