"You would never know your ability to love untill you have your own kids".
By Augustta
@Augustta (1850)
Poland
May 2, 2007 4:01am CST
That is what my teacher said to me when i was young...
We used to spend a lot time talking about anything and all instead chemistry ..lol..
I love kids...I absolutely adore kids, I think it's a wonderful thing to have your own kids.
Raising a kid is not like doing a business. It cost money, time, and all the effort but in return you will get the joy that you would never experience when you see the kid grow up day by day....
You will never learn the true meaning of unconditional love unless you have a child and you can truly understand your parents because you will feel what they have been saying to you for many years...
Do you think my chemistry teacher had right?
Do you feel that your true level of love was more good express after you had your own kids?
What about people which don't love kids?I heard some people saying they hate kids...those don't have heart?How their love can be mesurated?
Do your kids change your life and your capacity of love?
Is it necessary to have kids?
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18 responses
@fox123 (285)
• Philippines
3 May 07
i dont know if its true but as far as i cna remember, i love my nephews as my own child when i was still single, when i got married things were more different then, the love i have to my nephews are less intense compare to my children now, maybe the level of love is different since our children are our bloodline , direct from us..
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
2 May 07
i did not hear that from my teacher but from my mom. she said that the best way you'll know how strong your love is, is when you already have a child. she said that people always know the meaning of true love. but love isn't just love... it is composed, too of sacrifice, patience and care... and all these will be mixed up and tested with love when you already have children.
i don't have a child yet. but i guess what she says is true. and one day, i know i can love to the fullest when i have my own family already.. .and you know what augusta?... i am excited!
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@jocson (96)
• Philippines
2 May 07
Your teacher is right. We won't be able to realize all the efforts of our parents and their hardships until we turn into parents. My life turned differently when my son was born. Every things seems to be so hard and tough but then as I can see him start to develop and discover new things, I gain happiness. Happiness that I haven't felt before, happiness that my parents used to have. Though I'm too young to start my own family, I still want to live with both my family and with our new family members. I was so glad that I have chosen to be a father though its really tough specially in my age.
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@sherry_navilla (420)
• Slovak Republic
2 May 07
and you're teacher have said it very well... but i do think there are still other ways to learn how to love.. and one is when you meet your partner.. i think that still your love for your kid is really unconditional but the love you give to your husband/wife is enought to cherish as well.
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@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
2 May 07
I think your teacher was very right. I have my son of only 7 months and what I really feel about him ... A great gift of God! Well, you can feel about your parents while you were kids and they brought you up by putting all of the energies, the time, money and their "prime time of enjoying the life".
While being parents, one can understand the life, a true life full of surely a pure love with the kids. How cruel people are, who hate kids!!
One must have kids for expressing the parental love, the feelings of inner, the affection, their dreams becoming true while the kid turns to a strong young man or a decent pretty girl.
I wish you a life full of joy, Augussta!!
@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
2 May 07
Hi Augustta, hope all is well.
I agree that having kids changes you and how you love. Since having my daughter almost 11 months ago everyone has commented on how I have matured and am more responsible. People have said I am not the same Jenn I was a year ago. My daughter has changed me SOOO much and how you love a child is something you can't experience until you have your own child. for people who say they hate kids, I don't think it's the kids themselves that they hate. I think it may be that they just aren't ready or mature enough to handle the financial aspect or the emotional aspect of having a child. Either that or they have been around too many brats lol. I don't think people should have kids just for the sake of having them. Often those parents mistreat those children or those kids have horrible childhoods and it scars them for life. Good post hun, have a good day!
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@AllAboutMoney (32)
• Tunisia
2 May 07
Hi, I really look after having my own children to raise. I was looking for that to satisfy an self-desire, now I will be looking for it, in addition, to be able to reply your question;)
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@derek_a (10874)
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2 May 07
A parent can experience unconditional love. A love that looks for nothing in return. As you say it costs money, time and effort, but parents give that willingly just for the experience of having the family.
As a man, I cannot experience such intensity as a woman, but I have three sisters who would do anything at all for their children.
Sadly there are some women who have no love for their own kids at all. This seems to be something that happens from time to time in all nature where animals seem to reject their young for no apparent reason.
I wouldn't say it is necessary to have kids, but it's definitely a instinctual drive to have them.
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
2 May 07
You are absolutely right, kids do make you love even more. When you think you have found the person of your dreams, you fall in love, and you think you have none to spare. Then you have kids and you realise just how wrong you were, because you just overflow with the love for them. Kids make you laugh, they make you cry, but in the end they bring out the best in you. They just totally adore you, faults and all, and put all their trust in you. I know my life would be definitely lacking without my son, and I wouldn't part with any of it for the world.
@bruxedo (773)
• France
2 May 07
Your teacher was right, of course. I think it's something very hard to explain to someone that didn't already have kids, but we change a lot. We will never be the same again. Everything around us seems to change and all those "trues" that we had (I will never do this, and this, ...) aren't significant anymore. You begin to see the world with different eyes, not judging people so hard like before, becoming much more altruist and there's some kind of aureole of joy, kindness and a lot of different feelings that seems to grow instantly in you. Hard to explain.. also because I don't know all the words that I needed to explain it, because my english vocabulary doesn't go so far... but I think you got the picture.. :)
@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
2 May 07
raising kids is a big responsibilities as a parent, A child is a life long commitment and children is a priority . it doesnt matter if we spend a lot of money with our kids as long as its for their best. thats why as a parent we worked hard because of their future,i am happy to be with my children although sometimes they are naughty because its part of growing up as child. I am now totally complete as a woman for having kids. i think to those people who dont love their kids its because theyre still not emotionally financially ready and they dont like childrens tantrums or naughtiness.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
2 May 07
I believe that your teacher was right to a point. However, I believe that there are people who don't want children and I believe these people can experience true love, but a different kind of love. I also know people who have children that shouldn't have children.
People who hate children actually just don't like the responsibiblity that comes with children. They aren't willing to accept that commitment and I am thankful that most people who say that don't have children as they wouldn't be a good parent.
A good parent knows unconditional love and accepts the fact that the child isn't perfect. Being a paretn is very frustrating but very rewarding in its own way.
@sick4muzick (816)
• Philippines
15 May 07
Hi Augustta. Absolutely. Your chemistry teacher is right. Kids are blessings. They make life worth living. They are little "yous" that you could shape and mold to bring out the best of you. I love kids. Although I don't have kids yet,I love all the kids I am taking care of as if they are my own. It is not necessary to have kids to feel love for them. If one cannot have kids, adoption is an option. For me, it doesn't matter if the kids came from me or not, I will love them the same. It's true we can never know how our parents feel until we become parents too.
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
15 May 07
I think the love and bond a parent can have with a child is like no other. I also think the child doesn't need to be biological to feel that way. If you are given a vulnerable little life to care for, nnurture, and raise, you become evry emotionally invested in it. I know not everyone does, but tI like to think they are the exceptions. I think most parents would lay down their lives for their children if it came to it, don't you?
