you want my opinion or not?

This is very common. many people ask for other opinions, but what they really want is for someone to confirm their own opinion, and when that person dont, then they do not like it =) I usually say what i think and if they do not like it - then it is up to them. i will not lie just so they can hear what they wanna hear.

there are some people we know who will ask for our opinion because, they are at a loss for the moment as to how to deal with things. when we give them a piece of our mind, we can feel whether our thoughts are being considered or not. but still, we can never be sure if it has been fully set aside for nought. at times, when all alone, they will consider deeply the advices that had come their way from people they know and even some ideas that have just been heard somewhere somehow. so, if someone asks fo our opinion and we have something to share, let us give it.

Yes, I have been in that situation. I think eventually you get a kind of radar, as to who will be polite, and who will be rude. You know what, if I respond, and someone is rude about my response, I am going to report them as abuse, or at the very least give them a negative rating. I can respect different opinions, but rudeness does not allow for respect. I can see that you have made lots of responses, and hopefully most of them have been polite.

My brother used to call and ask me for advice constantly. I would tell him what I would think and he would start kinda arguing with me. I finally got so angry that I said to him "you call and ask for advice but you don't want advice. You want me to say what you want to hear and I won't do that." He hardly ever calls for advice anymore.

Yeah, I have, no matter how gently I tried to phrase my disagreement. There was even one discussion about a person who was irritated about giving her opinions to people that didn't want them, but she is one of the worst about dealing with dissent. That's some irony for you. Sometimes you can learn quite a bit when you ask a question here at Mylot, other times you get nothing but very generic answers. I don't mind the unexpected opinion at all, unless it is stated rudely or abusively.

Sometimes when people ask for your opinion they are really just looking for reaffirmation of their own beliefs. If your opinion is different, then they resort to badmouthing.

I realized, that mylot is the community where you have to say the best about everything, you have to agree with everybody. Sometimes I see discussions where members only sound the praises of each other. That's why I say often these friends are not real friends. In the real world, your real friends say their opinion about you and your things, whether that is good or not. And most of us avoid the "friends" who always bow, or want to hear only nice things about themselves. The mylot is only a website where you can earn a lot if you can say enough compliments and long-long comments to others. Of course there is always a little except.

mary ann ,read what you have written again.you said you say your opinion on things ,that means it could be acceptable or not then now here you are saying that who is giving an opinion of you ,you think don't deserve to be heard because it opposes to who you are.don't you think there's something wrong in that premise?

Sure I do. I've given my opinion before to have it rejected and then turn to them being picky. Yesterday I posted to an abortion discussion and had someone slate my opinion and then a sad pathetic attempt to twist what I said was made. I think these people should be told what mylot is about, discussing doesn't mean questioning someone's believes opinion. ~Joey

I must have come across similar situation before too. Like you, I would tell them that "HEY! You asked for MY opinion." :P This is just the way it is. People are this strange. :P

Hello,maryannemax,i will appreciate to all those people who reply me,luckily i have not had any ride comments to my discussions or replies. I agree with you 100%,it should be fine to have counter comments to others,but it is bad if rude words are used,those people are not really looking for other's opnions,they just want to 'win' in an argument,rude comments always try to hurt other people but are lame indeed.

I think that person is stupid enough for doing so. I mean why would you ask for someone's opinion if you're not ready to listen with their thoughts? Everyone should know that we have different point of views and we have to respect it. I have alot of experience like this before. It makes someone feel upset for the comment someone would add after disagreeing. Hopefully people would think before they speak. Better if respect would always be around.

It is happening here in mylot. I have received rude comments or those who think my discussions were not interesting. But I take it as a challenge and move on. I think you should not be worrying too much about this itsy bitsy thing. Just ignore them. They will only feel happy if they managed to get your attention.

Yes, I've been in situations like that. I find I have to base my statements on the person I am speaking to at the time - some people can handle advice or opinions more constructively than others. The key is to make sure you aren't being offensive. There are always tactful ways of saying even the most negative things. Even if an opinion is negative, it doesn't have to be hurtful.

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Yes Sweetie I have and to be honest you are best ignoring it I know it is not easy but there are People that just can't seem to take the truth Well they should not ask then if they can't take another Persons honest Answer Do not worry Sweet

I have been through this situation also many times. People will ask my opinion about something but then again they do not really want to hear a word that I say or they do not respect what I say. I try not to be judgemental to them when I give my opinion but they always take whatever I say wrong or they do not want to hear what I have to say after they have asked me my opinion. There is no need for them to be rude, I agree. They shouldn't ask if they do not want you to speak about the situation.

is this discussion related to mylot or general life???of course I lived something similar..sometimes we only want a person to agree with our opinion and we can get angry if he or she is there expressing is true opinion, that happens to be different from our!!!it is such common, my dear..I can tell you how I behave myself..when Iam living a difficult situation and I am in the middle of it, I don't talk with others because I am too easily hurt and my feelings are too deep and delicate..so I prefer avoiding everybody and being silent and trying to find the strength I need to face the problem..only when the problem is not so fresh, I can ask for opinion or speak about it without being afraid of other's words. this is something I learnt about me little by little because there was a time I asked for other's opinion or shared my life with others..but I have to admit I found that people can be so rude and I am too easily hurt in some moments..

Whenever we post here we are asking for opinion otherwise why post , now its our duty to respond wisely and carefully to the opinion and responses we get , its not a good habit to bash other simply because he/she has a different approch to life , and simply negetive grade him/her for that. I dont feel like doing that.

Yes, it seems the more you state your opinions the more you get negative feedback. I know what you're going through, we must be sharing the same boat!