Should Stay At Home Dad's Get A Card Of Appreciation On Mother's Day?

United States
May 11, 2007 11:08am CST
I personally think they should. Not necessarily a mother's day card but just a card of appreciation. You know one that says it is appreciated all the things they do to keep the home front going. It is a lot of work to stay at home as women all over already know. But the fathers are finding out by staying at home and this is now a common thing. I send my son a appreciation card for keeping everything great and taking such good care of my grandkids. The first one I sent him he told me he opened it up and read it and thought to himself how cool it was to get that kind of a card. So what do you all think? Also if you would give a reason why you think so.
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@gberlin (3836)
11 May 07
I think mother's day should just be for mothers. On father's day is when kids and others can show their appreciation for all the things that fathers do. I don't think it is a good idea to mix the two unless we celebrate parent's day.
• United States
11 May 07
Thanks for your response gberlin. I appreciate your thoughts. As usual I gave you a positive rating.
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@gberlin (3836)
14 May 07
Thank you. I have always given positive ratings. I have never responded to those that have negative discussions or responses. because usually they have already made up their minds on an issue.
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@gabs8513 (48764)
• United Kingdom
11 May 07
Yes Sunshine I totally agree with you there As you say it is hard work and they deserve it as long as they do the Job I bet your Son was happy over that as he felt appreciated
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• United States
11 May 07
Hmmmm gabs I was beginning to think that I had put the wrong discussion up here. I didn't think it would be such a big deal. I am not saying this in anger or irritation or in rudeness. It just took me by surprise the responses I have gotten. I was not meaning to take away from Mother's Day. That is a special day and the mother is the one who gave birth to the child. I have always done this for my son and he enjoys getting the card. I also give his wife a mother's day card. They both deserve cards. I don't down the other responses because they have a right to their opinion and that is what this site is all about. Thanks again gabs. You brightened up my day.
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@gabs8513 (48764)
• United Kingdom
11 May 07
Well Sunshine I do understand what the others are saying but the Mother can get a card to on Father Day you just stick to what you are doing Sweetie I agree with you on this it is a nice thing to do and thoughtful Hugs
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• United States
11 May 07
Do stay at home moms get a card on Father's Day? Not saying dads shouldn't be appreciated for their hard work (both stay at home dads and the rest), but not on Mother's Day. Although I do feel dads deserve more than they get on Father's Day. Seems Mother's Day is a much bigger deal than Father's Day. Come on people support our dads!
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• United States
11 May 07
Only if working moms are getting a card on Father's Day too...
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• United States
12 May 07
That's nice and all, but working moms get little to no credit the way it is. ...so, if housedads get honored on mothers day, then officemoms get honored on fathers day. There's enough double standards in the world already.
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@miamilady (4924)
• United States
20 May 07
I think he should get his card on Father's day. I also think people should appreciate him on a daily basis just as they should with stay at home mom's.
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@jerryn (818)
• United States
12 May 07
I see no harm in honoring a stay at home Dad. It's always a good feeling to be appreciated. I also think single moms should be appreciated for all that they do as well.
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@chaime (1153)
• Philippines
12 May 07
nah.. even if they stay at home, they are still daddies and not mommies. Mommies should be appreciated on Mother's Day and Daddies on Father's Day. Regardless of what they do, stay at home dad, or working fathers, stay at home mommies or working mothers, even single parents, mom or dad striving to keep their families. All have a job to do sometimes roles are reversed but that doesn't make the daddy a mommy or the mommy a daddy. So I don't think that a card should be given to a daddy on mother's day. we can do that on father's day.
• United States
12 May 07
The only time I think a father should receive a Mother's Day card is if he is a single father raising children on his own. Before I met my hubby I was a single mom and my kids would get me cards for both Mother's Day and Father's Day. We have different days to celebrate each one seperately, just like we have Grandparents Day. Would you send your child a Grandparent's Day card before they were a grandparent? Don't get me wrong, I think it is great that you acknowledge your appreciation to your son for taking care of his children and the house but I think that can be done on any day, Mother's Day is special, a day just for the the person that labored to bring you into the world. Happy Mother's Day to all moms out there!
@wahmoftwo (1298)
• United States
12 May 07
I think you should wait until Father's day. He isn't a Mom, He is a Dad. Of course, you could give him an appreciation card anytime. I wouldn't do it on Mother's day though. That is more of a women's day in my opinion. :)
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• United States
12 May 07
no, father is father,not mother. in fact father day is in June
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@mssnow (9495)
• United States
12 May 07
I dunno seems like if you did that you would have to be all the working moms a card on fathers day. Guess it would all even out if you did that. But i think that is only fair. dont you?
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@jlara_gtr34 (3492)
• Philippines
12 May 07
yes, i think its sweet for a stay-at-home dad to get a letter or card of appreciation on mothers day because come to think of it, they work like mothers at home too. :)
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@wachit14 (3601)
• United States
12 May 07
Absolutely not! I think it's wonderful that dads would choose to stay home to raise kids, but they are still dads, not moms and they have their own special day coming up in June. Besides most of those dads have wives who work outside the home, but they are still moms and no one should take away from their special day. It's hard enough being a mom, but having to work full-time makes it that much harder.
@ElicBxn (60762)
• United States
12 May 07
There is a Father's Day that you could commemorate him on that day. I grew up in a very traditional home. Mom didn't work, Dad went to work. Mom had food on the table just about as soon as he came home, the 3 of us kids were at the dinner table. Mom made a big Sunday dinner at noonish, did the big holiday meals on the holidays - & Dad took us out on Mom's day. But went out without the kids on the Anniversery & her birthday.
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• United States
12 May 07
Yes, stay at home Dad's is becoming more of a trend with woman earning more. I don't agree with Dad's getting appreciation cards on Mothers Day. That is what Fathers Day is for. Mothers Day was intended for females and Fathers Day was intended for males. The same sentiment that you wish to convey to your son can be adequately done on Fathers Day. Again, with both sexes working, the roles that were defined in the 50 & 60's no longer exist. It is no uncommon for the Fathers to cook dinner because they are home first, or for the Mom's to be coaching football. The gender based roles are deminishing, but Mothers Day is for the Mom and Fathers Day for the Dad.... period!
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
12 May 07
I don't think that fathers should be celebrated on Mother's day after all it is Mother's Day. Fathers may be taking the place of mothers in some situations but it is still Mother's day. Father have a day too and it is in June. Now if there wasn't a Father's day I would say yes. But at the same time I would support your wanting to celebrat what your son is doing and that is fine.
@pumpkinjam (5768)
• United Kingdom
20 May 07
I don't think they should. I agree with a couple of other posts. Fathers Day is for fathers, Mothers Day is for mothers, you don't change what you are just because you don't have the traditional role. In my opinion, every good parent should be appreciated every day and, personally, if I had the choice, I would prefer the kids to do something extra special on my birthday rather than mothers day and I think their dad would feel the same as regards fathers day.
• United States
20 May 07
I think they should get some kind of card for taking such good care of the kids.I have seen a rise in stay at home dads and I think it's great.it shouldn't be the woman all the time
@tad1fan (3373)
• Canada
17 May 07
Stay at home dad's and single dad's should get a card.they are just like a mom