Do your children get along?Does counseling work?

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my boys are 17 and 12. they do not get along as well as i would like them too. they fight a lot over every single thing. it bothers me because my brother and i never fought that way. my mother would not allow it. sometimes i think that it is the age difference, but i am not sure what it is. i just know that by time they are adults they will be closer then ever.

It is normal for Kids to argue ok she went a bit far there but you did right you punished her You need to explain to her that it is not a nice thing to say to her little Sister but I don't think that councelling is necessary 2 Girls are always worse

i think cousselling will help your daughter.. why not? .. but you do have to talk nicely with her.. you can't talk to her like she's all in wrong.. you have to know why she hates her sister first.. if you want them to be good.. you must find the cause of the problem.. i'm sure there must be something that make her hate her sister.. maybe you pampered the younger one more? i don't know.. but.. this is what happen in most family...i used to see such thing happen in my cousin family. .and she told me it's because her mother mistreated her.. and she hates her brother very much.. eventhough at times she pretend to be good with brother.. we do know she can't forgive her parents =)

Your girls are too small.im surprised whats the cause of such behaviour. Normally we get angry with our brother or sister because we feel jealous about the love of mom towards the other chils... this happens especially with elders because we tend to love juniors more.. try to love both of them equally, try to understand your 12 year old one, she may be going thru a stress about something else in her life.. so she would have spoken likt that way.. any sister will not speak like this way..love between to sisters is one of greatest found ever...

I'd say it's pretty normal behavior. Used to do it quite a lot with my brother as well when we were young, or hell actually hitting each other every now and then like truly fighting. Guess it somewhat was simply setting each other in place like you'd see dogs do, lol. Same stuff happens at schools and such at a younger age and unless some actually start to bleed, many teachers don't even step in anymore unless they know the parents would complain about it. Simply because it tends to end faster then. After all, if it never gets settled, they'll keep on trying. But if one knows he or she simply can't win, why even bother trying.

I hated my brother when i was younger, we would constantly fight and annoy each other but we eventually grew out of it, actually get on quite well now, although he does moan about that missing tooth still.

i have one sister and thats it, no more. i think as kids my mom favored her more than me, and we have never gotten along. i don't blame my parents, but there is something there that could maybe have been prevented. I know having 3 children of my own, that i love every one of them, all the same amount of love, just differently, because they are different. One of my children i just meld with more so than the other 2, it doesn't mean i don't love them all, our personalities just work better. So, in my adult life i see this now, as a parent. But as a child, i constantly felt the pangs of not being the "favorite". I still do not really care for her, but she is family. We don't have that "sister" relationship that i see so often., but i guess thats ok.. So maybe your daughters can benefit from my story. Maybe just maybe you do favor one over the other, and don't realize it. I really think if my mom had not been so doting on my sister, i would have liked my sister more. So counseling might not really be an answer.,,and i wouldn't waste my money.. just dig deep in YOUR heart, and think hard to yourself honestly, and maybe you will find that some of this makes some sense to you.

I don't have a child yet but I have five siblings and we get along, though it's really inevitable that we have misunderstanding for sometimes. We had never undergo counseling, and I thank God for that!

Well I have issues with my 3 year old not liking the 8 year old when she does not get her way. so I feel for you. My 8 year old has never said anything bad to the 3 year old though.

Well as a mother of girls too, I will tell you what I did in this situation. I sat my girls down an explained to them about what a strong emotion hate is and to think about if they would really die. I let them understand that all they are sister and can not be replaced and as their mother I would not tolerate such behavior. If you have a good relationship with your children and explain to them that what they are fighting over is so minor, make them realize how short life really is and that they would miss each other. Counseling from you will be enough, girls are going to fight you have one about to be a teenager her hormones are activating she will see her little sister as a nuances but it will pass. I have a 19 yr old who fights with my 10 yr. old all the time. Your daughter is going through a change and your 9 yr old will be following right behind her.

We also have the same problem. I got 3 daughters and they seem not to get along well with each other. The advice I got from some of my close friends and relatives is quite helpful. They told me to read books about adolescent years and child behavior because my youngest daughter is 6 years old and my twin daughters are 15 years. Those books help me understand their behavior and how to deal with them. You may also log on to www.kidshealth.com. About the counselling, I haven't really done that yet but I think it's a good idea because children will more likely listen to some older people other than us.