Have you evre loved someone so much..........

@mssnow (9493)
United States
April 29, 2007 1:18pm CST
Ok here is ms romance again with another romantic question. Have you ever liked someone so very much. With your heart and soul. You were scared you would smother them to death? You try to act cool and stay friends as they wished but inside you wanted to shout out to them “I LOVE YOU!!” lol Instead you just keep it all inside. Waiting , just waiting for a sign from them that they feel the same. Once in a while you get subtle hints., But nothing set in gold. You wished you had the courage to tell them but you are afraid they will run like crazy and you will lose them completely. What do you do? Oh well, I was in that situation once. Now I am scared of love because of it. If you really care for someone make sure they truly know how you feel about them . It could be lost in a heart beat.
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@munhozmib (3854)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
29 Apr 07
I am loving someone like that. It's a strong feeling, I want that person so bad I can badly hide it. I received some signs that she loved me... I felt like "Oh my God, I have chances with her!". And all my friends: "You have no chances, forget her. You'll never be able to make it". I was thinking about that... It was 3 am in the morning and I was thinking on how to tell her I love her. I'd meet her only four hours later, which means I'd not be able to sleep that much. I finally got to the conclusion that I'd tell her. I got to her and said: "I'm sad about what you are doing with me. You are avoiding me, like if I were a monster... You know, I have a heart. I love you. Not like the other boys. I love you for what you are inside." She turned red and was like no reaction. Then, she said she doesn't love me the way I love her. That was it. My love her is increasing every day that passes, I don't know how to act. She is now avoiding me much more, and I'm getting crazy, I want to know what to do! I just want her!
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Yes, rejection is a bad thing, i have given up my chance. I figured if the person feels the same way they can tell me.
@munhozmib (3854)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
30 Apr 07
No, do not give up! Only the weaks give up! Tell your love what you really feel, otherwise you'll never know. Once you tell the person this, things will get much more easier. You can try approaching more before telling the story, too. Whatever you do, do not give up!
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
A big yes. She was one of my best pal during my high school years. I never knew that our closeness will make me fall to her. Closeness i can say because she's always my partner whenever we have school plays, dance and even in the singing. I just can't explain the feeling when i'm with her and i've kept that feeling for MANY years. Until one day, i knew that she already has a boyfriend. She was even the one who personally told me that. .:teary eyes:... That very day, i've burst into tears and i told that her that for four years we've been together i have fallen for her. She was surprised with what i said and told me that she TOO had once fallen in-love with me. Just my mistake that i've never told her before. ..:sigh:.. Until now, she's still with her boyfriend and i myself haven't found the for me yet. LESSON LEARNED: Never let fear govern in your heart. If you love someone, then tell her/him. There's nothing to lose. 'Coz If don't, you might regret it.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Thank you for that nice story. And I beleive the lesson you learned
@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
30 Apr 07
i met my first bf in my college when i was 18 years old.he is a kind boy,and he treat me very well.but i just like him now.for me ,at 18 ages ,i dont know what is true love.i have associated with him for almost 3 years.then i said goodbye to him.during the 3 years ,i found he had quite a lot of good qualities.but i cant still love him because of his deadly fault.he is a boy ,not a man.if we are in trouble,he is afraid to solve it by himself. so i feel very tired and disappointed. now i have found my partner,and we are getting married this year.we both fall in love at first sight.i cant bear to leave him over 1 hour.we meet each other everyday.we walk lots of streets.we go shopping ,fishing ,go to cinemas and parks.i feel the world is full of joy.even we watch tv at home and eat biscuits,we also feel wonderful.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
30 Apr 07
thats so sweet , im glad you found your true love :)
@kwlanje (52)
• India
29 Apr 07
yes, i loved someone more thank anything. and i still love her more thank anything. she might be not with me but i love her. love doesnt have clauses and conditions to fulfill, it is a feeling to be a part of someone. pain is the part of love which we have to bear , and it teaches us how much we can hold on when we are in pain, how much we can be with someone whom we love.?
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
29 Apr 07
Love does not come easy sometimes. Good luck on your love. I hope you will be togethr soon.
@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
Well, what i do when i like someone before, back in highschool days, i just make friends with them, but i don't know, i think they got to know that i like them. I don't know if my friends told thim that i have crushed on him, and then he will get to like me also in a way. But that's it, we really did not became lovers. We just remained friends.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
30 Apr 07
It's never happened to me, I don't know if that's a good thing or bad thing. I don't believe in love, never have done, I've never loved anyone that much, well apart from my mum but that's different hey! I am not a fanciable person so I've never had to deal with crushes or unrequited love. I have never fallen in love and my heart is so protected and behind barbed wire that I refuse to wear it on my sleeve. In fact sometimes I wish my heart was made of stone, seriously! I know that love has never and will never be there for me in my life time. I have other qualities but love isn't one of them, it's a lot of tommy rot and pass the sick bucket here please!
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Wolfie when you meet the right girl you will fall in love. Never say never . She just hasnt come along for you yet.Dont let her go, wolfie. When you find her you will know. the signs will be there. I have given up because the right person did come along but he passed me over for some reason. Happily ever after is a thing of the past. I am just glad i have friends but thats all I have. If someone else falls in my lap I might consider it but until then I'll stay safe in my own little tower.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
30 Apr 07
Just like the beautiful Rapunzel with the flowing hair, princess in the tower!
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@shob2201 (620)
• India
30 Apr 07
Mine was one sided love. I even expressed my love but he did not respond in the same way. It hurts when you don't get the same love back. I guess that's life. you don't get everything.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I am sorry and i know how it hurts. Thanks :)
@aj2006 (1536)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
.....my experience? hmm, I hate him at first, rejected him a lot.. and I FELL IN LOVE REALLY HARD!!! that he became my husband for life.. Love is truly magical,we cannot stop it, falling in love requires a lot of trust and honesty. We must never forget to LOVE our self first, in order to achieve harmony with someone we truly LOVE
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Thanks I have given up , i will not chase. If that person wants me he can find me other wise. Forget it. I will be happy and keep smiling. Given up on love. I am probably better off alone
• Malaysia
30 Apr 07
yep.. i love this girl very much.. i know her since 3 years ago.. and ..eventhough we didn't make it as a couple.. i think she's the best among the girls that i know.. i think she's avoiding me now.. even if i didn't disturb her at all.. i think i will wait for her until one day.. i feel like giving up :) .... missing her.. loving her.. won't affect my studies and career at all. .after all.. it's just my feeling.. and i think i'm proud to have love her that long... i think even i have to wait longer in the future...i won't complain.. because i know .. love is not about forcing one person to love you.. but to give one person happiness..... i wish one day she will be at my side.. so i can hug her and tell her how much i love her =)
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
30 Apr 07
You are absolutly right. Love is about giving the other person happiness. Thank you for bringing me out of my pityful moood. I now know what i must do :)
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I guess you're talking about love of the unrequited variety, here. And that really rots-- been there, a few times... both with someone who didn't "feel that way" about me, and with someone who was married to another person, and thus "out of bounds." The worst, though, was in college... perhaps because it was a "two-way" thing. There was this girl I was in several classes with, and we were in a couple of campus organizations together... and we were just SO close. And we were best friends, and we both "knew" that we'd make a scorching couple... BUT... we were each engaged and almost married to respective "someone elses." We knew each other for about 18 months, a good 15 of which we were aware that we had one of those rare "perfect things" together... but we never acted on it, agreeing instead to do the "honorable thing" and stick to the commitments we'd already made to other people. I can say without ANY hesitance that we were each other's "one that got away." She went back to Norway with her husband after graduation, and we parted ways (MOST painfully) agreeing that we'd NOT try to stay in touch. I sense we got to know each other so well because we knew it "couldn't be," and that opened the door for being completely "transparent" to each other... since we had no investment in trying to "impress" each other.
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Well like you said it wasnt meant to be. I think its best for me to stay friends with the guys that i know and if something comes along and falls in my lap. then so be it. But for now frienship and alot of flirting lol. *wink* lol
@hkdgkurt (147)
• China
30 Apr 07
Hi,mssnow..i think most of people have one or more real love feeling in their loving lives..i got once and with my heart and soul.but just like you said above,i was so scared to shout out to her."i love you'.i kept the real feeling inside for a long time until i cant helping hiding...the end of this love story is she left me soon and i have ever see her till now....
@kenetot18 (452)
• United States
30 Apr 07
but never loved me? ya before, and it hurts so bad that i just expect. but bad things has a return of good thing, the person that i loved before but cannot love me is not as great as this person that i'm loving right now, he gave me the love that i desrve to have!and i'm happy with that!
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• Singapore
30 Apr 07
No my princess. Will you cast a spell on me so that I will fall utterly in love with you? :P I am still waiting for my love at first sight. That girl whom I would know I would take for my wife the moment I see her. I need to dig harder. The snow is obstructing my way. :P
@aciddrop (798)
30 Apr 07
lol love at the first sight?what a romantic kind!:)
• Singapore
30 Apr 07
Yea, I am a cool, cool, romantic dude. ^^
@aciddrop (798)
30 Apr 07
haha you've aroused my interest lol.
• United States
22 Jun 07
It was back in 2002 when I met an ex-girlfriend on the train while coming home from work. It seemed that we had a lot in common going back a long time ago, & still do. What we did not had in common was what would have completed the 'two halves.' However, one wrong thing in common prevented it from happening.
• India
20 Jun 07
i am in the same situation right now, first time i had loved sum1 but i cant say him, he is my best frnd, but dnt want 2 loose him.........
• India
20 Jun 07
ya.. i fell in love in my 16... i tried her to make lov with me .. atlast she loves me.. we both 2gether went to parks & films... once upon a time she is coming to give a gift to my b'day... at that time iam in some other place... she met with an train accident & left me alone...... but still her jokes & her words are ringing in my ears.......
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
1 May 07
Wow... you described it so vividly as if I was involved. Take heart. I have been through it not once but twice, and so know how to handle a third :P The first time, I reveal my feelings and lol the world changed over the weekend. There was great awkwardness as I guess he does not know how to react. As for the second time, we were rather open as both of us were single but not available. We each have our own partners. I am still friends with both of them. I believe that love does not mean having to possess the person and your partner may not be the person you truly love. I truly wish you all the best in your love life.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
30 Apr 07
Yes when I was young on occasion, I thought I felt that way. As I look back on it, it was really infatuation. I was scared to tell them I was crazy over them because I knew they were not interested in me. I fantasized about them and sometimes held them in my heart for years. And then I moved on and opened up my heart to somebody who loved me in return. This is what you need to do too.
• Romania
30 Apr 07
Dear mssnow, your question is so general and so personal to everyone. I will try to answer you with a kind of story: I am a serious man, I have 48 yo, a wife and a daughter of 18. From almost 8 months ago I feel something that I never felt before: I love a 22 young girl. It seems to be strange but this is it. Love just happens ! I am a shy person but I have courrage to say her what I feel; she answered "Whaaat ???!!!". My wife doesn`t know but the bad part is that the girl is not loving me. I have my own business but I`m not a rich man; I should give her all my life, experience, heart, everything, but...she has a friend (not loving him but still a friend). I love her deeply from my heart and I suffering every day. What do you think about this ?
@aciddrop (798)
30 Apr 07
yes if we really care for someone,then we will be very afraid to lose them.so instead of bursting out"i love you",some of us just choose to hide the feeling inside because we are so scared to be hurt.i am not the brave kind.even in my current relationship,i often wait my bf to react in the same way as i feel.i know this sounds odd,but it all because i love him so much.