How do you feel about your Wedding Ring

@owlwings (39614)
Cambridge, England
May 15, 2007 4:37am CST
Is your wedding ring something that you would never remove, even if a hospital asks you to remove all jewellery? If you have divorced, do you keep your wedding ring, and if you have remarried, do you wear the new ring on the same finger or on a different one? What do you feel about the significance of rings in general? Does it matter to you what finger (or thumb) you wear rings on?
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@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
15 May 07
i wouldnt remove it.. heard tt wedding n engagement ring is different... is tt true?
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@owlwings (39614)
• Cambridge, England
15 May 07
Yes, in many countries it is the custom to have a ring to indicate that one is engaged to be married and another on marriage. The engagement ring is often a more showy and delicate affair than the plain gold band that is a wedding ring. Many people wear the engagement ring as well as the wedding ring after marriage. Different countries have different customs. I suppose that, in the West, the engagement ring is a signal that the lady is 'not available'. Other cultures, maybe, have no need of that signal.
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@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
16 May 07
Thanks for explaining... I didnt know that... I just thought it was pretty weird... Because my sis have got a engagement ring and on their ROM day, it was a different ring tts why i got pretty mixed up... And blur as well... But actually i think, i would prefer to have only one ring... I mean its easier and simpler... Pretty hard to have more then one ring on ur fingers... Looks weird too right? Just my thoughts... But of coz, i think many will think otherwise... Guess im not the romantic sort... Keke...
@nannacroc (4049)
15 May 07
I sold my wedding ring in temper, not long after we were married. We're still married and he never did buy me a new ring. I don't think it makes much difference how or where you wear rings, it's what's in the heart that counts.
@owlwings (39614)
• Cambridge, England
15 May 07
A breath of common sense, as usual, Nannacroc. The heart is all!
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@dorypanda (1584)
15 May 07
I'm not married, (been happily unmarried for the past 15 years though), therefore I don't have a wedding ring, I do have an engagement ring though, I feel naked without my engagement ring and I see it as a symbol to say to other people that I'm spoken for so leave me alone. That sort of thing. I do take my ring off to go to bed, basically because the stone scratches me if I don't, but I put it on before I go out anywhere. I don't think I'd take a wedding ring off, it's a symbol of everlasting devotion to one person and I suppose I'm a bit superstisious but I think that taking a wedding ring off is bad luck. If I had one, I wouldn't ever want to take it off, I'd move it up my finger a bit to clean underneath, but that's all.
@owlwings (39614)
• Cambridge, England
15 May 07
Being happily unmarried is a far, far better thing than being unhappily married, in my opinion. Now, that prompts several other questions but what I was interested in here was the symbolism of a ring and how strong it is in many of us.
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@pumpkinjam (5782)
• United Kingdom
19 May 07
I am not married but I do have an engagement ring. I don't go out without it but I have to take it off before I go to bed otherwise it will either fall off or get too tight. I wear it on my left ring finger. I think if you are wearing a ring to symbolise betrothement (is that a word? - it is now) then it should be on the recognised finger otherwise, although it still means the same thing, people might think it was just a piece of costume jeweleery or something. I don't think you need a ring to symbolise anything but it is just a token to show how you feel inside on the outside.
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@amgine (226)
• Philippines
15 May 07
i will remove it if its necessary to do so, especially in the set up that you mentioned. nonetheless, it is very symbolic to me. although, right now, my ring is becoming harder to wear since im pregnant with our first child and had gained a lot of weight. nonetheless, i plan to shed off the lbs that i gained after i gave birth.
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@squaretile (3833)
• Singapore
7 Jun 07
well, i actually remove my rings once i get home. this is because i want to protect them partly. since i do housework i don't want the detergent to tarnish my rings. also when bathing i'm afraid that the soap might cause it to slip off. So i only put it on before i leave the house. so in a hospital i would take it off, but put it somewhere totally secure. or not wear it to the hospital at all in the first place. i wear my rings conventionally on the ring fingers. i guess it does matter cos it signifies something to the rest of the world. i find it strange that some married people have an agreement with their spouses not to wear their wedding rings. it's as if to signal that they're still young and available? i think that can be misleading. sometimes people wear rings on their wedding ring finger even though they are not married to ward off unnecessary attention. i find that quite cute too. think mostly it's effective!
• United States
9 Jun 07
I had a friend who worked as a waitress and wore a fake engagement ring to keep customers from bothering her.
• Canada
22 Jun 07
Wedding and other rings,I cannot even remember what I did with the wedding ring after divorcing my first husband...maybe pawned it? The engagement ring was lost the same say I had it appraised. I viewed that as a sure sign I was not meant to hold on to anything around that relationship. We finally said goodbye and left on reasonably amicable terms. The wedding rings my second husband and I share have rarely been removed over our sixteen year marriage because the circular shape represnets the 'wheel of life' we are committed to sharing. From my understanding of the symbolic meaning of wedding rings in North American society the circles represent completion and the endless and infinte circle of love. Again..this is simply my 'perspective' and ideas I have picked up along my discovery trails. Other rings I wear...always silver or pewter with natural stones that represent different earth energies. I have a boxful of better quality and costume rings to augment or balance whatever mood I am in. I wear a variety of rings on my right hand with up to three at a time. I only wear my wedding and engagement rings on my left hand. They are enough of a statement and are daily reminders of the the joy and contentment I feel within the 'circle of our love.'
@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I have been married only six years. I use to never remove my ring unless there was no other chose like surgery and the moment i was done it had better be right there for me to put right back on. My hubby on the other hand in his job couldnt wear one one day it got snaged on a machine part and almost ripped his finger off and then when he changed jobs he did wear it for a little while and decided not to at one point. But through the years I have gained weight and had to keep going up sizes in my rings, till i was acually wearing my hubbys ring instead of my own and now i seem to be swelling bad and have a lot of water retention that ring doesnt fit so i am without a ring. lately it doesnt bother me either because of marrital problems but i would still wear one anyway if i had one to fit.
• United States
9 Jun 07
I wear my ring almost all the time, to the point that I have a tan-line and indentation when I take it off. I take it off occasionally, like when I'm working out because it gets uncomfortable, also I study industrial technology so in a lot of situations it is unsafe for me to wear. I like having them, and I would be sad to lose them, but I don't think anything of taking them off on occasion. Though I do feel strange without them.
@bushra_8 (44)
• India
6 Jun 07
My wedding ring is part of my body...I would never remove it for any matter..even if it would take my life... Wedding ring is the symbol of Husband n wife Union, Allmighty being the witness..it means the world for me.. I feel myself being with the ring..being complete...feeling my husbands love n care..it makes me feel secure surrounded by luve n luve.. Every time i c it..i recollect my wedding...the speech of the priest... The happiest day of my life MashaAllah.. Being a muslim...religion wise v snt give importance to amterialistic things.. But Things given by my Best half is life..:))
• United States
5 Jun 07
My ring is just a ring to me. I kind of see it as a symbol but I'm not super big on symbols. More important to me is how my husband treats me. Neither of us wears our ring. I don't have a gold band. We couldn't afford 2 of them when we got married. I never wore my engagement ring until we were married (used it in the ceremony). Now I'm not sure where it is, lol. I'd have to look in my usual places. It really doesn't fit and I find it uncomfortable and being a diamond it catches on everything (even though it is only a 5th carat). My husband only wears his band occasionally. He can't wear it at work because he has almost lost it a few times. I have no clue where it is either. Sometimes I wear his. It fits me perfectly but it is too wide to be a woman's band so looks silly on me but I still wear it occasionally. I keep hinting that I would like a gold band that matches his for our anniversary but he doesn't get it. We've only been married 7 1/2 years now, lol.
@sammantha (278)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I have been on all ends I did removed my first wedding rings and sold them after i got my divorced from my ex.Now that I am remarried I hate it when the hospitals asked you to remove all jewellery even if it was for a little time. When I had my kids I was happy to get them off beaucse my fingers swelled up so bad.