What pulls you through rough times?

@pyewacket (44036)
United States
April 30, 2007 7:37pm CST
I'm going through a bit of a crisis now...and not the first time either...And I just bet every single one of you have had your share too...those times when you question..Like why is this happening? So I think everyone has their source of coping in difficult situations..it might be your religion that pulls you through...to as something as simplistic as a song...I knew a friend that was going through a rough time, and she swore the thing that pulled her through was watching the movies Star Wars.....maybe the idea of the Force be with you thing? With me when I was going through a court case last year...don't laugh..it was watching Chronicles of Narnia..particularly the battle scene...and I would especially watch it the night before a court appearance... I know might sound completely off the wall...but that's what got me going--and you bet I'm watching the movie again now So what pulls you through a rough time...Really want to know
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@emeraldisle (13145)
• United States
1 May 07
It depends on the mood I'm going through with the tough time. There are times when doing something creative helps me through, like working in paint shop pro and doing up websets or wallpapers. There are other times when watching certain movies can help my mood. The movie "Pump up the volume" can really help me put things in perspective. I know it's a strange movie to pick but it shows in there some going through some tough times and that they do pass. That doing anything extreme doesn't help. It also has a lot of humor in it. The combination seems to help. Then there are other times I just need someone to vent to. Blow up and let it all pour out and not have them judge me for it. That can really help. Then there are times when I need to just be alone. I need to reflect on things, to pray, to meditate and to just try to find a calm place within me. Each situation is different and each one takes a different method to work through. I wish it was always the same thing but life doesn't work that way, at least for me.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
1 May 07
You're methods of coping ALL sound good to me ;-)
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
1 May 07
I guess it depends. Sometimes my best friend/sister. She will listen to me vent with complete understanding. Even when I mess up my words, she is right there knowing what I am saying. Then, when I am done venting, she will say the right things...followed by making me laugh. She knows how to help me! Other times, I will cry my eyes out and then be ready to fight! I know that sounds strange too. But there are times that I just have to cry it out. And when I cry it out, I am so ready to fight!
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
1 May 07
I think you and I are both fighters..right?
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
1 May 07
There are times that we really need to be. :)
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@xParanoiax (6998)
• United States
1 May 07
Writing, running, reading, meditation, or some other creative process. I don't really ever take my mind off a problem. I just incorporate it into something positive. Something I love. That way it kind of..coaxes my brain in to dealing with the problem..for better or worse.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
1 May 07
What you've been through I guess you've been doing a lot of that lately...yes,they are all definitely a good distraction
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@ydnac22 (804)
• Philippines
1 May 07
How I go through rough times?well,it depends my mode but often times you can see me talking to a friend.I'm the person who can't keep heavy pains within my heart.It's very important for me to call for a trustedfriend where in I can cry and release all the hurtaches and burdens.There are times also which I just choose to keep it by myself especially if its bit confedential or I dont want disturb friends.In this case I'll just try to keep my self busy in work,I go to a party party,go for an outing,go shopping,do creative works like crossteaching etc.:)
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
1 May 07
Talking things out with a friend is wonderful---I do that with mine..and yes, I go the other route too, and keep my mouth shut about some things
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@ellanick (191)
• Philippines
1 May 07
what pulled me through during rough times are my family and my belief that i was given this challenge because i can get through it. everytime something happens i just think of it as phase of my life and it will be over soon, i think of a problem in a positive way. i know that somewhere along the way there is a reason why it happened to me or there is a lesson to be learned. i dont dwell too much on the problem, coz if after all my efforts, the problem is still there then i cannot do anything anymore. i just accept what will happen and learned from it.
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• India
1 May 07
for me heavy metal has done the tricck all de time i was going thru a break up .. IRON MAIDEN came to de rescue I failed in a subject... SOAD cam to the rescue heavy metal somehow gives me a sense of well bieng even at the lowest times...
• United States
1 May 07
In bad times I look within myself for the power to carry on. I am a strong person and the events of the last few years have forced me to become even stronger. I have to support myself and my daughter so I don't have the luxury of putting things off, I have to grab the bull by the horns and just do what has to be done. If I get hit with health issues I'm in trouble...lol
• United States
1 May 07
When I'm going through very difficult times, I do the following: 1. Focus on the solution, not the problem. 2. Try not to make major decisions while under unusual stress. 3. Keep busy doing things I can do. 4. Think about what might be the worst that can happen, then work on improving the outcome. 5. Make an inventory of my good qualities and successes, and focus upon that rather than my failures. 6. Act confident of a positive outcome, in spite of the circumstances and feelings. Faith It! 7. Feed my faith and starve my fears. Finally, hang out with positive people and stay away from critics, complainers and judgemental people.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
1 May 07
Very good response..and I agree with everyone of them...it's hard sometimes to stay calm though about a crisis situation..Thought since I've been through a number of them, I do try to remain focused in solving the problem
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• United States
1 May 07
Thank-you! I love helping people, and reminding them of positive ways to respond to the pressures of life. It is so easy to get sucked into feeling instead of thinking when we face failure, stress, etc.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
2 May 07
I can't help thinking that many of the things you have written here that you sound like a believer in Norman Vincent Peale...or maybe you have read The Secret..or Jack Canfield's The Success Principles which I've only started to read
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
1 May 07
well good for you. I too use anything at hand to get me through. Ive used this site before, it seems to take my mind off stuff. I wasnt joking when i said chatrooms saved my life. However, I do listen to music and meditate. Silly as it sounds I do deep breathing, it works for me. I am one of the most anxious people around and get myself into a right state over trivial things. To combat this i need a distraction and will use music, chat sites and computer games blessed be
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
1 May 07
I know what you mean about this site....one does feel they are with friends here and it is a good distraction--I just bet a lot of folks here use this place for the very same reason...as some kind of escape--but then we all need some kind of escape and at least this is a positive one
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1 May 07
We all cope in different ways, depending on the situation. For me, I find I either get angry and hit a cushion or I cry. Out of those two options, the crying is by far the better one. Let the tears fall until you are cried out, then I feel I can pick myself up and get back into the fight. I do know that it is easier to get rhough hard times with the support of family and friends, including friends right here on MyLot. Hold on tight hun, you can get through it.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
1 May 07
Thank you recycledgoth---
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@Bizziebod (3526)
1 May 07
Hi, sorry to hear you're going through a crisis right now, hope it passes soon. Apart from doing a small ritual or two to bring me good luck or whatever for situation, then to really take my mind off things, I'll put out 'The Sims' game and get lost in that for a few hours. Hope everything works out ok!
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
1 May 07
Thank you ;-)
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1 May 07
What helps me through rough times is a trip out to the coast, or a walk in the Country side, I find getting away from the situation for a while helps me get my head around the problem, that way I am able to deal with it much better without getting over stressed Lynn-Marie
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@Ravrockin (281)
• India
1 May 07
any thing from which i can be disturb it may be movies,incidents and so on.
@profclark (512)
• United States
1 May 07
Stopping, taking a few days and centering myself, then good friends, and good food, and I too am a fan of good movies. Also, I always keep chocolate in the house. :)
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@may_md (8)
• Philippines
1 May 07
I also have a share of that crisis in life. Prayers really help me get through it. Just keep your faith in God he will really help you coz he is the only one that really knows whats best for us.
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@akinad (448)
• Philippines
1 May 07
just seeing my baby and looking how she has grown gives me the strenght to pull through hard times...just thinking that i should make it because my baby needs me would really give me the reason to keep on holding on..she's my strenght and my life..
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@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 May 07
I can pull through with the support of my church mates and poeple I care about and a good relationship with God.
• United States
2 May 07
That's a tough one... I guess it's the way I believe mostly. I also like to keep running a few quotes in my head that helps a lot too : This too shall pass and a few others that I can't not think of at this moment - 'cause I'm a bit tired from work. LOL Keep going babe!
• United States
2 May 07
During rough times, I cry and pray to God. I try to look around and see what I "do have" to be thankful for, instead of consentration on the problem so much.