Give parents a break night

@4cuteboys (4103)
United States
May 30, 2007 1:26pm CST
So on base they have a program called give parents a break nite. It's daycare once a month at night for a few hours. If you want to use it, you can pay $3 an hour, or if your spouse is deployed you can use it free. So I think great, i'll sign up, why not I can actually get my laundry done! So I go to sign up and it's this big process. Almost everyone was RUDE to me, and then they said I had to go to three different places on base to sign the kids up and it was a nightmare. So despite the rude people I decided to go ahead and sign them all up. I did and now they are set for Friday night but I dont know why its supposed to help me, if the people are being so rude. Maybe i'm just sensitive because i'm pregnant, but one lady almost made me cry. I had never done this before and she kept talking to me like I was stupid just because I was asking questions. Would you have went ahead and done this even though they were rude to you?
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@Thoroughrob (11771)
• United States
30 May 07
Is there somewhere that you can report them? There is no reason to be so rude!! I would use it. I would also make sure that my kids are being treated right. I can't understand why they would be so rude to you, they are supposed to be there to support you and it is totally uncalled for.
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@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
30 May 07
I dont know exactly who I would report it to?! I agree though, they are monitered and all at the daycares, but i'm still going to hang out and watch what goes on from the security room, they better not be rude to my kids!
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@jennysp8 (855)
• United States
30 May 07
I think I would have been upset too. I also think that it is a really good idea and you should try it out. Hopefully, you are able to communicate well enough with your kids (not knowing how old they are) and you can tell each time if they are being treated well. I hope it goes well for you! Everyone deserves a break! It's needed for parents mental health! lol
@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
30 May 07
LOL! Thanks, I cant even remember the last time I had areal break. I am thinking at least 6 months ago but probably longer, eek! My kids are 7 1/2, 5, 2, and 7 months. It's really just the little two I have to worry about, because the older two would definatly tell me!
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• United States
30 May 07
i probably would have because it IS an offer to you on base, and you should take advantage of those kinds of offers. however, i hate rude people, and if i were prego i probably would have said something back at them! plus your man was JUST deployed, don't they have a heart? this is kind of a favor for all of you, i think it's a great idea. but as a concerned parent OF COURSE you have questions. they should expect that, and if they're going to watch your kids, you need to know all details! BUT good for you for having some YOU time, even if it's laundry, take some time for yourself!
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@carlaabt (3508)
• United States
30 May 07
We considered doing that once, but decided against it once they sent us around in the circles that the military seems to like so much. We decided it wasn't worth it. We didn't feel right leaving the baby with strangers, since it was before he could talk, and they were rude to us, too, when we asked questions! Are your kids going to be all together? If they are, I think it would be a pretty good program, because your bigger boys can kind of watch out for the little ones. Your three older ones will all probably have fun playing with the other kids. And your little one might, too, when he sees his brothers having fun. :)
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@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
30 May 07
No! The 2 year old and infant will be together, the 5 year old will be in a different building than the 7 year old too, poo. I decided it would be worth a shot, ive worked at cdc for years, and I hope they'll hold the standards they are supposed to
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@toyhamarz (124)
• United States
31 May 07
I would have done it too. I would assume that the people who were being rude to you are just in chage of the paperwork and not caring for you kids. I would report it to your ombudsman and maybe she can notify the people in charge of the program about the rude people. I wish the base here had a program like that! My husband was deployed when my son was a month old and I really could have used a night of free daycare. Even if it was just to do laundry!
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@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
30 May 07
First thing is that I have a bad temper and I think I would have told them they were being rude. I also think I would have reported their behavior to who ever was incharge of the program. I think the program sounds good. We all could use a break from our kids once in a while. I have always had my family to fall back on but I would take advantage of this program if it was offered. Three dollars an hour is not bad for a sitter. I am glad that you did not let them bully you so that you did not sign up for the program. Stand your ground.
@OURDEW (4812)
• United States
30 May 07
I think since you need a break really bad and went through the channels to sign up your boy's, I would try it out. I think that it was terrible of them to be so rude to you, but that doesn't mean that they won't treat your children the right way. When your children come home from there ask them all about it. They might want to go back. I wish I could give you a break and watch your children for you.
@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
30 May 07
I really do need a break. It's been near impossible to get a shower and simple things like that. When I come home from taking them, I am going to take a bath and do laundry, how pathetic is that?!
@OURDEW (4812)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Thank you for the best response.
@deebomb (15347)
• United States
30 May 07
It's wonderful that this service is provided for you as a minitary wife. but I certenly would be reporting them for being rude. Is your husbad deployed? If He's still on the base wiith you his commanding officer would know. His wife should be able to help you too. When my son was in the service they had great family support. If Your husbad deployed they should have given you all kind of information about where to go if you have any sort of problems.
@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
30 May 07
Yeah my husband is deployed. Somehow I got left out of the loop on the info though :( I noticed a few of the wives with papers from the first sergeant the day we had to drop them off to leave, but I never got any and didn't think to speak up and ask where they got em from. Stinks :( But it is really nice they provide this, especially considering I have four kids, it's costing them more than the normal family i'm sure.
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@wahmoftwo (1298)
• United States
31 May 07
If you think the kids will be alright USE IT!!! It will help you be a better Mom the rest of the week. Best wishes.
@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
31 May 07
Yeah, I must admit I could use a break, even a really short one!
@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Ack! I can't believe they were rude to you! I would have complained that they were being rude and stated that I just wanted to sign up my kids and that's it, and I didn't want to hear any more out of any of them. I probably would have gone ahead and done it anyway, but you can bet I'd be finding out who was heading up the program so I could file a formal complaint about the rude people I had to deal with.
• United States
7 Jul 08
It is unfortunate that they were so rude. Since the CDC is under the Services Squadron, you should report the treatment to the Services commander. There is a chain of command, but luckily, civilians don't have to follow that route :). Go straight to the top, report it to their commander, and let the things roll down hill.
@Modestah (11195)
• United States
16 Jun 07
gracious, I wonder if they feel it is a handout and therefore they are resentful? why offer a service if you are going to resent doing it though. I would have to say that no, I would not leave my children there...if they are that nasty to me - how well will they treat the little guys who have no recourse? but before I left I would have made it abundantly clear why I chose not to utilize their "generosity"
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
31 May 07
How sad and bad expierence you had,really bad,if there is something to complaint about her to somewher than dont leave her it is very worst to play with ones feelings and if this would hapened with me i never would have leave her so easily and i would have showed her what iam and what her position is. Be brave things will find their solution by itself and she will deserves the same and more as time passes on her,be happy and dont think more about this. Take care.
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
31 May 07
I guess it would depend on how rude they were and how badly I wanted the break. My kids are a little older than yours so they don't really interfere with me getting chores done anymore. Sometimes, though, it is just nice to do things at your won pace without a lot of interuptions, so I might well want to use it anyway. I hope when you give it a try you have a better experience than you had with the people who signed you up. It seems as though they were making it needlessly difficult. Some people are like that when they get a little of what they perceive to be 'authority'.
@ozangel82 (754)
• Australia
31 May 07
I probably would have gotten angry with her and been rude back! i think that it is a fantastic idea to give parents a bit of time to themselves. maybe you were right adn you were a bit over sensitive that day because you are pregnant. I would have still gone ahead because when you are super pregnant you will treasure the time to yourself!
@Gemmygirl1 (2871)
• Australia
31 May 07
Nope, i wouldn't be willing to hand over any money to someone who treated me like i was an idiot for asking a few questions, i mean, they would be taking care of my daughter & i need to know she'll be looked after PROPERLY! I also don't think anyone has the right to make you feel like an idiot since you've never done anything like that before. Personally, i think i'd prefer to have someone else take my daughter for a while rather than leave her with rude people that obviously have no enthisiasm for what they are doing!
@Michele21 (3095)
• United States
31 May 07
Since you went through the whole long process to register them and everything you might as well take them and see how it goes!! If they would have upset me that much I wouldn't have finished register them or whatever. I KNOW you need a break since your hubby just left and your are pregnant so try it and see how it goes!! Hopefully your boys will love it and you can take them again next month!!
@KrisNY (7609)
• United States
31 May 07
Rude or not- Heck yes- You could use the break- I's draw a hot bubble bath- relax- read a book- go shopping- do something that you enjoy doing- Not laundry! but then again whatever makes it easier for you later- Too bad they didn't have this once a week instead of once a month! I wonder why the people were so rude! Anyways have a lot of fun whatever you choose to do on Friday- I hope it is something fun!