Two wrongs don't make right - Please, quit your personal attacks

Yes I do agree there is no need for low level attacks. Also it is stooping to an immature level.

awww, but that's no fun :( haha, i jest, i jest Rose, yeah stooping to name calling and insults is pretty lame, don't get me wrong I don't back down from anyone but I often ignore people who insult me on the internet. You know how the computer makes a lot of people tougher! They get them internet muscles and spout off at the mouth when in real life they wouldn't even think about acting like that. I find it humorous and don't give them the satisfaction of a response. And then there are the trolls, the people who troll message boards purposefully instigating things.

i´ve had a few immature and mean people respond to my discussions, however I just ignore them and move on. I do not see a point at waitsing my energy at people like this, I have more important things to do!

Unfortunately, there will always be cruel people, and unfortunately it is all too easy to stoop down to their level. We just do the best we can not to succumb to the desire to fire back at them...

So true, Rose, so true. Sometimes I have a strong emotional response to something I read here, but I try very hard to make sure my posts simply make my points without insulting the person I respond to. It is challenging! One of the things I like about myLot is the level of discourse we can achieve without rancor. I have a couple of friends here that hammer my views, and I hammer 'em right back. When it's over, we're still friends, and that's the most important thing. Keeping friends by learning to disagree without being disagreeable is one of the best lessons to be learned here - and they pay us to learn it! =o) =o) =o) I almost quit myLot my first week, because the first friend I met here got absolutely savaged in a thread based on an urban legend. My friend provided references and links to the facts, but the original poster just kept calling names. The only reason I stayed was, I knew my new friend was feeling pretty hurt, and I wanted to try and give her some support so she wouldn't stop writing. Worked out well, in the long run. Great discussion! Thanks for putting an important issue in the spotlight!

I agree! I don't like the trolls or flaming either, but I guess it's a fact that with 90K people some people are going to butt heads and not do it rationally. Too bad though because who really wants to see a couple of people name call in a post? It seems so pointless to me, and your right, both people name calling are at the same level. If you could zip it and let them run their mouth without name calling back, it makes you the bigger person, easier said than done though.

i feel personal attacks show the intolerance and immature psychology of the person who resorts to them. thats very crude kind of responding to things.

I believe in "Killing them with Kindness." Many times, I have outwardly questioned why they are being so hostile. Sometimes it makes them feel stupid and they soften their tone. But some people are just naturally nasty. I've even gone so far as to inform some, that I will not respond to them. I can't see adding fuel to the fire.

I was brought up to believe that if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. The way some discussions have degenerated into slanging matches is dreadful and the personal attacks and insults are getting too much. I'm with you hun, please let's drop it now and get back to some levels of maturity

I agree that the personal attacks need to simmer down big time. This site is based on personal opinion and folks need to respect each others personal opinions and not get in a tizzy over it. I was attacked for the first time earlier over something petty and it was relatively hurtful, but unfortunately I think that is just how that person is and they don't see how what they said was hurtful. There's a lot of that.

I'm 100% behind you on this. It's okay to disagree and we could be adamant about it for we are all entitled to our own opinion. We do respect that but let's not make it personal. No name calling please. Let's report those who go beyond the boundary of ethics and professionalism!

I have always believed a personal attack results when someone knows you're right but can't understand that they are wrong. I look at is as flattery. But what do I know. Don't let it discourage you Rose.

does this happens? i guess its coz its the cyber world... i hope peace will recover... =)

Name calling is done in the heat of the moment. Most people who do this, don't even get their point across as they are too heated with emotion. The best way to respond to any kind of personal attack or insult is to walk away and cool down. Form your thoughts and then come back and post. If the other person still insists on being immature, then report or simply ignore. Don't let someone who is going to act like a child drain your energy. It really isn't worth it. Blessings

I think that the personal attacks and insults ceom from the fact that people will make a post that is personal to them. They are not expecting someone to come back and vehemently disagree. Then when that person does the post starter is NOT prepared to get flack. Whenever I create a post or place a reply that I think may be taken with offence I will always stress that I mean no offence to anyone. If I do get someone who disagrees with me, well, I'm an adult and I don't yell at them or berate them. If I feel the need to post a comment to their post I will tell them, I understand that you are entitled to your opinion, thanks for replying but I disagree. I generally don't fly off the handle and try to agitate them. I always take everything with a grain of salt, not saying that i don't appreciate people posting to my threads I really do, but you have to consider that most of these people here live quite far off from me even across the world from me. Also, you have to remember people here are from different countries and different cultures with different upbringings. I was raised in the middle of the country in Ontario Canada the idea of arranged marriages is a completely foreign concept to me. While someone in let's say.... India, it would be normal (in some cases). But I do agree with you. We need to stop these personal attacks. We are here to be a happy functioning online community not a mud slinging fightpit.

Swtrose, I completely agree with you...I am seeing an increase in the number of rude comments and insults.... While I enjoy a good discussion of differing opinions...and I am guilty of misunderstanding a discussion a time or two myself...I see no reason for anybody to get abusive to another....I usally try once again to make my point clear...then let it go.....I also, have had to apologize for my comments when I realized that they were wrong or that I had not clearly understood the actual meaning of the discussion.... Thanks, my friend, for starting this discussion, maybe a few folks will think about how their words are not really getting the message across...unless, their message was just meant to be mean then I wish that these people would find another forum to join as I do not think that any of us enjoy the enviroment that they are creating with these unneccessary comments....

erm.. yes.. i think you're right.. we just have to be more matured by dropping personal attacks and insults.. i think it's not really a good idea to do such things.... but i think there is no solution to stop such attack as there are lots of mylot member here.. and when there are lots of people.. i'm sure some might have the same opinion .. and some might have different opinion.. so i think we can't do much about it.. all we can do is to advise them to slow it down.. and take things easily.. don't quarel like there's no tomorrow.. we're here to discuss and exchange opinion.. we're not dictator right? :)

If someone Does it to Me I will Just Ignore it and it will go away and if they do not go away I would Report them. We are all supposed to be Friends on here are we not?. I have loads of Fun Talking on Mylot. But then Someone has to come in and try to Ruin it for everyone don't they. Well Have a Great Day/Night