How about arguements?

@abroji (3247)
India
May 10, 2007 4:23am CST
Are you in the habbit of entering into arguements upon issues with your friends? Why do quitely started debates turn into hot arguements? What could be the main reason? Have you ever entered into any arguement? Do you believe that an arguement could help you establishing your views? What is your overall view about arguements? Five questions are given above. My request to you is not to answer all these questions.If you are willing you nay answer, but what I ask is to choose one question and give your answer to that. Often we see friends, when in company, starts discussion and debate upon some subject, such as the latest movie or some thing like that. After some time this will turn into a heated arguement. I think the villain behind this transformation is ego. It is egoism holds a person from admitting what the other fellow says is true. Though he kmows the fact, his ego don't allow him to admit that. So I think the answer for the second question (accorsing to me) is this. Friends, please come out with your answers and enrich this discussion.
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huilee
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
11 May 07
Im not into the habit of quarreling... I must admit my temper is not tt bad... Yet i have totally no idea as to why? My bf and i always quarrel... N everything its over those small nonsensical issues... I always tend to comment too much and he will get irritated... Guess its my character that kills... However, i do have a friend tt tend to quarrel with every single one... Whenever shes not satisfied or she feels tt its wrong, she will interfere... Irregardless of whether its her concern anot... Her ego is too high too... Guess sometimes we should control our anger because too much quarrels can hurt a relationship between family friends or boyfriend...
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abroji
@abroji (3247)
• India
11 May 07
You are better at controlling your anger, and it is very nice. Thank you for responding.
abroji
@abroji (3247)
• India
11 May 07
Keep your relations intact, they are preacious. Thank you for the comment.
huilee
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
11 May 07
Not really la... Sometimes im too stubborn... But it gets to a point that i wanna continue this relationship... So i wun quarrel with him over superficial things...
stella1989
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
11 May 07
I have a really bad habbit to enter in arguments with my friends and even with strangers and aslo with my parents ..! Its not because of ego but it is cause of I can not stand people doing and beliveing wrong things!! Unkown to the right knowledge. So I get an inbuilt urge to go up there and correct them up..! But this do not happens every time..!! Some times I just cannot agree with people..!! Well I guess this "is" a sign of ego but before entering in an argument I make it sure that I know almost 70 percent of the topic..!! So that I can willingly participate in that argument. I do it just to increase the range of my thinking ability..!! I want to think in all four directions of life..!! Including bad and good aspects of life..!! So I guess getting in an argument is good way to increase your knowledge and that too with a hot enthusiasm...!! I like the spirit and energy which I feel inside me whenever I indulge in an argument!! Which make me fall in many other arguments too..!! Happy argumenting!! Have a nice day.
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abroji
@abroji (3247)
• India
11 May 07
Accumulating knowledge by argumenting. New idea! If it helps continue, but make sure you can control your temper. Arguments generally leads to quarrel. Thank you for the response.
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gberlin
@gberlin (3836)
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10 May 07
When I think of arguments I think of debates out of control. However, in a court of law lawyers give opening and closing arguments. In that case the arguments would be under control. I have discussions with my friends and colleagues about sports. Some of my colleagues support different sports teams than I do. We like to tease each other and we discuss the good and bad points of the teams we support but it is always friendly banter. I can not remember the last time I had a 'hot' argument with anyone. It is my nature to be peaceful.
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abroji
@abroji (3247)
• India
11 May 07
People with a peaceful nature will not engage themselvrs in heated arguements. Glad to hear you are peace loving. Thank you gberlin for your response.
sukumar794
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
10 May 07
As for me, I engage only in healthy arguments. Arguments for arguments' sake..it's not my way. Arguments should always be based on finding out solutions and those must have scope for weighing out pros and cons.
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abroji
@abroji (3247)
• India
10 May 07
In a healthy argument the arguing parties should be receptive, open minded, and ready to admit. Then the arguement will help them to find out solutions for their problem. It is proper for matured people to to be so. Thank you.
thefuture
@thefuture (1749)
• Nigeria
10 May 07
I have ever entered into so many arguments before. Some where academic and some football, but Thanks to God I later discovered how useless it was to waste time ones time for arguments. What really brings arguments between two parties is as a result of both parties agreeing with each other. Have a nice day.
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abroji
@abroji (3247)
• India
10 May 07
Yes future, arguments leads us nowhere. This I have learned quite some years back. Thank you for your response.
mari123
@mari123 (1861)
• China
11 May 07
arguements make you bad emotion,we should argue with a useness thing,but in our social we need different view about a work to progress.only have arguements,the social can develop.
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abroji
@abroji (3247)
• India
11 May 07
Yes arguments give you bad emotions like anger and hatred. But we have to enter into arguments to get better opinion on a matter. Such arguments should be healthy. I understand you. Thank you for your response.
Ellie
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
10 May 07
Why do quitely started debates turn into arguements? The reason is simple. Who ever was in that debates want to be heard and that h/her views is more relevant than others. Monopolizing the conversations is another reasons.
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abroji
@abroji (3247)
• India
10 May 07
There are people who try to monopolise conversations. You are right. They well contribute for the commencement of an arguement.Thank you for your response.
toxic_f22
@toxic_f22 (166)
• United States
10 May 07
I mean , Who hasnt entered into an argument ... all of us argue at some point or other in our lifes ... arguing is a part and parcel of our life ..... Humans have been blessed with the power and ability to think , and then present their views ... these views differ from person to person and this results into an argument ... I'm not saying that Getting into an argument is a good thing .. all I am trying to say is that avoid sensless arguments , arguments which are caused because you have not given proper thaught ... avoid those arguments ... but if you get into an argument to fight out ur rights or for freedom or against some thing unjust , and that sorts .... great .... then Argue till you u get yourself heard ....... Hope this was intresting ;-
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abroji
@abroji (3247)
• India
10 May 07
Yes. We should not give up our arguments while fighting for a known cause. And we should avoid unnecessary arguments. Thank you, toxic, your respose is great.