I lost my love

China
April 30, 2007 3:01am CST
These days, I'm so sad, I lost my love. Boyfriend told me he wanted to live by himself, I've planned to be stay with him in his city during holidays, but now, I just can stay with myself. I can't help letting my tear fall down at missing him, walking on the road that we ever walked on together, getting on the bus that we ever getting on together... I don't konw how to drive him away from my memory, I decide to waiting for him, until he come back to me. I don't konw how long will I be waiting for him, and I don't konw whether he will come back to me, but my heart was break when he left me, so I don't know what I can do except wait for him. Can you give me some advice if you had such experience?
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@howard96h (11659)
• New York, New York
30 Apr 07
I am sorry this happened to you. What is the reason for this, there has to be a reason. Maybe you both can fix whatever problem that caused this to happen.
• China
30 Apr 07
I don't know the reason, he asked me whether I need a reason for everything? so I don't know the reason. And so, I'm so sad.
• India
29 Jun 07
You need to wait. Time will heal all wounds. How much time? No one can tell you. You need to go through different stages. Be hurt, be sad. Cry. Get angry and frustrated. Yell and scream. Then start to find peace and restore yourself without her/him.
• India
1 May 07
Dear Kristien, I am feeling your problem. It happens to all of us, when some dear one leaves us. Here you have not mentioned any reason for your boyfriend's leaving you. If there were any problem in your realtionshiop or he was hurt in any of your behaviours, in that case contact him and sit for a direct discussion. You also can ask him if there was any reason for which he left you. But my dear friend, if he is no more interested in you or he got any new girlfried , in that case it is better to forget about him and leave the hope to get him back. Otherwise you will not be able to live your life. Think of the time when he was not in your life, then you were living your life in your own way. Were not you? So avoid the places and things that is realated to your ex. Do not try to forget him, rely on the time and God, slowly you will be able to live your life happily and completely except him.
@earth2jacq (1503)
• Philippines
1 May 07
The world does not stop revolving because we have a broken heart. Take heart and know that there are millions of people on earth who are having the same dilemma as yours. Cry over it.Let it out. Shout if you must. But after that start letting go. Prayer always helps. Don't wait for a person whom you don't know when will come back for there is always a possibility that he will never come back. Don't waste your life waiting. If you are meant to be together you will be together eventually but do yourself a favor by doing something productive while you are waiting. Take this time as an opportunity to learn new things, enroll yourself in a class you always wanted or develop a new hobby. Improve yourself it will make you feel better. Try to listen to Gloria Gaynor's song I will survive. The lyrics are great. Lyrics of I will survive: http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/gloriagaynor/iwillsurvive.html
@impaktita (966)
• Philippines
1 May 07
Oh wow I am so sorry .. I don't know what I'd do if I lost my Boyfriend. We are also living together. Maybe this is just a phase, maybe your boyfriend just needs some time alone, and eventually he'll come back? I don't want you to get your hopes up though. All I can say is, keep your held held high and remember there are many fishes in the ocean, same goes for guys :) Sure you'll be heartbroken maybe for a month or two but eventually you'll move on. I've been there and being dumped is one of the worst feelings especially by someone you love so much. For now just try and find stuff that will keep you busy so you will keep your mind off him :)
@jhoanee (598)
• Philippines
1 May 07
ive been in that situation before, were i thought that my life wont be complete without him. he left me without any reason at all. i begin to ask myself is it me who done anything wrong? am i the reason why he left me? dont he love me anymore? ect. ect. ect. and honestly it made me stock in that questions and i cant even answered. i blame myself for what happen, even if i didnt do anything. it just happen that one day he left me without any reason. the good thing was i know who are my good friends, my family was there, my friends and my cousins which are my good friends was there. they just listen to me, they comfort me when i cried. then they say things like its not you who had done wrong, its him. its not your lost, he just dont know what he had left. they are telling me those things that i never thought i possess. they just told me those comforting words. honestly, they help a bit, but no one can even heal your pain except you alone. you just have to deal with it, accept that he left you, cried for all you want to release the stress and the tension. remember the negative past on him, like values that you didnt like something bad about him. i know its hard to forget someone you love, but girl one thing i can assure you sooner you will forget him. i know its not now but for sure time will come that he will be out of your heart and life. i know its a hard struggle but just dont give up, start to deal with the fact that he is not there anymore. memories will always be there and sadly but thats the only things that left to you. it took me 2 years before i totally forget him. now i have a new found love, and honestly once in awhile i still remember him but im not hurting anymore. i just laugh for the what happen. i am totally contented with my life now and i cant even think if im with him i would be this happy now. just dont rush things, let time heal you. stop expecting that he will come back to you coz im telling you he wont. just go on with life. fate will lead u into the right person. theres always a reason for everything and u wont realized that unless u already have the answeres. godbless you and i hope u will be fine.
• United States
1 May 07
Well, that has never happened to me. Ever. Mainly because I'm not in a commited relationship yet. However, my suggestion is for you to give him some time alone. Hopefully, he will come back when he's had some time apart.
@Marie2473 (8521)
• Sweden
30 Apr 07
When someone u love suddenly tells u that he or she doesnt feel the same is when a piece of you die, however even if it is not what u wanna hear - YOU will get over ir and u will find someone that will love you just as much.. I am not sure what the reason of the breakup was - but it is never wrong to keep hoping for a reunion - just dont wait to long.
@Stiletto (4584)
30 Apr 07
You don't say when he decided to end the relationship. If it's just happened quite recently then it's natural for you to feel sad. Most people do in that situation. Just give it some time and you will start feeling better about it. Waiting for him is a bad idea - you could be waiting for ever! He might change his mind and want to get back with you again but you have to be prepared for him not doing that so you need to get on with your own life in the meantime.
• Canada
30 Apr 07
I'm sorry to hear this. Breaking up with someone always hurts a lot. My advice though hon, would be to start moving on. Please do not waste your life missing out on all it has to offer because of someone who in all honesty, may never come back to you. Take your time and grieve for what you've lost, but don't cling on to the hope that he may come back. More often than not, that road leads only to more heartache. I hope you can find it within you to say goodbye and start to move on.
@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
30 Apr 07
I am sorry this happened to you. I would just tell you to get on with your life. You can't cry forever...and I know it's hard and you miss him...but the reality is that you two may not be together again..and you need to prepare yourself for that...and if you are then that's good too...but you can't sit and wait for him...get out with your friends...and do other things...
30 Apr 07
You've probably heard all this but avoid old haunts and thinking of things that remind you of him, as harsh as it may be you have to look at the view to move on with your life, go out with friend, take up a hobby, just don't let yourself or your emotions slide out of control and keep your distance, it may be am old saying but absence does indeed make the heart grow fonder.
@aciddrop (798)
30 Apr 07
oh dear i am sorry.but you need to get rid of sorrow and forget the guy!he might come back to you or he might not.what if he will never do?the more you expect the more disappointed you probably will be.i can tell you still love him very much,but be brave!you'll be able to forget him.let bygones be bygones.you never know how perfect the next man for you will be.just try to hang out with some other guys and distract from the ex.cheer up:)
@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
30 Apr 07
i'm sorry to hear that. dont' you know why he say goodbye to you ? If i were you ,i think i know the reason. whatever how you miss him or how much tears you drop,they both dont work. First,you must find the reason.Then,you can take right measures to solve the problem . If he dont really love you, forget him quickly.You cant live only in memory.
• Malaysia
30 Apr 07
kristien.. i won't stop you from waiting for him.. i know it hurts alot.. because i'm facing the same problem.. but it's not her fault. .it's my fault.. i left her first.. and now that i want things to be like normal again.. it's so impossible.. i know it... first.. you must not try to remember what moment you had with him.. that will only make you suffer more.. i know you lost your love.. and you felt as if there's nothing more for you.. right? but be patience.. you can wait.. but others will be coming for you too.. who knows? you might meet another guy.. which understand you more.. and you will change your mind someday.. that's why.. don't feel like its the end.. it's never the end =)
@kumar27 (129)
• India
30 Apr 07
the only answer to your problem is to sue your mind who is the main culprit to make you emotionally weak and never gave a chance to know u.know thyself.
@munhozmib (3857)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
30 Apr 07
I feel really sorry for your situation, Kristien. You can just try to forget him, meeting new people, or doing something that will keep you busy. This way, you'll eventually forget about him. Or you can wait for him. If you think the relationship can get well after some time... If you think that all he needs is some time, you could just wait. Wait for him, try not to lose contact with him. But in any of the cases, you will suffer. Love makes many suffer. Really sorry, I hope to have helped.
@lizasese (89)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
I'm sorry for your experience. but just hold on. if you two are really for each other, time will make the way for you two to be together again. But if not, just remember that there are people who still loves you, your family, your friends, and somewhere along the way, you will meet someone that will make your life happy again.
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
hey it is normal that youre going on that stage now because breaking up really hurts specially that you still love him. for now, the advice i could give you is to start moving on. if youre walking into the streets that you used to walk together and its hurting you to walk there alone, avoid that street for the meantime. walk in the other way. if there are things that reminds you of him which hurts you, try avoiding them for a while. dont focus yourself for just him alone. busy yourself. busy yourself like going out with friends, chatting, writing, cleaning up the house etc. just do things that will make you busy. try living by yoruself now. take whats happening to you now positively. learn to accept it lil by lil and then forget. and always pray and ask for God's help because He will give you courage and strength to face what youre going through right now. if others can make it by themselves alone then why not you, right?..just think positively and never forget to pray. in time i know if he comes back that means you two are meant to be but if he will not come back i guess you two are not meant to be. but dont expect he will come back ok. move on and someday somebody will come knocking at your door and will never leave. goodluck and i know you can get through this. takecare.
@fazelath (1176)
• India
30 Apr 07
give him some space,leave him alone for few days,dont talk or dont show ur face at all,he will start missing u then he will come back to u,some times we get this feeling of staying alone at dont want to leave with the person we love,its a temporary feeling,in few days he will be alright and he will be back to u again,some times even i go through this feeling,just be calm and every think will be ok in few days