what if!!!

Philippines
April 26, 2007 11:04am CST
someone's falling for you but you know that he/she is married? and you also like him/her...what will you do... frankly speaking,,,it happens to me and you know guyz what i did??? i follow my heart,,, i accept him even his with someone because i know it will maKE me happy...he makes me happy all the time but then he hurts me,,, im just a toy for him... i realize that its also my fault why it happen to me...i learn from my mistakes and now i am starting my new life without him...
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41 responses
@mystery5 (351)
• India
26 Apr 07
I think you made a mistake when you accepted him despite knowing that he is married. Men have a roving eye, and they pick any woman who seems free enough to invest her emotions in them. I hope you have a happy life now, please don't let him use you any more. Think how you would have felt if another girl was involved with your husband - his wife might feel the same way! And you need a break too, just dump him, you deserve a better life!
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
yeah i've made i big mistake and i've learn from that.....thank you for the advise... i will not allow him to enter in my life again... i think i am happy now... thankz friend
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@okn0tok (569)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I think that accepting a married man will usually end up in hurt. Not because they intend to, but they are often just needing attention and affection but have no intention of actually replacing you with their family. I am glad you are learning from this. It will help you stop getting hurt.
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• Philippines
26 Apr 07
i learned a lot from this... and thank you for the reply...
• United States
26 Apr 07
I think if someone married falls for someone else then they need to not have any relations with the person they fell in love with until they are divorced. If it's really love, then it will last that long.
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• Malaysia
26 Apr 07
erm.. true also.. kind of agree with you.. haha...if we love someone.. we will wait.. regardless of how long it takes.. good point =)
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• Philippines
26 Apr 07
thank you...i agree to that
@clod0327 (817)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
If I we’re in your position, I would stay out of him and would have avoided him before I completely fell in love with him. Because I know for a fact that nothing good will ever come out of that relationship. First, he is married so you’re contributing to the break up of his family. Second, even if he tells you that he loves you so much, you still won’t have a true relationship with him because he is already married to another woman. But I commend you for having the courage to get out of that relationship and starts a life without him. You did what is right so keep up the good work.
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
thank you!!!
@scapula (760)
• Jordan
27 Apr 07
I think you will commit mistake if you accept this offer, this offer will destroy family so it lack true or even normal love. Try to control your feeling and emotions, don't be too rushed, you will find your true love.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
i hope someday i find the right person for me...thank you
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
i dont think i would even entertain him after learning that he is married. i mean, i cant imagine myself to be having an affair with a married man. i was raised to be a good person with conscience tat is. even if i am already falling for him, i cannot possibly let my feelings rule! i think i would be devastated thinking of how the wife and the children of that man would be feeling! i cannot be unfair to these people! having him would be very very selfish..
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
thankz for the reply!!!
@hartnsoul (558)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
There are indeed a lot of 'What ifs' in life. I kind of relate to your situation although it has not happened yet. It was something inevitable given the circumstances and I was able to catch myself before I even got toyed with. I found myslef Liberated from this one person who claims a lot of 'BS' yet cant keep his tabs tied. Unfortunately, we get hurt by these circumstances because we allow the other person to enter our guarded world. But on the other end, to err is still human. So we just have to pick up the pieces of this experience and live life with the learnings in mind. Have a great life rhionclead! I can be your friend if you need one :)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
thank you hartnsoul...^_^ your one of my friend now
@shak143 (1280)
• India
26 Apr 07
I don't why girls behave like this.Can't you even think about that girl who's life partner your taking?If this happens to you what you will do?If some one is sharing your love are you ready give up. while going to do some thing think once about all the persons who are related to that issue.If do this i assure you won't do wrong things i yyour life.I hope you learnt a lesson from this and you wont't happen this again.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
yeah i do learned about this...thank you
• Malaysia
26 Apr 07
wow.. this topic seems very interesting.. i think i will get to know more about her current marriage first.. if she's not happy with it.. then i might help her.. i will accept her.. .. of course.. after getting to know her personality.. if she's having a bad marriage.. of course i want to give her happiness.. right? eventhough it seems to be wrong.. but.. why do you want to be in an unhappy marriage? when you can have a happier one? .. i won't know about her husband.. but i do know i will try my best to fulfill her needs.. and give her happiness =)
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• Philippines
26 Apr 07
thankx... that's what i did when i accept him coz on that time his not happy with his wife...
@mofelorn (611)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
Absolutely no. I'd rather speak my mind than my heart. The bible said, "Thou shall not covet adultery."
@mofelorn (611)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
We learn from our mistake. :)
@som991 (10)
• India
27 Apr 07
Well it was good that you realized it now. In some cases people do not recognize what is wrong and what is right and take a drastic step which could harm themselves. Its like you realize it before u make a huge irreversible mistake.. Well if u have got any more issues. I am always there for evrey love issues on the net.
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
thankz,hope you response again in any of my post about love
• Kottayam, India
26 Apr 07
Can I get their address (joke)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
hhhmmmm...^_^
27 Apr 07
You will be better off without him. Personally, I am married and would not stay with someone who is not faithful. If they are unfaithful to their wife, even if they leave her, they'll do it to you. It hurts more than makes anyone happy. I've seen the damage this does to people. My brother in law and his ex did this to each other for years, they and their kids are very damaged people. I'll keep you and your new life in my prayers. The right person will come along, keep doing right things. You do reap what you sow, you get what you give. I wish you good luck.
@mwalidji (203)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
i guess if two persons are meant for each other they would be with each other. but we had our choices... we made our own destiny... we always suffer on every consequences we made... falling in love with a married man and having a relationship with him may seems right for that person... but try to think of it are you doing the right thing? Is there anyone you were step upon? how will this affect to his family specially his children? Are you happy with all the consequences? then its time to decide
@suzzs02 (631)
• United States
27 Apr 07
we all make mistakes we are only human and we will continue to make mistakes but hopefully we will get wiser and wiser with each mistake we make and not make the same ones twice.. alot of people have to wonder in some cases whether to follow there head or there heart and most do follow there heart not say ing that is is wrong as i might have done the same thing but in my many lessons ive learned ive learned to ask God to help guied me and he has and there's always a rwainbow at the end of every tunnel for me... it may take me awhile to find it but it's there... good luck to you...
@Stiletto (4597)
27 Apr 07
I've been in that situation and made the same mistake you did by just going along with it. Never again! However, at least now you realise it was a mistake and it's good that you're moving on with your life. Just learn from the experience and don't make the same mistake again - there are lots of married/attached men around who are looking for some extra-marital fling. Avoid them at all times!
@s_accent (208)
• India
27 Apr 07
i dont know from which area you are but life is once we should make that precious .and we want to enjoy with one whom really love us and stand wiht us till our end of our life.so you should be very careful in choosing the partner.if he is bachelor you can enjoyed and married him but see what now happen.small happy is is shortlived like fashion but true happiness is true love even he is not rich.because we cannot get this day again so think and do things...........
• India
27 Apr 07
if someone is falling for us, need to think with heart and, if married, we need to accept him/her as a good friend only and the friendship should end up with friendship only. At least now you realized that you can lead your life without him. Congrats... enjoy the rest of the life leaving the past behind.
@thefuture (1751)
• Nigeria
27 Apr 07
Oh no what an experience. Sometimes, it is of adveantage for us to learn from our mistakes. If it happens to me (of which I don't pray or expect to happen to me) the only thing I will do is forget about him and start a new life as you are doing now. Thanks and have a nice day.
@priya_ot (72)
27 Apr 07
ya agree with you that if u get into a relationship with a married person then u r more of a toy to that person..it might give u momentarily happiness but lot of tears later on..its because a person seeking something outside his current relationship may be having unresolved issues which he tries to get from outside..but he may not be actually wanting to stake his marriage for it..so u happen to be the toy as long as u suit the relationship based on convenience..its better to go ahead..all the best..