About being pretty
May 5, 2007 12:43am CST
DO YOU CONSIDER IT A BURDEN TO BE THOUGHT OF AS PRETTY? I ask this with the utmost humility because all of my life I have been told this. I learned as a child to feel uncomfortable when people said I was pretty. There was so much more to me than that. I had intelligence and a vivid imagination. I could do most of the things others my age could. I didn't want to be singled out. I think this caused some girls who might have otherwise been my friends to hate me. Even now when I am middle-aged, overweight, and not always looking my best, I still get this "compliment." Luckily, I later made a few steadfast friends who saw through to the real me. I have always been grateful for that. It has colored my entire life. I will rarely submit to being photographed, and I think I gained weight just to take some of the pressure off. I see people who are vain about their looks and I don't understand. I have always looked in the mirror and just saw me.
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5 May 07
hi, wow. you are real deep thinking woman. meanwhile others think about how they can looks more looking good and more and more, you feel burden to bacome pretty.. but i understand this. may be it caused by people sourrounding you feel jealously on you, so they give you some opinion that result burdening you. i think the best way, is, you keep your looks prettier and just hear and choose your real friend who can support you in everything, not getting you down.
• United States
7 May 07
Wow. You hit a nerve with me. I have been trying to figure out why I have been keeping this weight on for so long and can't seem to lose it. Prior to my gaining the weight, I was whistled at, had the remarks said about my looks, and my fair share of idiots hitting on me. When I gained the weight, it seems that I was trying to hide myself so people had to search for the real me. I am now getting better with having my picture taken. I want visuals for my family to remember me by. I am who I am, if others can't take the time to get to know me, they aren't worthy of my friendship. Huggers to you.
• United States
6 May 07
I love it when people tell me that I am attractive, pretty, gorgeous, etc. It makes me feel good. It makes me feel like other people can see that I can be beautiful and smart. I will be the first to admit that sometimes when I know someone thinks I am pretty, I will use my looks to get what I want. Being a pretty girl does have it's perks. Like when I was younger and would go out to bars and clubs, being one of the pretty girls did get me free drinks from the bartendars, guys and owners of the clubs. So, sometimes girls hate you for being pretty, big deal. Those types of girls are just jealous or feel bad about themselves and you don't need that negativity in your life anyways. I have never considered it a burden to be thought of as pretty. Ok, so maybe there is a bit of pressure to always look great, but who doesn't want to look their best all the time? I think ther is more pressure to be thought of as smart. When people think of you are really smart they expect you to have answers to things all the time regardless of whether or not it is something that you have an interest in. Like I hate math, but people think I am smart always want my help with math related things. I don't know the first thing about algebra or geometry and my cousin is always asking me for help. I always end up feeling stupid when it comes to math.
5 May 07
Well friend, this is what world is. Most of the people first get carried over with the physical appearance. Only after few days of talking and spending time with them, we come to know the real picture of that person. Even i have found many of them who make friendship just because they look pretty, but then i am not like that. I dont even like people who make friendship for the sake of physical appearance or for money!
• Janesville, Wisconsin
18 Jun 07
I know what you mean.. I get hit on by men and woman of all ages, and on and off the internet, and it is annoying, because one I am not interested, and too I do not see very much beauty or attraction in my own looks, so I don't know what draws them all like moths to a flame, but I rather like you be liked for my other traits, and not for my physical appearance... So, Yes it can be a burden, as people around me get jealous, or upset, or try to pressure me into dating etc.. I can't stand that stuff. Take care, and do you best not to listen to what people want to try to tell you that you are, just do your best to always remember and know that you are. :) .. As people will say anything for any gain.. take care, - DNatureofDTrain