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@dawnrm69 (1174)
United States
May 12, 2007 3:09pm CST
Here is a story I read in a little paper here and I wanted to share it and see what you think about this. An elementarty school in wales banned pupils from making mothers day cards to avoid upsetting the more than 5 percent that do not have mothers accoring to hellen starkey head teacher of the 357 pupil johnston primary school in carmethin In all our dealing with thase children we have to excerise great sensitivity.
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• United States
12 May 07
What's wrong with that? one of my close friends lost his mother when he was born, he doesn't show that he's upset on mothers day but I'm sure he is. If that many of the kids in the school are missing their mothers then what is wrong with not making mothers day cards in the class? they can make them at home if they really want too.
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@dawnrm69 (1174)
• United States
12 May 07
Tru but what about if they have a grandmother or an aunt they could make it for them insted to show them thanks. I do not know of many schools that even do this anymore for they are into giving the kids all this work to do even when they are to on a break
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@Mickie30 (2633)
12 May 07
I do not agree with this there are people who have got mums who want to make cards for them. I can see there thinking, but why not seperate the kids who have not got mums and have them doing something else like watching a movie or doing something fun like going out that way they get a treat. Alternatively these kids could make cards for the teachers or people who look after them.
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@dawnrm69 (1174)
• United States
12 May 07
Thank you I totally agrre withoyu on this one! some of them have a grandmother or an aunt that is taking care of them and they would want to make somethiing for them. Have a goo one
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
12 May 07
That's sad and havent heard about this before but to me why don't they make a card for whom the care about such as grandparents, aunts,foster parents or who ever it may be. I know one of my daughter's friend had lost her mother and yet she made a card for her mom and took it to the graveyard and laid it there I know that everybody is different but this child has always done this on mother's day and her mom's Birthdays.
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@taymouse (585)
• United States
12 May 07
I don't think that's fair. If a kid wants to make their mom a card for Mothers Day, for Pete's sake they should be allowed to and no one can stop them! True, the kids who don't have moms may be disappointed and feel a little sad, but they'd have to get over it. No two people are blessed the exact same way, and everyone has SOMETHING that someone else might not. It's not possible that two people can always be granted with the exact same thing. It's like not being allowed to mention a Christmas tree because people get offended. It's a fact of life that everyone is different, has different things, and different beliefs. That shouldn't stop the others that believe differently. People just need to get used to the fact. It's not that I don't feel bad for the children who are motherless, but that shouldn't get in the way of other kids. And you can't go around moping your whole life anyway.
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@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
13 May 07
Well that is kind of harsh to say. They can just get over it? They are kids for pete's sake. Although I don't think they should ban the other kids from making a card for their mothers, but they shouldn't just forget about the other kids. They should also let the other kids without a mom make a card just like the others, but maybe they can make a card for someome else.
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@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
12 May 07
Usually a school should know more about their students and should know who doesn't or who does have a mother in their life. My daughters school does two different projects, one for the kids with a mother and then another for the ones without a mother. SO everyone is special. I don't think it should be banned, but I think the school should put more effort in things and try to work something out both ways.
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• United States
13 May 07
I think that in the UK Mother's day is basically for the Mom and not the caregiver as has been stretched in the US. In the US it is not uncommon to see cards with, you are like a mother to me on them. I don't know how special kids would feel to be pulled out of class to do what?
@xfahctor (14126)
• Lancaster, New Hampshire
13 May 07
Yes, it is a sad trend. It falls right into line with the banning of christmas to avoid offending non christians. It goes along with removing pork from school menus to avoid offending muslums. It goes hand and hand with a very sad state of political correctness. I wonder how long it will be before we start banning the winning of sport games at school out of fear of making the losing team feel bad. News flash to the world: Life is unfair, things are going to offend us, people arent always so nice, the world will expect ALOT out of you long before you ever start to feel good about yourself. So to the people out there just sitting in wait like a vulture for someone to come along and offend you, GET OVER YOUR SAD SELVES.
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• Pakistan
13 May 07
Sounds strange to me. If it was so sensitive case, We did not have "Mothers Day" celebrated at all. Because It would have upset many other people who did not have mothers alive or with them for manifest reasons and what was the point it banning this at school, kids could do it at home if they wanted to. In my humble opinion, Head teacher should not have banned it at all as it would have upset the more kids than those who were without mothers.
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• United States
12 May 07
I can understand about not upsetting the other children that don't have mother's, but I don't think they should restrict the other children from making things for their mom. What about the children that don't have fathers are they gonna restrict children from making things for their dads, just cause someone may not have one? I spent the rest of my childhood, and teen years without a dad, it never effected me any when other children were making things for their dads. Those days were put in place to honor your parents. Of course one should always honor their parents, but these are particularly special days.
@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
13 May 07
We had a situation happen at church one year, the children were singing on Mother's Day and after they were done the choir director ask them all to go and give their mother's a hug. One little girl burst into tears as her mother had passed away. It was a heartbreaking moment. We all need to be sensitive to what others are going thru.
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@psyche49f (2512)
• Philippines
13 May 07
That's being pupil sensitive...what the teacher did was correct because while making cards to greet their mothers, the pupils who don't have mothers will be discriminated upon, and will feel more insecure. I am glad that this is being emphasized by Ms. Hellen Starkey, and eliminate whatever unpleasant effect of being motherless brings to the 5 percent pupils in their school.
@mameiha69 (157)
• Philippines
13 May 07
i pity those children who don't have mothers. the others are lucky to have moms with them. maybethe school should be very more extrasensitive to the needs and feelings of the children
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• Canada
13 May 07
when I was a child, I faced the same thing. While sitting doing nothing as the others made cards for thier moms, a teacher realizing that I was raised by a single father got me to make a card to present to him. This not only made me feel better it also taught me to appreciate the things I did have and not sit there feeling sorry for myself
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@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
13 May 07
Okay it might be being sensitive but more likely to be overly sensitive in my book. Every child has a mother because they don't just appear here on this earth. Every child will have someone who fills that mother figure .. this is about mothers in whatever form they take. My daughters have a mother and a step-mother so when they were at school .. they made 2 cards, one for each of them. That is the way it went. When my nephew went to school he had both parents .. but he also had a couple of grandmothers plus numerous other "grandfriends". These were elderly women who did not have their own grandchildren living in close proximity. They went to everything for him .. so he would make them a card too. Why should this school in Wales be any different? The majority of children will have a mother figure in their life, someone who is important to them; the person who gives them hugs; wipes their tears away and so on. Sensitivity by all means but what they are doing really is highlighting the fact that this 5% do not have a birth mother in their life. That is not being sensitive at all,
@mari123 (1862)
• China
13 May 07
it is perfect family that a child with parent.but unluck few of children from single family,their parent divored in early time.so we shouldconcern those children,and need help them to reduce their pressure.
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• United States
13 May 07
Is 5% a new number has the number of children gone up in the last 20 years? I think this sensitive stuff is going to far. Our children do not know how to handle anything anymore we have sheltered them from life. It is a fact of life some children do not have mothers, some children do not have fathers, and some children do not want the ones they have.
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@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
19 May 07
I can see why they are doing that and I think it is a good idea. I am not sure if it is true or not, though.
@brothertuck (1257)
• United States
13 May 07
Situations like this are always very complicated. I lost my father, I lost some of my best friends, I survived. I know the loss, I know there is pain, but at the same time, this is the real world, and people have to deal with the loss. If the others aren't allowed to create a card for their mother, does it bring back their mother? No. I am not uncaring, but they will be dealing with the loss of their mother in their own way. Is denying that others get joy from their own mother going to change things? No I think that too many in positions of some power are trying to be politically correct, and in being that way, they are stealing from the majority. People talk about the rights of the minority, but they do that by taking the rights of the majority. The TRUTH is not always POLITICALLY CORRECT.