Avoiding Internet Drama/Please Keep the PEACE
By hcromer
@hcromer (2710)
United States
May 23, 2007 12:51pm CST
Over the past week or so, every time I log on to MyLot I see a little bit of trouble brewing. People are so hateful to each other here and elsewhere, enough so that it has even started to drain over into other sites. Different people have different opinions, sure, but really, I've seen people writing Associated Content articles about being given other peoples opinion in response to sharing theirs about MyLot. If you want to be respected for YOUR opinion then you still have listen to other people's opinions. It's just the internet. We don't ever see each other and it's so easy to just attack one another.
You can't take it personally when people try to give you crap on the internet. Just let it go by. Resist the urge to get into it with someone. If you write a response to a discussion that is heated, my best advice to you is to not go back and revisit it. There's no need to get angry over some of this stuff, really, there's not.
The World Wide Web is a really giant place and I assure you that there is enough room for all of us without having to step on each others' toes (make that run a tractor over from what I've seen). So in closing kids... PLEASE PLAY NICE!
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16 responses
@elshaddai123 (3981)
• Kottayam, India
23 May 07
Here in myLot is peace and tranquility, you discuss and take you money, no hate only love.I hope everybody will
appreciate this position.
@melanie652 (2524)
• United States
23 May 07
Well thought out and well written. It's a shame people have to get so nasty sometimes. I agree nothing good comes of words written in anger. You never have to take back words you don't say.
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@KrazyKlingon (5005)
• United States
23 May 07
So far, I only saw one AC article about this, but I can't remember right now what was said on it, or who wrote it. Well - if you disagree with something, there is a right approach to wording your response. It may be a bit tougher to do, but sometimes, the best thing to do is walk away or do something else, & then go back to it with a calmer nature. Unfortunately, people take the wrong approach & don't take the time or effort to think. I do admit that I've taken this approach also.
Basically, for me, the most annoying are those blatant MyLot guideline violations, the most being copying someone else's original discussion & starting a new discussion with it. It's worth it to me to sacrifice earnings in directing respondents to the rightful discussion, & then reporting it.
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@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
23 May 07
Tis a sad thing that we all just can't get along. Indeed we all have a space on this net that is ever growing. I have not seen the stuff going on since I have been away for a few weeks. I like different opinions since it gives me a chance to learn. Other than that it is just plain interesting to see how others think etc. I agree we need to learn to play well with others in this huge online world.
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@killahclaire (3665)
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23 May 07
Well I have a feeling that is was probably my discussions that really did inspire this so I am going to speak from the heart.
I tell it how it is and if I think someone says something out of order then I let them know. No point in being outraged and not saying anything.
I genuinely do not try to be the first one to offend someone but if someone offends me then I just let it be heard.
I think it can be a bit harsh sometimes but totally justified.
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@hcromer (2710)
• United States
23 May 07
Actually, it was part of it, but I was referring to her more so even than you. She wrote another little bit about where you had sent people to her and after reading her response to you I found myself getting angry. Then I had to take a step back and think that I was getting angry about getting angry all over it.
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@killahclaire (3665)
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23 May 07
I sent people to her? No I didnt. They read the discussion and answers cos they wanted to know who is shagging who and they obviously didnt agree with her response. Some people on here are loonies.
@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
23 May 07
Excellent words of wisdom. I totally agree with you hcromer. Thanks for the post...
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@freak369 (5113)
• United States
23 May 07
There will always be trouble in the cyber sandbox, there's no way to stop it so your advice is solid - avoid it when possible. I used to post here all the time but as of late, it's just not worth my time to get frustrated when scammers and cheats get the responses and cash and I get nothing.
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
24 May 07
I agree...some ppl seem to take it as a personal attack if you don't agree with them. And some ppl do personally attack if they don't like your opinion. I tend to move along if I don't like a discussion or I if I don't agree I voice my opinion but without being rude or hateful.
It also seems that some ppl are giving out negatives if they don't like your opinion...I thought those were for if someone was rude or hateful not just for having a different outlook.
LIVE IN PEACE
@princeworthy (1909)
• United States
23 May 07
I keep hearing of people having problems on here yet I have not seen any of this with my own eyes. I do not doubt it is happening as I have had people attack me when I first started. I agree with you that we SHOULD just ignore it and let it go. However it is quite hard when it is you and your personal life under attack.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
24 May 07
I agree with what you say about not taking things personal. It is easier said than done. We just need a place to rant and if we all can have the mentality and discipline to accept that other people do not necessary have the same opinions as us, life would indeed be peaceful. But, it would be boring too, if all have the same opinion. lol.
Each and everyone of us has a loving nature in us. If we all see things with our loving nature, we will not be able to see the evils, and hence we will all "See No Evil", "Hear No Evil" and "Speak No Evil".
@terilee79720 (3621)
• United States
24 May 07
It's true hcromer, everyone certainly has an opinion. That is made very clear in many discussions and responses. When someone feels strongly about something it's certainly their right to voice their opinion.
The real problem is those who don't want to hear the opinion.
I wish we could be more honest with out opinions without having so much backlash because the opinions that I've read that might seem harsh, I agree with in many cases.
@GardenGerty (157555)
• United States
23 May 07
Very wise words for a young person, and quite the truth. I do not look for fights, I try to be nice when I disagree. I still get sarcasm that is not called for, but not often. It is easy enough to avoid. If I get a direct e-mail notification, and it is rude, there is this little button labelled "Delete" It works really well. Then I refrain from going to look at the discussion. If a person is really personally negative, then I just give them a negative, but I do not get in their face and say something confrontational. I like my friends here, and hope that they do play nice.
@goldream29 (48)
• India
24 May 07
dear h, that is possibly one of the most sesible posts in long time. feel the same as you do - was thinking the same - but guess was too lazy to get down to writing about it - keep up the good work.
