They laughed! What would you have done?

United States
May 31, 2007 1:37pm CST
I attended my daughter's high school graduation this past Sunday. My daughter's best friend is a rather large girl, with a brilliant mind and a heart of gold. She is approximately 5 foot 5 inches tall and probably ways around 300 pounds. During the ceremony this girl was asked to stand several times. Once for being one who was graduating with highest honors, once for being a member of the award winning chorus, and then for being in the National Honor Society. EAch time she stood, a few people sitting directly behind me snickered and laughed and made terrible comments. When my daughter's friend walked to receive her diploma from the principal they made sounds like an elephant would make. I was so thoroughly disgusted that I wanted to throw up. I didn't turn around and say any of the things that was running through my mind as I didn't want to create a scene during the ceremony. What would you have done?
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@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
31 May 07
My first thought when reading your discussion was, that i would have turned around and flipped out. I had a friend like that in school and I fought to defend her alot. But then the more I thought about it, if you would have flipped and caused a scene, it probably would have attacted everyones attention and if the girl knew it was about her she would have been terribly embarrassed. I am with you, I think it is disgusting that people would act like that ever. I probably would have walked up to them after the ceremony and said something though.
• United States
31 May 07
That's so mean. I can't believe people do stuff like that. I would have told them to stop being rude. I don't like confrontation, but I would have said something to try to get them to stop. That girl should be proud of her accomplishments and the people behind you should realize that appearance isn't everything. Ugh. That makes me angry just reading about it.
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@toe_ster (771)
• United States
31 May 07
I probably would be one to cause a scene especially if whe was my kids friend. They are not hearing all the accomplishments and commendations she has earned, instead they are focusing on her size. That is so wrong adn rude among other things. That is someones child, someones friend, a human who has feelings too. Weight can change, but what about ignorance? I would have threw a lot of this their way, along with a few unnice words. I am sorry for you to have to sit through that, but more sorry for them to be so immaturely juvenile about something like weight. With honors and things like that, she will go far, but where will those morons be?
@inked4life (4227)
• United States
31 May 07
Crazynurse, you are a way better person than me. I would have SNAPPED!! I wouldn't have been able to help myself. I would most probably have turned around and given it to them causing, I'm sure, a major scene. I'd hate to imagine what these peoples kids must be like...real charmers I'm sure.
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• Canada
31 May 07
i can't stand people like that. i definately would of turned around to glare at them to see if it would make them stop. and knowing me i'd say something but nothing loud enough to cause a scene. after the ceremony when people were just started to walk out i'd probably say some more words to them before they could run away. i think people like that are so rude and there is no need to make fun of anyone for anything.
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@mizrae (587)
• United States
31 May 07
I would have turned around and quietly said something. I might have asked if they were jealous of her accomplishments as that might be the only reason for such rude behavior.
@webeishere (36353)
• United States
31 May 07
Wait a second now. You didn't want to create a scene so you didn't voice your feelings? Well didn't those people create a scene? Weren't they also voicing their feelings? I would have said something for sure. I probably would have been kicked out too. Hahahaha!! I think this action was way beyond being rude. Those people are sick individuals in my eyes. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@lisado (1230)
• United States
31 May 07
I'm afraid that I'm not as composed as you are. I'd have turned around and ripped them in half before I even had a chance to think about it. Being overweight myself, I know what it's like to be made fun of and laughed at. I can't imagine how she felt (hurt, embarrassed) if she heard what they said. It hurts when people do that. There is no way I could have kept my mouth shut. I tend to speak first and think later, though, which isn't always a good thing.
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@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
31 May 07
It would have been very difficult to not turn around an slap one of them silly. Or, at least say something to them. I think your daughter's best friend will have the last laugh when she goes out into the world and finds something to do that takes advantage of her talents. She sounds like a person who has what it takes to make a difference. If she is going to college, I will bet that she does exceptionally well. That is all that really matters and not some snide remarks from the peanuts in the peanut gallery.
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@Modestah (11192)
• United States
1 Jun 07
I would have given them a piece of my mind, and a lecture on common courtesy...then I would have found someone to escort their rudeness out of the building. they were invited guests - to act like that is uncalled for an unacceptable.
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@villageanne (8554)
• United States
1 Jun 07
That group of people sitting behind you had no character at all. I get upset when it comes to making fun of others. I am always on the side of the person who is getting made fun of. That is just the way I am. I think that making fun of someone else is uncalled for and just plain sad. I know how I would react in this case. I have done it before. I would cheer or clap loudly and turn around and make eye contact with the sad excuse of a person behind me and let them know by my eyes that it was unacceptable.
@MJLami (1173)
• United States
31 May 07
I probably would not have done anything at the time, not wanting to take away from her accomplishments. But if given the chance after the cermemony I probably would have bluntly admonished them for carrying on and being too busy looking at her to listen to all the great accomplshments she had achieved. Now we know why kids are so mean - they got it at home!
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@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
31 May 07
That's really disgusting!! That poor girl! I think I would've turned around and given them 'the look.' And if that failed, I would have probably added 'how rude!' I wouldn't have created a scene, or made noise, but I sure would have let my disapproval known. What a sad commentary on our youth today!
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@jillhill (37384)
• United States
31 May 07
Who me? I would have said something. I think rudeness should be addresses in one way or another. How close were you to them? Too bad they were sitting ahead of you so you could have accidently cuffed them in the back of the head.
• United States
31 May 07
First off, may I say congratulations to your daughter. And may she go on and do well in all she chooses. Second off, that is horrible what you discribed. If they were kids, I would have turned around and given them a look. If they were adults, I would have said something like they should be ashamed of themselves to act to immature and set such a poor example of a human to their kids.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
31 May 07
Were the people behind you children or adults? If it were me, I would probably have just turned around and given them a dirty look, but not said anything. This was your daughter's graduation and I am sure that you were proud of her and her best friend. But the jerks behind you took away from this proud moment by being rude. Some people, even adults, do things like this because they are jealous. They have to find something to make fun of and this was all that they had. I wouldn't waste to much time thinking about people like that, because what goes around comes around. The perfect example, my older sister has six children. The two oldest ones are girls. When the older girl was growing up, she had problems with her weight and the younger made fun of her all the time and I would get so mad. Now that they are older, things have switched and the older one has the figure of a model and the younger is over-weight. When I remind the younger one what she use to do, she just shrugs her shoulders and says that she does not care, but I know that she cares. That's why you have to be careful how you treat people.
@jazgottt (1181)
• Poland
31 May 07
I think their behaviour was terrible:/ They could be simply jealous as mizrae said. Or they are really not smart people without imagination:( I think you was right that you didn't create a scene. It could be good to talk something to them after ceremony, if there was a chance to do it.
@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
31 May 07
I can't think of anything more rude and ignorant. Making fun of a young girl is disgusting. This was perhaps the best moment of this girls life, and it will be permanently blemished by this. People think stuff like this doesn't hurt you, but, it does, and stays with you forever. If the people were sitting close to me I probably would have said something, but, if they were far away, I wouldn't want to cause more commotion. I feel very bad for that girl.
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@RenaeT (688)
• United States
31 May 07
Oh that is horrible!! I probably wouldn't have said anything either, but maybe I would have turned and sort of given them 'the look' . . . but I hate conflict, so I'm not sure what I'd do unless I was there.
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• United States
31 May 07
I would have said something after the ceremony was over. I know it gets noisy afterwards. I would have let them have it. I can't believe that there were being so rude on such a big day for this girl.
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