Should teens living at home pay rent?

@Swtrose (3399)
Canada
May 10, 2007 3:39pm CST
Is it fair for a teen to pay room and board when they are working? What age do you think a teen should start paying room and board? I think it gives teens an idea of what it'll be like when they get their own place and have to pay rent, food, utilities, etc-. My daughter is almost 17. She works part time and pays us $25.00 every two weeks towards groceries and in the summer when she works full time, she pays us $100.00 a month. She does not mind at all and says that she wants to help out.
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38 responses
• United States
10 May 07
I think you are responsible to provide your child with everything they need until they are 18. If they want "extras" then they could use there money towards that but I don't think it's fair for a parent to charge there 16 year old rent. If you have a generous child that wants to help out then more power to them and LUCKY you.
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• Canada
11 May 07
I'm not sure about charging rent, per say, but if your teenager is a responsible individual,works a decent amount of hours per month, then I don't think it is unreasonable to argue with them if they wish to chip in 50.00 here and there for groceries or utility bills. Even charging a small amount for rent that you could then apply towards groceries or other needed household items is reasonable. Whether or not I would actually ask them to do so,I don't know. But, if your teenager wants a fancy cell phone and name brand clothes, well then as a working individual, he or she should pay for that themselves.
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• United States
30 Jan 11
Haven't faced this milestone yet...but if my child was in school, high school or college, working or not...no rent. And after 18, no curfew...but a text about whether or not I should wait up. After 21 and after school and once they had a job...then they might as well move out as stay home and pay rent! What adult child wants to live at home and pay rent rather than split an apartment with 3 other kids for the same price?
@DavidReedy (2411)
• United States
10 May 07
That's pretty altruistic of your teen. I think that if the kid refuses to do chores around the house, then perhaps making them pay rent (perhaps more than what your kid voluntarily pays) is a good idea. But if you've got a kid under 18, whom you're legally responsible for anyway, who's making good grades, does there share around the house, works at a job--Hey even if they are 18 (a high school senior)then they shouldn't be expected to pay. Instead encourage them to save, reminding them of what they got coming....
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
10 May 07
This summer she is saving for a trip and her driving lessons. Next year she'll be saving for her course after high school. She won't actually be paying room & board until she is done high school at 19.
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• United States
10 May 07
I guess it good for her to pay rent, so she learns the value of money, but I personally don't agree with teenagers paying rent while they are still in high school. If they graduate and are still at home and not going to college, then I agree, make them pay!
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10 May 07
It's not really a question of SHOULD they pay (as a general rule), it is a WOULD you charge. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter to the world at large, it just depend on what you and your family is comfortable with. Is there a right or wrong answer to this question? No. If you daughter is earning, she might want to contribute, knowing that if she moved out she would be paying many times more than any figure a mother would accept. Again, this is a family issue.
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@34momma (13920)
• United States
11 May 07
i am so into that. my son is 17 and he has been giving me $20 a week for the last year. i take it and put it into his graduation fund. he graduates next month. once he does, he will have to give me $100 a month. $50 will go into his savings account that i started for him and he will get that money when he is 21. there is not such thing as a free ride. i think that it is fine to make them pay their way. it teaches them to be responsible.
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
11 May 07
That's great!
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@34momma (13920)
• United States
11 May 07
i think so. it works for us. and this way when he is 21 he has some get out money! LOL
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@cher913 (25900)
• Canada
11 May 07
absolutely! i dont see a problem with this and feel also that this is a great way to get them ready for the big bad world lol...life has responsibilities and eating and paying for other things... our oldest daughter is turning 14 on sunday and she has gotten quite a bit of money...and because she texted her friends (at 15 cents per text and after we told her not to) she is giving us some of her birthday money...ya wanna play, ya gotta pay :-)
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
12 May 07
Absolutely! Good for you!
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@Marie2473 (8524)
• Sweden
11 May 07
I for once paid when I worked and still lived at home and it did help me to prepare for living on my own. I also think that it is something that should be done out of respect. I mean - if u get paid, why should your parensts still support u with everything?
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
11 May 07
I moved in with my mother when I was 19. I helped out by buying groceries and such. I had been out on my own for a year and I knew what it was like. I moved back out after living back at home for six months. I got married the following year, then got pregnant and my husband and I moved in with my mom for a couple of months. We both paid her rent. I was almost 21 at the time and my husband was about to turn 19. We then moved out got our own place and circumstances changed for my mom and she moved in with us and paid us rent. My mom lived us for 2 1/2 years. I could not have just lived at home and not of helped out.
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@socorban (651)
• United States
11 May 07
I would have to say when they are legaly an adult would that be a good idea unless they offer to help prior. Since technically they dont have a choice as a minor of living at home or not unless consented by the parents anyway. I started paying my parents for room and board at 17 slightly, but when i hit 18 i payed them a fair amount for room board and food by my own choice. They never asked once i simply insisted in all fairness. Unless they are in college they friggin better be payin up if they hit like 20 and still are bummin it at home in my opinion anywho.
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
11 May 07
I agree on that last part. If they are over 20 and still living at home they should pay something. lol
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@fpd1955 (2075)
• United States
11 May 07
I started paying $200.00 a month "rent" to my Mom when I turned 18. I lived at home until I was 24. It was a bargain, considering I didn't have to pay all my own bills. I just paid for my car and the insurance to go with it. I think it's the right thing to do. I didn't volunteer to do this, Mom set the price. I think it taught me a bit about paying my own way. It was a good lesson to learn. PEACE
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
11 May 07
Thanks, I'm glad that it taught you. :)
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
10 May 07
I waited till my children were 18 before I started charging them rent. I thought it was best wait until they were adults. I charged my son $75 a week. But this included food etc included. he didn't need to buy his own food. Now that he's living outside the home I think he knows how cheap $300 a month was considering all the benefits. Like water, heat, food, etc etc. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
10 May 07
I think that 18 is a good age and $300 was very reasonable.
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• United States
11 May 07
I never paid rent because I cleaned up after everyone is the house all of the time. I never had to pay rent because I did all of the work around the house.
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@mada9898 (193)
• United States
11 May 07
I think they should pay rent at 18. I also think they should work during high school. Not everyday but enough to pay for clothes, food etc. This will help them when they go to college.
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• United States
11 May 07
I'd start charging the kids rent when they graduate high school and they weren't going to college. If they are going to college I would make sure they are working and then saving their money for while they are at school. I only lived at home six months after I graduated high school but I didn't have to pay any rent during that time, although I would have if they had asked.
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@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
11 May 07
I don't think so, but that's just my opinion. I stayed at home with my parents during various times of my teenage life, and they paid for everything and although I offered money for food and what not they always refused. I feel so appreciative for that and plan to do the same for my kids, although if they offered it would be nice but I would turn them down and have them spend their money on them.
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• Canada
11 May 07
I have the rule if you are going to school no room or board is needed and will help out with money if needed. If not going to school or savign for school rent is due the first of the month.
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
11 May 07
Good rules to have.
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• Canada
11 May 07
Yup i work too hard to support any more bums and besides if they are goign to school it is harder than a full time job.
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• United States
11 May 07
No because they didn't ask to be born,you chose to have them. My mother did us the same way when my brothers and I lived at home and she got 100.00 every two weeks from me and my youngest brother and my oldest brother paid her 100.00 every week ,so after she had her sinus surgery she decided that she would stop working because we supplemented her income. she became dependant and didn't want us to leave,well i got tired of pay money and having a tweleve o clock curfew at the age of 21 and washing grownups clothes and cooking everyday so I moved out and she got mad because at the time my husband was my fiance and she said it was wrong,but anyway i left and then my younger brother moved out then the oldest moved out and they lost the house because she still didn't go back to work. My point is no!
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
11 May 07
You're right I chose to have them, but what does that have to do with teens helping out financially? Should a 35 year old still be living at home sponging off his parents because his mom chose to have him? lol
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• United States
12 May 07
no now thats crazy! Lol ,if they're that old then yes they should pay rent and some of the bills.:)
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@Michele21 (3097)
• United States
11 May 07
I think it is great that your dughter helps out!! I would say once they are out of high school they should start helping out. I paid rent to my parents when I moved back in with them after my divorce and it helped me to be responsible, I didn't mind at all either!!
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
22 May 07
She wants to help out.
• United States
12 May 07
Swtrose, this is actually a new concept to me. I had never heard of having your own children pay you room and board before, but I find myself rather liking the idea/concept of it. It would be a good learning lesson for a lot of different things that they will face once they leave home for good. I think it is a good idea to instill in your children they idea of helping out around the house when they are old enough to do so. I will have to remember this when my children get older and start working. As I am sure they will be. lol
@YoungInLove (1255)
• Canada
11 May 07
I dont think its a good idea, not at that age. Depends how well your daughter is doing at work. I dont personally make enough to be able to afford to pay that much, not to mention saving up for school and stuff. But I believe if a child is still living with the parents after they graduated college then they MUST pay. Im kind of on the fence whether they should pay rent during college, since they will be very strapped for cash with having to pay for tuition. I dont think parents should MAKE their kids pay unless they are under 20, unless the child offers.
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@deebomb (15348)
• United States
11 May 07
I think it depends on a number of things. First are they still in high school or college, how much are they making. If they are still in high school Instead of paying rent they could be paying all those high school deexpences. ie. year books school trips, parking fees, school fees, and so on and so forth. They should also be doing house hold chores as long as they live at home. They will have to when they are out on there own.