My 5 year old cries about everything.

My 5 year old Synthia Michelle. The one who cries  - My 5 year old Synthia Michelle. The one who creis alot.
United States
May 28, 2007 7:24pm CST
My little girl Synthia cries about everything. And I do mean mostly everything. I had her teacher call me in to the school one day. And naturally as mother I rushed to the school. Only to find out the her teacher wanted to talk to me about her crying. The teacher told me that she had been crying over almost nothing lately. For example she had dropped a marker on the floor and started crying. Instead of picking it up she just sat there and cried. She does this a t home also instead of just telling me what is wrong she will cry until I ask her what the problem is. I just dont understand why she does this. I need any kind of advice I can get right now. please help!
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@brokentia (10397)
• United States
29 May 07
Actually, my youngest daughter cries a lot also. Some children are just more sensitive or emotional. And even though it may seem like she is crying because she dropped her marker...there is actually something else going on there that is making her cry. Maybe her picture is not turning out how she wants it. The point is, my youngest daughter would cry over things that just seemed odd to be crying over. But the problem was...she was not communicating what was really upsetting her. She didn't know how. So I would have to start asking her questions to find out what really was upsetting her. And then point out to her that they just aren't so bad. If she doesn't like the picture, start a new one. Its ok! A lot of artists don't like it. Or point out the things that you do like and do that again. I have worked with her over the past couple of years on learning to communicate better. And even though she is still very emotional...I don't have teachers calling me to school anymore worried about her. The teachers have learned she is sensitive but she doesn't cry if she messes up all the time now...she will just try again. :) Good luck!!! It will get better with age. :D
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• United States
29 May 07
You are right I never thought of it that way.
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• United States
29 May 07
I read something about this in a book just the other day. I think it was Parent's magazine Books or something. Argh, I wish I could remember. There was a section on overly sensitive chidren. I would do a little research to see if it is something you can work on at home with the help of your pediatrician. Sometimes big things happen in a 5 year olds world that we as adults wouldn't understand. Maybe she needs someone to talk to that is a nuetral third party. But I would go with the research and talking with the doctor first.
• United States
29 May 07
Yeah I guess That will be the best thing to do right now.
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@deebomb (15348)
• United States
29 May 07
I think the first thing I would do is take you little girl to the Dr. and have anything phyical ruled out. Then take it from there.
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• United States
29 May 07
I know its not physical. Maybe mental but not physical.
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@Michele21 (3099)
• United States
29 May 07
Yeah I don't think it would be anything physical either. My daughter did that for awhile and I eventually started ignoring her because it was getting on my nerves! She is just extra sensitive but needs to get her feelings out in another way. Try to talk to her about how she feels and why she cries instead of running around or screaming, she might let you in on something she is feeling or whatever! Good luck!!
• United States
29 May 07
I will definitely have a talk with her very soon.
@vijigopi (991)
• United States
29 May 07
My 5 year old daughter keeps crying too but not for everything. I have tried asking her to tell her problems out instead of crying. But she just keeps whining instead of explaining. So, I have started calling her 'Baby' everytime she cries. She normally shouts back 'I'm not a baby. I'm a big girl'. Then I retort back saying 'only babies cry because they don't know how to talk.. if you cry instead of saying what's hurting you, I will definitely call you a baby'. At once she tries to stop crying and explain what's wrong. I've had to do it everytime she cries even now, but it's getting better and better. But from my experience, she's been a crying baby ever since her childhood. I guess this is so because I was having a very difficult time in my life when I was pregnant with her and I was crying everyday. So, I guess it's my fault that she keeps crying always, and try to be patient with her although it drives me nuts sometimes!!
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@wahmoftwo (1298)
• United States
29 May 07
If you are sure nothing is wrong, like with the marker, I would just tell her that when she stopped crying and started talking like a big girl then I would help her. With that I would ignore her. She will get the point eventually unless there is some other under lying problem. I know it's hard to leave them or even to know if there is really something wrong or not. Best wishes.
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• United States
29 May 07
My son, who is also 5, is doing that same thing right now. It is getting on my very last nerve. I try to be a carring and understandng parent, but this is over the top. He crieds when he goes to his classes at church and so they bring him back to me. I hope it is just a phase he is going through. I would like it to end soon.
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• United States
29 May 07
Yeah I hope its just a phase too.
@dalip32 (100)
• United States
29 May 07
I have a five year old who does her share of crying and I have found that more often than not, it is more about attention than anything else. Kids live for attention (adults too for that matter) and frustration can build in them until they just can't handle the situation anymore and the tears start flowing. The trick here is not to give your daughter too much attention when she cries or she will see this as a way to make mom notice her. Try to spend time with her on a regular basis and talk to her about what's going on during her day. I know from personal experience that when I don't take the time to read or play or just talk to my daughter, I usually spend the time dealing with a crying little girl.
• United States
29 May 07
Yeah she definitely love attention.
@toe_ster (771)
• United States
29 May 07
MAybe she could be overstimulated. You know sensory overload or something. Starting school and a new situations at this age is hard for some kids. She could be going through a phase. It could be a confidence or self esteem thing. And lastly it could be a communication thing. MAybe she hasn't figured a way to express her emotions or even know what those emotions are. When my son was in eceap/head start they taught 'Emotions' I thought this was lame in a way, but now I see its relevance. It taught them to name that feeling. You could try working on a few of these things inlieu of going to a dr. If no improvement then consult a dr. Good luck. As a parent I have had my share of experiences. I can sympathize with your worry and frustration. Good luck.
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• United States
29 May 07
I hope its just a phase.
• United States
29 May 07
My son was like that. He cried at the drop of a hat. I told him to watch the water while filling a water bed one time. He came slowly into the room and said "oh by the way mom the hose fell out of the water bed." I asked him why he now is telling me and not sooner. He started crying, I was so angry becasue of his crying. I told him to turn off the hose, he went around the house to turn off the hose screaming and crying the whole way. I was so tired of his crying I spreayed him with the hose. He stood in one spot and cried and cried. Finally he moved out of the way of the spray of water. He continued to cry most of that day. Grrrrr. I know I should have been more supportive but he use to cry at everything! There is hope for your Synthia, she will grow out of it. My son is now 26 and he does not cry like that any more. LOL. I have no advise, I kept looseing my temper because I could not stand to her my son cry all the time.
• United States
29 May 07
And Im trying really hard not to lose my temper.
@Sherry12 (2476)
• United States
29 May 07
I would try to talk to her and see if something is bothering her. She may be upset at something one of the other kids said, or it could be anything at all that is upsetting her and causing her to cry so easily.
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• United States
29 May 07
I will be having a talk with her.
• Canada
29 May 07
my 3 year old daughter does this a lot too. she has been going to a school rediness program once a week and her teacher said she would start crying every time she would tell her it was time to change activitites and do something else. she does this at home too. it drives me nuts sometimes and i try talking to her about it but i'm not getting anywhere.
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• United States
29 May 07
Well I wish you luck with this.
@usmcsgtwife (5000)
• United States
29 May 07
my daughter did this when she was about 4.. I started have mommy and daughter time where a few times a week we would do things for maybe like 30 min to an hour by ourselves, no other kids.. Like we would go on a short walk.. maybe sit down and read a book, watch a cartoon together..
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